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He insists on keeping letters from ex's

Q.   I recently found out that my bf still keeps letters from his exes. It makes me uncomfortable because I throw away things my exes give me. Of course I understand that perhaps some people are more sentimental. Yet the irony in this is that he claim...

A.   7 September 2014: I don't believe in keeping letters and photos of exes in the house for your current partner to see. It makes them feel threatened as long as the ex is alive. If an ex bought you a dress , you can continue wearing it without telling your new mate ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has baby mama drama and I'm being pushed aside

Q.   I am dealing with some baby momma drama. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half. We really love each other and talk about a future together. We are both professionals....im a resident physician and he in school to ...

A.   22 July 2014: "She can't know about me. He claims that if she finds out he is in a relationship she won't let him see his child. I'm not allowed to meet his child, I haven't met his family, and I can't associate with anybody that knows her or may provide a route ... (read in full...)

Will I ever get past the fact that she had so many partners before me?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for a couple of months now after being friends for around a year. She's a really nice girl and couldn't do more for me, however I don't seem to be able to get over the fact she has such a large backlog of ex-partners. ...

A.   18 July 2014: Have a heart-to-heart chat with her about your feelings, especially her poor sexual response. Does she look sober or confident when talking about her 29 exes? Tell her you don't feel comfortable about her mentioning them. If ,in spite of this, you ... (read in full...)

He ignored my facebook request and now is staring at me at work. Awkward! What's going on?

Q.   Hi everyone! I'm in an embarrassing situation! I recently started at a new job 5 weeks ago. Everybody's lovely but there are a large amount of staff that rotate, so you can often go weeks without working with certain members. Anyway I'm tryin...

A.   16 July 2014: He certainly read more meaning into your friend request than you intended. Maybe he thought you fancied him or his girlfriend is the jealous type. If I were you, I would cancel the friend request and act as if nothing happened. If he has a change ... (read in full...)

Is it right for my boyfriend to give his phone number to other women?

Q.   I've never considered myself to be the jealous type but lately I've been getting upset about my boyfriend giving his number out to other women. This situation started about 6 months ago when I found out that he ran into an old ex girlfriend one d...

A.   11 July 2014: Carefully find out the type of friendship he has with these other women before jumping to conclusions. You can spy on his calls and texts without his knowledge. You can check his contacts list to see whether other numbers (apart from yours) are ... (read in full...)

Why does he want pictures of me if he isn't going to save them?

Q.   My friend and i started out as just co-workers and then started talking more and eventually things led to where we started talking about him taking my virginity and he would ask me for private or "personal" pictures and I was hesitant at first ...

A.   30 June 2014: Who told you he won't save them because he has a girlfriend? He won't save them on his phone but he can always upload them into an email account she doesn't know about. If things go wrong between you,he can always leak those pics. Stop being a ... (read in full...)

My best friend showed me a picture of my boyfriend kissing another girl and he had the audacity to tell me I betrayed this relationship because I choose this "other source" over him!

Q.   My best friend showed me a picture of my boyfriend kissing another girl. When I confronted my boyfriend he demanded who had told me. I ever gave him the name. He then told me I betrayed this relationship because I choose this "other source" over ...

A.   27 June 2014: You shouldn't have brought your friend into the matter. The photo was enough evidence anyway so you didn't have to disclose your source. You have gotten your friend into your ex's bad books. I am sure she won't expose anything to you again. Don't ... (read in full...)

How long until I can add him back as a friend on FB?

Q.   I got rejected by a guy a couple of weeks ago who I thought I really liked and I deleted him off facebook straight away. We haven't spoken since then and I've had time to realise now that I don't want him romantically, but I do want to be friends in ...

A.   21 June 2014: Why are you so keen on adding him back? Since he rejected your overtures,what if he blocks you or rejects your friend request? Even if he accepts you,will you be able to cope when romantic photos of him and another girl appear on your wall? Don't ... (read in full...)

I broke up with him because of my insecurities

Q.   My boyfriend got a facebook a few months ago, and usually I don't think anything of facebook. He's hardly on it, to be honest. But recently, he added his ex-girlfriend. It made my heart drop when I saw it. It actually made me very uncomfortable be...

A.   21 June 2014: Thank God you knew his real nature before marriage. Doesn't the ex have relatives,other friends,counsellors,etc to help her with her emotional problems? Anyway,thank God he exposed himself by adding her on Facebook. What if he had signed up for ... (read in full...)

Why don't people put their relationship status on facebook?

Q.   What is the reason people don't put their relationship status on facebook? I've noticed some people don't when it's obvious they have a girlfriend because of their pics and statuses. ...

A.   19 June 2014: Because: 1. they are not yet sure it will lead to marriage. 2. They don't want to be "single" today, "in a relationship" tomorrow, "complicated" the next day,etc. 3. They still want to explore other options. After all, they can refer to their bf/gf ... (read in full...)

Pregnant from a fling -- how do I tell him?

Q.   I feel like I just made a huge mistake and I'm about to pay for it forever. I don't need any judgey comments, I just need guidance. Please, help me! I met a slightly older, thankfully SINGLE man two months ago and got pregnant by him after just one ...

A.   4 June 2014: Why not tell him and see how he reacts? After all,you are still seeing each other. The longer you delay telling him,the higher his chances of denying paternity. He would think you told him late after all the other "suspects" had denied ... (read in full...)

Is he seeing someone else where he lives?

Q.   Ive been told by his mates that hes seeing somone else where he lives. Ive confronted him about it and all he says is no im not I was even told her name which I looked on fb and it says shes in a new relationship, he doesnt have a fb pg so I cant ...

A.   10 May 2014: Don't be a nag by continuing to ask him. Since he doesn't have a Facebook page,add the suspected other woman as a friend or follow her in order to see the photos she posts on Facebook. If they are really dating,you will soon see romantic photos ... (read in full...)

His ex is still in the way!

Q.   Hello, i´ve been dating my BF for almost three years. And his ex is still in the way. I mean, they stayed friends after the break up, but my bf lives in another city than her, so they chat on fb from time to time..I don´t live with my bf yet, he ...

A.   9 May 2014: She is probably dating your bf's roommate now. Calm down. To be sure,whenever you meet her in the room,greet her warmly and snug close to your bf and watch her facial reaction. Since you know they chat (probably because he gave you his ... (read in full...)

If it's over, why does he care?

Q.   I had recently connected with an old boyfriend via Facebook. When I was 20 and he was 28 we dated on and off for 3 years but he ended up breaking up with me to marry someone else. We went our separate ways, both married other, had kids etc... ...

A.   23 April 2014: Have they finally divorced ? If not,watch out. He is still worried about people telling her he is seeing another woman,and worried about her dating another man. He is not over her yet. They may still make up. Be prepared.... (read in full...)

I found out my married lover is not planning on getting divorced after all! Who should I confront, him or his wife?

Q.   I fell for my coworker who told me that his wife had left him, only to find out from another colleague that they are actually planning buying a new house together! I feel so stupid and sick to the stomach, but I can't bring myself to say anything...

A.   23 April 2014: A guy "planning to divorce his wife" is still married! Hope you have learnt your lessons. Creating a scene with him at work will not help you in any way. It will only scare away your single male colleagues who will now see you in a negative light. ... (read in full...)

Problems with boyfriend, Facebook, and other girls.

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and when we first started dating he would put stuff on his facebook without me having to ask him. But now it's like a war. I feel like its not fair to me that his ex's got sweet statuses and got to be his ...

A.   30 March 2014: Post pictures of the two of you on your page and tag him. You may also tag all his female Facebook friends as well.... (read in full...)

He chats with a lot of women, I can't help but feel he has an interest in them or is keeping his options open!

Q.   So I've been with my boyfriend for about a year.We have an amazing relationship he loves me I know he does BUT I've recently looked threw his phone and realized he communicates with a lot of women Text,Call, Facebook...its a lot of Mundane daily ...

A.   13 February 2014: Learn to trust your man. If he prefers those women to you,he wouldn't be with you. Even if he keeps only male friends,how sure will you be that he isn't gay? Don't you have male friends on Facebook,etc too? ... (read in full...)

My roommate crushed my self-esteem because he picked her over me!

Q.   I came to London to study a short course. I found a roommate (flatmate as they call them here) for a month out of the three months I'll be here and found him extremely attractive. We chatted a lot before I moved in and it became something a bit ...

A.   7 February 2014: You are the luckier lady. He will soon dump the other girl. Remember that he blamed BOTH of you for sleeping with him so easily. You are luckier because you knew his real nature earlier than the other lady. She is just starting her tenure and it ... (read in full...)

How do I approach this girl at work?

Q.   Hey how's it going? Thanks for reading this. I am a 23 year old male and I like this cashier from my job. She is 19 and a freshman in college. I have never spoken one word to her. I added her on facebook and I'm afraid I've already come off as ...

A.   4 February 2014: Don't rush things. Wait until she has accepted your friend request and you have been chatting for months. This will also allow you to study her character (through her posts and comments) and also allow her to feel free with you before you ask her ... (read in full...)

My best friend always goes after guys I like!

Q.   My best friend always goes after the guys I like. Knowing this, I try not to tell her who I like. This guy Cruz and I made it obvious that we had a thing. One step from dating. I wasn't sure that I had feelings for him until two weeks ago, during ...

A.   21 January 2014: Stop seeing her as your best friend because she is not. Keep her at an arm's length but don't fight her. Make her a "good-morning-how-are-you" friend. As for the guys,don't cry over spilt milk. A decent guy will not go for your best friend. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend won't add me as a friend on facebook!

Q.   Hello. I am trying to find advice regarding facebook. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, we live together and I am pregnant. It took him a year to change his relationship status from single to in a relationship, and thats only ...

A.   12 January 2014: He has a lot to hide. He should not only add you as a Facebook friend but list you in the Relationship section. If you know his family members,please send someone to do an underground research for you. Alternatively,look out for any female bearing ... (read in full...)

My best male friend has cut me out of his life after his wife got jealous

Q.   My male friend and I have been best friends ever since High School. We are both grown around our 30's now and we've been talking on the phone and emailing each other past years, I'am married with 2 kids and he just got married last year and a ...

A.   22 July 2013: Thank God you are a married woman too. How would you feel and react in her shoes? Please be content with your husband and your female friends and let this man be.... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me with his roommate? Do I just break up with him or trust him? HELP!!

Q.   I am going crazy about my boyfriend... He give me so many mixed messages and I dont know what to do. He tells me he loves me, wants to be with me but then in the next sentence tells me something that contradicts what I know to be a loving ...

A.   11 June 2013: Wake up and read the handwriting on the wall. He has a female roommate and doesn't see you and him living together. For all you know,they may be married,which explains why he pushes you away when she is around. Stop wasting your time and look... (read in full...)

Is this single guy looking for a threesome with me and my BF? Who makes the first move?

Q.   So here it goes. I have a male friend he split up from his girlfriend a year ago and is still looking for someone. Recently he spoke to one of his other female friends and asked to have a Fwb relationship. She agreed but ended up getting back wit...

A.   26 May 2013: A man who really loves you will not be willing to share your body with another. Think twice. Are you ready to sleep with two men and then watch them sleep together? If you get pregnant,who shoulders the responsibility?... (read in full...)

Why would my friend delete me off of her Facebook and Instagram?

Q.   Ok so I have been friends with this girl for most of my life and our families are also very close. We go to the same school as well but as time progressed we kind of grew apart. Even though we didn't talk as much we still kept in touch through ...

A.   26 April 2013: Let her be since she pretends not to see you when you run into each other. If it were just the Facebook unfriending,I would have advised you to talk it out with her. Accept that she is just a family friend now,not your personal friend. Howev... (read in full...)

Confession on face book has let people know who my crush is!

Q.   I'd posted a very embarrassing personal confession in a confession group on FB, and then shared it on my profile to keep it in view.It was about an incident about a senior at college and how I had developed a crush on him. A classmate saw the shar...

A.   22 April 2013: Don't you know what it means to share a post? The moment you share a post,all your Facebook friends will see the post along with your name on their walls. If they too decide to share and their friends too decide to share,your post could end up with ... (read in full...)

I am female and over six foot tall! I'm insecure about it. Tell me-- Do men find tall women attractive?

Q.   This is a stupid question, but I am very insecure as I am so tall. I am six foot and tower over people, especially when I wear heels. I am very slim and used to be a model so everyone thinks I am so confident, but the truth is I hate it so much. I ...

A.   10 May 2012: I am only 3 inches shorter than you( at 5'9) so I understand how you feel. I used to consider myself mannish because of my tall, slim body with few curves until I saw curvier women with beards and moustaches, large-breasted women who complain of ... (read in full...)

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