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| | *bigailBradbury's profile:Hello there, my name is Abigail Bradbury. (Abbi to my friends) I am nearly 20 years old and I live near Blackpool, Lancashire. I have a 10 month old little girl and she is my entire life. I have a lot of free time because I am a stay at home Mum. I am using my spare time to give advice to you lovely people on this website. I have no qualifications to give you expert advice but being an "agony aunt" has been a dream of mine for years and years. I love listening to people, I like typing and trying to give advice is my favourite hobby. I hope my advice helps! :) |
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Should I leave my boyfriend for a guy who I still have feelings for but it never worked out in the past?
Q. Hello:) I'm having trouble with relationships. I was going out with this guy a few years ago, lets call him 'Mat' then I started hanging round with a new friendship group and pretty much fell in love with someone in the group. I didn't do anyth...
A. 14 February 2012: No. Do not end it. You answered the question for yourself. This other guy is an EX hun. There's a reason he's an ex. If things are going well with the new guy, don't end it for something that "might be good". Think about if you got back with your ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's younger brother and he likes me too, but my friend knows nothing about it.
Q. hi. i am haveing a little trouble with this. i like my best friends little brother and he like me too. i am going on 20 and he is a year and a month younger then me. i met my best friend when we were 15 and her brother has liked me since then and i ...
A. 12 February 2012: Look, if it wasn't your friend's brother you'd go for it right? I'm sure your friend would understand. You need to think about yourself and your happiness. if you think you'd be happy with him then tell your friend. Say you wanted to ask her if it ... (read in full...)
How can I pursue this relationship without going over the top and pushing the girl away?
Q. I find myself becoming obsessed with certain women I date and I feel it always messes up anything that could be. I am in this situation right now again. I am 32 and a good looking guy. When I meet someone I am extremely attracted to I tend to ...
A. 12 February 2012: The best thing you can do is be straight with this girl. If she likes you enough she wont want you to change who you are just to please her. Just explain to her how you become when in a relationship. I'm sure she'll understand and probably think ... (read in full...)
Patching things up with my boyfriend, but now the girl he was with is coming to visit and he wants us all to hang out! Help!
Q. My ex and I are getting back together after 6 months broken up. We had dated 10 months the first time around. He swears he loves me and realized what he lost. Potential trouble: the girl he was dating and sleeping with the last two Months is co...
A. 10 February 2012: Do you know for certain he's told her? And even if he's told her you're together, he might be saying you have problems together or something. You have no idea what he's telling her. this is a sticky situation. Don't put yourself through this no ... (read in full...)
Having doubts about my relationship! Help!!
Q. hi, ill try and keep this short.. ive been having doubts about being with my boyfriend.. we've been together 5 months.. we were friends long before that and we were kinda together before this, but unoffically as i was living far away. im home now ...
A. 10 February 2012: Never move in with someone if you have the SLIGHTEST doubt. Trust me, I've been there. You seriously need to take time to think. We cannot tell you what to do with this situation. It's down to you. But it sounds as if you aren't truly happy. You ... (read in full...)
Patching things up with my boyfriend, but now the girl he was with is coming to visit and he wants us all to hang out! Help!
Q. My ex and I are getting back together after 6 months broken up. We had dated 10 months the first time around. He swears he loves me and realized what he lost. Potential trouble: the girl he was dating and sleeping with the last two Months is co...
A. 10 February 2012: Why are you doubting that what you feel is right?!
Of course she shouldn't come! She's an ex for a reason. And it sounds like it's all still very fresh and they were together not long ago. It seems she blatently still likes him. She needs to grow... (read in full...)
My G/f doesn't want a child, yet is against any form of birth control apart from me using a condom. She says if the condom rips then we can just put the baby up for adoption!!
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years she is 20 i am 23 we have been having sex for around 2 months, she was a virgin and wanted to wait, but a conversation we had the other day has confused me slightly. She says to me that ...
A. 10 February 2012: I think this girl is being very selfish.. Sorry, but that's how it seems.
If she doesn't want a child she needs to protect herself and make sure that doesn't happen. To say you can just put the child into care is so irresponsible.
If she's responsi... (read in full...)
How do I act around an ex boyfriend with his new g/f?
Q. I met him in school, and he was my best friend in class. Well, after a whole 6 months together, we broke up due to him suddenly becoming cold to me. We haven't talked since then(which is since around a year ago.). Coincidentally, I'm still in the ...
A. 7 February 2012: This sounds quite childish if people are laughing. Don't feel you have to laugh and go along with it.
At the end of the day, he hurt you, he's an ex for a reason. You're young, there'll be someone else out there for you. :) x... (read in full...)
It seems like he regrets messing our relationship up, but what does this all mean?
Q. Im a little puzzled about my ex-boyfriend. We have been broken up for a while now but every time we see each other its as if we never have been apart. He recently called me and apologized for something he did. I told him I forgave him and I can tell ...
A. 7 February 2012: To add to my answer, remember that everyone makes mistakes though and he may deserve a second chance. Weigh up the good and bad in your relationship...would he be worth risking heart break for? Good luck... (read in full...)
It seems like he regrets messing our relationship up, but what does this all mean?
Q. Im a little puzzled about my ex-boyfriend. We have been broken up for a while now but every time we see each other its as if we never have been apart. He recently called me and apologized for something he did. I told him I forgave him and I can tell ...
A. 7 February 2012: this is a hard one to answer, but I will try my best to help.
If he's talking to other people about you, he probably realises that he messed up by leaving you but doesn't want to admit it.
I wouldn't read too much into this at the moment hun, bec... (read in full...)
Help!!! How do I let him down gently without hurting him?
Q. Hey guys, short story this really sweet and caring guy and I met a while ago, we started talking, flirting, texting, hanging out etc, and now his feelings have grown stronger for me, while mine have done the opposite. I have realised that my...
A. 5 February 2012: Like you said hun it's not fair. If you don't tell him it'll get his hopes up and the more he will fall for you. I know you don't want to be cruel but it'll be less cruel in the long run if you let him down now gently. Just explain what you've said ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way?
Q. Sick of my ex. Ever since we broke up he's changed! He used to be sweet, yeah annoying at times but he made the effort to get along with my friends and was nice to everyone. He dumped me after a 10 month relationship, of which only 5 were "officia...
A. 3 February 2012: stop worrying about this guy! concentrate on your own life. You deserve happiness so concentrate on being happy! This guy has obviously messed you about before and your friends. He's not worth you caring so much is he??
you need to stop thin... (read in full...)
How do I convince my boyfriend that I didn't have relations with my ex while we were on a break?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up for 2 weeks and he had a one night stand with someone. When we got back together he was honest and told me about his one night stand and asked me if there had been anyone else for me during that time, I said no. Now after ...
A. 3 February 2012: POT KETTLE BLACK MUCH?! sorry to be so harsh, but you say this guy went off with someone else? And yet he's preaching to you about your ex?? This guy is being stupid. So what if anything did happen. its not one rule for him and one for you is it??
I... (read in full...)
Got a date but she's in control. How should I play this one?
Q. Iv got a 2nd date with this girl but she's in control of it. What i mean is that she works full-time and does some evenings and weekends. her job is obviously verry important to her. she is very busy and so has little time. she said we can go out in ...
A. 3 February 2012: this does not mean she's in control at all that's bull. don't listen to everyone else because it wont get you anywhere hun.
Like you said, she works and has to work a date round when she has the time. That's not "in control" or playing mind game... (read in full...)
I really want my crush to like me!
Q. I'm a 19 year old guy and I really like a girl I met online. I get a little shy when talking to her and I'm always the first to say hi. She replies to me but she doesn't talk a lot. She only laughs sometimes so I really want her to like me but I ...
A. 3 February 2012: ok hun, simple answer to this without being harsh.
You can't make a girl like you. Feelings must be mutual and it has to come naturrally to her. if you have to initiate the conversation then i'd say don't bother.
play a little hard to get. if ... (read in full...)
What's it like to have a girlfriend/wife who's a gamer?
Q. Gamer Guys: What's it like to have a gamer as a girlfriend/wife? Is it annoying, fun, cool, make it a happy relationship, causes fights, ect? I do think that girl gamer's are really hot. Because I'm a huge gamer and for years I've wanting to have ...
A. 3 February 2012: no offence my love, i know this is what most guys want. But you shouldn't base a relationship with someone on whether she plays video games. she could play games and be a d*ck. You can't determine someones personality and their compatibility with ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm ready to have a boyfriend?
Q. Okay so I have been talking to a guy that I known for a long time. He is 20 and I'm 17 and he's in college and I'm in high school but starting college as well. I can honestly say I have fallen for him he is like everything I want. But there is one ...
A. 3 February 2012: you will just know. It's not about the guy and the relationship it's about you in yourself. You need to be ready to be with someone. If you're so used to being single and are an independant person, being in arelationship takes alot of hard work. it ... (read in full...)
What is up with her behavior towards me?
Q. I'm a lesbian and I recently met this woman that I'm now infatuated by. She knows I'm a lesbian. She hugs and kisses me, some times when ppl are around but especially if we're alone the hug may be a little longer than average I miss you good to see ...
A. 3 February 2012: You need to ask her my love. We can't tell you the answer because we don't know what this woman is thinking.
I could try and give you advice but could be totally wrong. It seems she likes the attention if she "does it to everyone". I wouldn't read... (read in full...)
My mind goes blank when I talk to guys!
Q. Hi, to put it simply, I have a crush on this guy whom I'm barely friends with. I'd like to get to know him better and maybe for him to know me better too, but I have a problem: I can't really talk to guys. (I think I bore them) Most articles ...
A. 3 February 2012: I know you're sick of hearing this "be yourself" shit. Haha that's never what you want to hear, because being yourself doesn't work, as you said - yourself never knows what to say!!
But it's true. But by be yourself I don't mean be shy I mean just... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is constantly accusing me of cheating when I've never cheated!
Q. I need help I love my girlfriend but she is constantly thinking I'm cheating and she believes she has to cheat on my to stay with me I don't get it what can I do I love her so much I'll do anything for her I'm willing to get counsleing or whatever...
A. 3 February 2012: If you're telling us the truth and you haven't ever cheated on her or given her reason to believe you've cheated; then it seems the issues lie with her and it's her that needs to fix this. She seems very insecure.
Find out why. Talk to her and let ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend love me as much?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but im worried that he dosnt love me as much, We are in a long distance relationship as i live in one part of the country and he lives in another so we dont see each other all the time, i ...
A. 3 February 2012: we can't tell you the answer to this as we will never know what he's thinking. It does sound a little worrying, although don't think that it is.
Guys sometimes just stop say i love you, its a guy thing. They think once they say it the once, we'l... (read in full...)
In real life I've never wanted him to kiss me. So is my dream telling me otherwise?
Q. I just turned 18 and im having some confusing feelings. I see one of my mates twice a week (all-day) with a few of our other friends, but I was recently really annoyed by him and vice a versa. We sorted it out last week and that night I had a drea...
A. 3 February 2012: dreams mess with your head. It's just a dream.
Many people dream of sleeping with Brad pitt. it's not real! :)
If you are adamant you don't have feelings for him in real life then don't read too much into it. How you feel in real life is relevant... (read in full...)
How do I manage how I feel over his over zealous anxious checking up on me all the time?
Q. Hi All, thanks for stopping by and reading this. I have been dating a man for coming up to year now. he has lots going on his life. Eg: he is a full time carer for his disabled sister, and has three kids from an ex that he takes a lot ( they don...
A. 3 February 2012: it sounds like he was kind of playing hard to get and now that you're doing it to him he doesn't like it. He probably realises he isn't putting in enough effort. It seems he wants it all to be on his terms, he likes calling the shots. He doesn't ... (read in full...)
I get mad at my boyfriend for always looking at pretty girls. And adding them on Facebook.
Q. I know that men are attracted to women who look good. I always get mad at my boyfriend when he looks at pretty girls. And he reacted negatively to my action too. After some time, I would feel silly because all men are like that. But now, I think ...
A. 1 February 2012: I know exactly how you feel. It's a girl thing. That other girl is right my love, it's all in the mind. He's with you right? Tell yourself that. It's you he comes to at the end of the day. He's yours. No one elses. Just as long as he's not flirting ... (read in full...)
Why is he pursuing me when he has a girlfriend
Q. He and i were sort of fwb in the past, it didn't become anything more for a number of reasons. Mainly because we live hours away from each other and hadn't really gotten to know each other well enough to form a real relationship. I went to see him ...
A. 1 February 2012: It definitely sounds as if he likes you.
It actually sounds like he likes you more than his girlfriend but lots of factors keep you apart. You need to stop it before one of you gets hurt. I think you have some sort of feelings for him but are such... (read in full...)
The heat wants what the heart wants....so do I tell my married lover how I feel about him knowing he would walk away? Or just keep quiet and carry on witht the affair?
Q. Im hurting and need some advice. I just came out of a horrible divorce and is still going through a nightmare of fighting and possible custody battle with my ex husband. Im trying to get my life back together and doing pretty good. Everything I do ...
A. 1 February 2012: TELL HIM. I keep saying this to askers on this site. you need to talk. Communication is the bases of a proper relationship.
I feel so sorry for you. People will judge you, but you're doing nothing wrong on your side. You're single and you fell for ... (read in full...)
How do I get past this guy's female friend to date him?
Q. So, I'm interested in this guy. Have been for about 6 months. We've flirted, we've hung out solo, and even come close to going out on an almost date... twice. The thing is, he always pulls back and gives me the cold shoulder when things are starting ...
A. 1 February 2012: TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS. Obviously don't call her a cockblock haha!!
But you need to explain how you feel.
This site is great for advice, but too many people come on here and spill their heart out instead of talking to the other person!! You need... (read in full...)
We cant ever get married because he is 5 years younger than me, should I give up on the relationship now or carry on with him until I meet a more suitable partner?
Q. Dear cupid, I thank you for your enormous help that you've been rendering to us, I hope that you'll also see to my problem. I have a boyfriend whom I love so much and he loves me too, but my problem now is that I'm 5 years older than him. So I'm so ...
A. 1 February 2012: Why can't you be together? this makes no sense. You are of legal legitimate age. There's no reason this can't work. do not worry about other people! the age difference is nothing. I was 16 when my boyfriend and i got together and he was 20. it's 3 ... (read in full...)
Small lie by him leads to me worrying way too much...
Q. I need some advice. I have been with my LDR for almost a year and in the beginning he lied about a lot in efforts to make me like him. after a few weeks he told me the truth about himself and vowed never to lie again. well just this week I was ...
A. 1 February 2012: I've noticed you didn't say what he was lying about?
This is irrelevant. People can't judge you and we have to give an answer based on what you've told us.
I don't think you're being silly, any kind of lie in a relationship no matter how small, i... (read in full...)
My B/f couldn't get enough of me and now I have to beg him for sex even once a week. Is he bored of me?
Q. I started going out with my boyfriend 8 months ago And we've been living together for 4. I'm 25 and he's 35. At first he couldn't get enough of me, even waking me Up several times during the night for sex most nights. Now if I get it even once a ...
A. 1 February 2012: I'm not sure I can speak for him as I will never know what he is thinking, however I will try and help.
It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you and don't feel insecure until you know the reasons for this.
Everyone is in the "honeymoon" ... (read in full...)
Very troubled here as I don't think I want be with my bf anymore! What should I do?
Q. Sorry this is a bit long, but I wanted to put all the detail in. So I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. When we first got together I really loved him (I had liked him way before we got together). But recently I don't feel anything ...
A. 31 January 2012: The other person who has replied to this hit the nail on the head.
You're not a bad person, sometimes feelings do just go, despite what people may say.
You do need to end this if you don't feel love anymore.
You don't want to end it as you don't... (read in full...)
We argue. She never has time for me. Should we break up?
Q. My girlfriend never has time for me. She tells me she cant be without me and when we got into argument she begged me to stay with her. Yet whenever I wanna talk shes busy or shes out with friends. Its spring break and we haven't even done anything ...
A. 31 January 2012: the problem with couples nowadays is that they dont talk!!
this is why they break up and the other one has no idea why.
You need to sit down and have a really good talk with her.
Explain how you are feeling, she probably has no idea that you fee... (read in full...)
Falling for her again.
Q. I asked a friend for a relationship last year (about 6 months ago) and she said no. I respected her answer and kept distance for several months as I tried to heal and move on. We are still friends and I enjoy that. Now, I am falling for her...
A. 31 January 2012: This is a very complex situation. As you said she's a friend..
This could ruin everything.
You have to ask yourself, would you rather never try and never know, or try and lose a friend. Which would you hate most.
Would you rather have her in your ... (read in full...)
Is phone sex cheating?
Q. I cant stop thinking of cheating on my boyfriend .I had phone sex with another man and it turned me on ,totally!! . Is something wrong with me ? Is phone sex cheating ?I wanted to be in a open relationship and he said he will think about it ....Am I...
A. 31 January 2012: wow lets skip to the part where you said he's cheated on you.
If you are thinking like that, like you can do it back then you're turning it into a game. A relationship is based on trust and here it seems like there is none.
You need to figure o... (read in full...)
Ex and I are talking again should I assume he might like me?
Q. I don't know what to do. My ex and I from two years ago have become closer recently we have been talking more face to face and we have also started bbming each other a bit. A few months after we broke up i had got completely over ...
A. 29 January 2012: Ok, i know that the feelings have come back, but this is probably because there is history there and you have things in common that make it easy to talk to him. I don't think you should get back with him. Remember why he was an ex in the first pla... (read in full...)
Going to be married in 2 months and I feel so unloved
Q. Hi all I feel I have no one else to turn to. Me and my fiancé have been together for nearly 4 years and are due to be married in march but I feel so unloved. We have sex once a month and it's over in 2 mins. I'm bored and I have tried and tried ...
A. 29 January 2012: Right. Don't do anything rash yet. Sit down with him, turn the tv off or anything that may distract him. Look him in the eye, get emotional if you feel you need to and explain to him what you have said to us here. Tell him exactly how he's making y... (read in full...)
What are my chances of seeing her again??
Q. Ok i was on a date with a girl a couple of nights ago and everything was going well. We were just in this nice bar place, when some guy friend of hers from her school days recognized her and walked over to say hi. I thought that would be it, hello, ...
A. 29 January 2012: I don't think you've been stupid at all. If this girl knows you like her, she'd understand why you left, and if she likes you as well, she was probably thinking the same, but she was just being polite; which yes, maybe you should have done. At the ... (read in full...)
My cousin loves me and wants me to have his baby
Q. my first cousin and i have always been close. we barely saw each other when we were little due to him living in another country, yet when he can to visit with his mum we always hung out. i didnt see him for about 6 or 7 years and he was 18 when i ...
A. 29 January 2012: I know that you can't help who you have feelings for my love, but this is wrong. The implications of this relationship would be awful, for you and your family. This isn't worth the trouble. If your friend told you this, if they were in your s... (read in full...)
I need to learn how to interact with guys
Q. Hi guys, I think the best way to describe it is.. I'm stuck! Its been this way most of my life, and the situation doesn't really change. I guess you could say I have very little to do with guys. It's not me so much that doesnt have much to do ...
A. 29 January 2012: don't ask the question, "what personality traits do guys like girls to have". Don't change yourself for a guy! Just be yourself.
If a guy likes you because you're doing something different to what you normally do, then he isn't worth it. And if s... (read in full...)
Maybe I should just end the relationship!
Q. Hello, I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 21. We have been doing a sort of open relationship for about the last 5 months. He has only been with one other girl and it was just a mindless hookup, dont care. In our particular arrangement, I told him I really ...
A. 29 January 2012: Ok so let me get the right...
You thought an open relationship would mean you didn't have the heartbreak of getting too intimate?
And now you're beginning to fall for this guy (from what i can tell) , and you're getting hurt by the relation... (read in full...)
My love for him is so strong, but he just plays with my emotions
Q. i have a boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months, we are long distance(live 5 hours/230 miles apart) and we met 6 months before we got together through a friend i went to see for a week, i was with someone else at the time, but that didn't stop me doing ...
A. 29 January 2012: he sounds like a show off. Like he wants everyone to love him!!
I'd bin him.
Don't ever let any man play with your emotions.
I know you like him and it's very hard to switch off feelings, however he's playing you.
You're miles away. so he slee... (read in full...)
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