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I don't know how to feel about dating an army man. Should I?
Q. I went out with some girlfriends to a bar a lot of army guys frequent; my friends really wanted to know what it was like to be with (i.e. sleep with) a military man. i wasn't so much into it because they kind of creep me out. but because i know my ...
A. 2 October 2012: Just go for it what have you got to lose? As you said he hot,straight to the point AND hes nice what more could you want? I know the army sounds almost scary to some people (I have two friends in the army AND I cried my eyes out when they joined... (read in full...)
I messaged him on social media. I'm sure it's him, but he has not replied. Why would he ignore me?
Q. I'm just approaching 50,i've just seen a guy i knew over 32 years ago on a well known social networking site,i know its him,from the things he has said in a group on there,he's changed his surname though. I contacted him but he wont acknowle...
A. 2 October 2012: I'll take a wild guess here he probably hasn't got back to you because either...
It's not him.
OR
He DOESN'T want to talk to you.
See it's the simple.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with b/f who swears he didn't put up a profile on a dating website? I know he did it!
Q. My friend and I were looking at plenty of fish dating site today because we were really bored in work I've never been on there but she said she knew loads of people on there with cringey photos and stuff they'd written about themselves. Well I came ...
A. 2 October 2012: When you said "We haven't had the best relationship..." my opinion of your problem totally changed.
I mean if you had said your relationship had been good up until this point I'd have said give him another chance but now am thinking he's trying to s... (read in full...)
One..two..I don't know what to do!
Q. I have been with my bf for almost 3 years. He is a wonderful person who treats me really well and I have been happy. But the other night I was out with friends and I met another guy out. There was some serious chemistry and I ended up kissing him. I ...
A. 2 October 2012: Lets be honest here...how well do you ACTUALLY know this other guy? Would you genuinely throw a 3 year relationship down the pan for one kiss? Yes maybe you are right AND deep down you aren't happy 100% with your b/f but why just go "meh that's n... (read in full...)
Extreme guilt after faking a pregnancy
Q. This is really hard for me to write about. When I was 16 I faked a pregnancy with my boyfriend at the time. I definitely had some sort of issues, I was cutting myself at the time and extremely depressed, manipulative, and obsessive. H...
A. 1 October 2012: When your young you do crazy things in new situations because you have no life experience to fall back on. And as you get older AND you gain life experience AND social experience you develop better strategies to cope with situations that occur. ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend don't stop texting me.
Q. my ex girlfriend keeps texting me wanting to meet up one minute and then not so nice texts the next but doesnt seem to quit even though i never reply. she knows it is over and i no longer want to be in touch. was with her 3 months approx and she ...
A. 28 August 2012: Well done for not text back sound like your lucky to be away from her!!
I'm sure if you called customer services for what ever network you are on the would be able to tell you how to go about blocking her number coz you are right you shouldn't have... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a cheapskate with me but can spend the money on himself. I'm sick of it.
Q. My boyfriend is so, so cheap with me. Scenario: We don't usually ever go out to eat anymore. If we do, I'm the one who pays (he insists that I do) because he buys food for his apartment and shares it with me when I come over (even though he's rea...
A. 28 August 2012: I always believe that a relationship should always be equal in every witch way.
NO one person in the relationship should be putting in all the graft while the other person sits back & reaps the rewards.
I would NOT under any circumstances let my p... (read in full...)
My family wants to buy my friend trainers because his family won't and he desperately needs them!
Q. My mum wants to buy my bestfriend new trainers [for about £30] because he needs them and his family couldn't give a damn but we don't know how to put this across to him and then what he should say if it [potentially] causes a problem with his ...
A. 4 August 2012: But if he has his own money, why can he not buy his own shoes?
That's what I don't understand.
If he has income he should be spending that on shoes.... (read in full...)
My family wants to buy my friend trainers because his family won't and he desperately needs them!
Q. My mum wants to buy my bestfriend new trainers [for about £30] because he needs them and his family couldn't give a damn but we don't know how to put this across to him and then what he should say if it [potentially] causes a problem with his ...
A. 30 July 2012: No offence but if he's at college & working part-time surely he has the cash to buy himself shoes & clothes.
I understand you care for him very much but if he has in-come how can he not afford shoes out of his own pocket?... (read in full...)
It seems someone has set up a profile on a dating site pretending to be me! Why would someone do this?
Q. Hey! I had something really odd happen recently, and would like some opinions on it. Basically, I woke up about a week ago to a text from a guy saying he was responding to a message I sent him on a dating site. I was very confused, because I haven't ...
A. 20 April 2012: Sometimes people dot things on the internet just to get a reaction.
I wouldn't like to hazard a guess as to who it is because it could be just anyone.
Take your number,email or any other personal info off of Facebook or any other social network ... (read in full...)
Am I missing obvious signs that she's losing interest?
Q. OK, here goes... I've known my girlfriend since we were kids. She's divorced and has a 5 year old daughter from her previous marriage. Her ex-husband left her when her daughter was just 2 months old, and started seeing another girl. This obviously ...
A. 20 April 2012: I'm glad I was able to help.
Sorry I didn't mean to offend I was just giving my perceptive & I know personally if someone continued to try & keep contact with me when I'd made it clear it was over I personally would find this behaviour obsessiv... (read in full...)
We split up 2 years ago. How do I get over him? It's getting harder not easier.
Q. my ex boyfriend and I split up for 2 years now, I know what you're probably thinking 'you're only a teenager', but I still find myself crying myself to sleep most nights thinking about him. I really try my hardest not to think about him but its ...
A. 20 April 2012: I feel for you I really do!
When I was round your I had the same problem took me 2/3 years to get over an ex.
What I would suggest is some counselling perhaps.
Go to your doctor they will be able to point you in the wright direction. ... (read in full...)
Are we going too fast?
Q. This is going to sound really awkward so bare with me. Basically my best friend has been continually harassed throughout her relationship, having people tell her boyfriend she is cheating etc. One of the guys she was accused of cheating with is...
A. 19 April 2012: If your already feeling uncomfortable with how things are going then yes it is too fast.
It is only normal to want to have sex with someone that you are attracted to & yes it is good to talk about it & be open with your partner about it but it have... (read in full...)
Too tired to see my boyfriend tonight and worried he won't like whatever I do
Q. This isn't really a problem but would like some peoples ideas on something. I work as an auxillary nurse on a very busy hospital ward. Before work this morning I told my boyfriend that I would most probably drive the 30 miles to see him after wo...
A. 19 April 2012: Stop worrying first of all,a relationship is meant to be enjoyable & meant make you happy!
Secondly if your b/f can't accept that you are too worn out after a hard day at work to make a 30 mile trip then he's not worth being with!
I work an extre... (read in full...)
Is it alright for a married person to look up ex-boyfriend or girlfriends?
Q. Is it OK for a married person to lookup ex boyfriends or ex girlfriends? Our friend has been divorced for about 2 years now, and we're still friends with her since she was our friend before she married the POS loser. Anyway, she has been searchi...
A. 19 April 2012: I think that this is a bad move!
It's fine to stumble across an ex on a social network site & have a nosy at their photos & stuff.
It's another to actually go looking for people!
I know most people from the past are best left in the past.
I m... (read in full...)
We had a big argument - some perspective is needed
Q. My boyfriend and I are having a dispute. It seems to have come down to who is "wrong" and who is "right." Here goes... I asked him if he wanted to spend time together last Sunday. I asked him about a week in advance. He agreed. A few days lat...
A. 19 April 2012: It just sounds like a simple break down in communication.
Remember text messages don't always get thru & some times people don't reserve texts till hours or maybe even days later (I've had this happen to me before.)
Why don't yous just agree to... (read in full...)
Excessive drinking is affecting my boyfriend's sexual performance
Q. Hi, I have posted several questions about love, sex and relationship on this website and have always received good advice. I have been with my boyfriend for roughly 2 years and everything has been great. There are a few things that I quite dis...
A. 19 April 2012: I 100% agree with Deagan here. Yes the truth can be hurtful & unpleasant to hear but you can't continue down this road it is going to lead to the total break down of your relationship.
You must speak with him over this issue,you just have to go abou... (read in full...)
Am I missing obvious signs that she's losing interest?
Q. OK, here goes... I've known my girlfriend since we were kids. She's divorced and has a 5 year old daughter from her previous marriage. Her ex-husband left her when her daughter was just 2 months old, and started seeing another girl. This obviously ...
A. 19 April 2012: I hate to break it to you but she's not your girlfriend.
To be honest I think she has been pretty clear with you that she doesn't want a relationship with you.
I'd stop sending these text's I think that's bordering on obsessive.
If she really d... (read in full...)
Did he over-react? Was he trying to guilt-trip me? He's 28
Q. I met this fella January this year, we went on a few dates, got "officially" together mid February time. Now, at times, he would become irritated if I would spend time with my brother and friends rather than with him, despite the fact that I saw him ...
A. 18 April 2012: Emotional black mail!!
The way he's behaving is just silly,he is hurting a lot at the moment clearly but he can't take it out on you,it's just not fair.
I'd block his number,not answer the door if he calls round & just move on.
Blaming s... (read in full...)
After years of little contact my father is giving gifts. I'm unsure how to react/feel about this
Q. My father and i havent spoken properly for years we occasionally pase in the street if he is in the area and say hello and only keep in touch by letter. This is because he was an alcoholic and was physically abusive towards me and my mum throughout ...
A. 18 April 2012: Your Dad is obviously feeling very guilty about what has happened in the past & is try to make things up to you by,buying you gifts.
I know it does not make up for anything that has happened but the way I see it he's trying to offer an olive bran... (read in full...)
How do I cope with cheating ex seeing our son and him bringing the woman he cheated on me with?
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster wants advice from women in the UK Just after some advice off women in the uk please. I am in court has my ex wants access to our little boy. I have never denied him access and I have always tried to get him to see our son but he h...
A. 18 April 2012: How old is your son?
Is he only little?
Of course its going to be hard to get over,he hurt you badly but you can hold resentment for your sons sake.
Personally I wouldn't wont your son seeing his father with this new partner because it's still a... (read in full...)
I'm feeling stuck and trapped. I'm pregnant and somewhat happy about it but worried about all the stress it will bring!
Q. Hey, I'm feeling totally torn and don't know what to do. Found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant to my bf of 2 years. We live together and have talked about having a child one day soon, but this is kinda unexpected and unplanned and I'm not sure ...
A. 18 April 2012: I don't really know what I can say about your work situation because everyone's got to earn a living!
As for your father's situation; I too have a disabled sister & she goes to rest-bite a few days a week throw our local authority,your family coul... (read in full...)
Dumper ignores dumpee? Why?
Q. Hello. This is a strange situation. I got dumped. And, my reaction is obviously normal. I'm hurt. However, she asks to be my friend. I say "No!", and I tell her in the form of a comparison of "You're at a restaurant. You have 2 choices on the m...
A. 18 April 2012: You said that you didn't want to be friends with her so why would she greet you or talk to you?
If someone's no your friend you don't go running up to them shouting "HEY" when you see them do you?
As from that car,that could be anyone,your reading ... (read in full...)
After b/f has been so wishy washy, I am moving back home. what would others do?
Q. hello everyone, i hope you're all well! first off, i moved in with my partner of 2 years last December and a month or so ago he said he wasnt sure about having a relationship and although it broke my heart i understand. so im now moving back home...
A. 18 April 2012: Your b/f sound like he can't make up his mind & in this process he's messing you around.
I'd sit him down & talk to him,tell him what you have just told us.
Make it clear that if he wants to stay you will (if that is what you really want that is)... (read in full...)
I told my creepy co-worker to back off, now he has should I give him his stuff back?
Q. I posted a question on here about a creepy security guard who is six years older than me (he's 26-I'm freshly 20) and constantly following me around, staring at me while standing over the front desk (I work in a museum) and always wanting to walk me ...
A. 18 April 2012: You have kind of given this guy mixed messages by accepting gifts from him,I think you should give him the gifts back & have a word with me him.
Just tell him whilst you appreciate his generosity,you are in-fact in a relationship & don't find it a... (read in full...)
Should I press charges because she uploaded a photo of us on facebook?
Q. Hi. I'm new, here. Last week, I have had a photograph of me with a female friend. I thought she would NOT post the photograph on the internet. However, just yesterday, I check her Facebook, just to see her photo album, as she mentionned a nea...
A. 12 April 2012: There is a report button on Facebook where you can ask for the photo to be removed try that.
Is there any particular reason you don't want it on Facebook,usually when one of my friends take a photo I automaticly assume it going on Facebook!... (read in full...)
Help me compose a note to this actor!
Q. I met an actor after a show last week, and i want to write to him on facebook, saying that it was lovely to meet him, and i enjoyed the show, and that i hope to see him at the theatre again and meet him again, and that i hope to see him on tv more ( ...
A. 11 April 2012: Simply just say "It was nice to see you the other night & thanks for the drink."
Doesn't have to be anything more than that.... (read in full...)
Help me compose a note to this actor!
Q. I met an actor after a show last week, and i want to write to him on facebook, saying that it was lovely to meet him, and i enjoyed the show, and that i hope to see him at the theatre again and meet him again, and that i hope to see him on tv more ( ...
A. 11 April 2012: So those other questions were not you?
As Tisha says you need to tell us what the meaning of the message is.
Can I just advise you that if you are messaging him with romantic intentions be prepared to be dissapointed.... (read in full...)
Over-analyser and compulsive worrier! Help!
Q. Okay, so I have a problem with over analysing the situations where I find out a guy likes me. Basically, a friend of mine has recently made it known to my best friend that he likes me, and I don't know what to do! I get upset when I feel like...
A. 11 April 2012: First of all it's good that you've noticed that you over analyse things.
You are aware that you are doing it so you can try to control it.
I usually over analyse things too,but when I become aware that I am I try to stop myself.
You honestly jus... (read in full...)
Help me compose a note to this actor!
Q. I met an actor after a show last week, and i want to write to him on facebook, saying that it was lovely to meet him, and i enjoyed the show, and that i hope to see him at the theatre again and meet him again, and that i hope to see him on tv more ( ...
A. 11 April 2012: I agree with celtic_tiger!!
If those other two questions are yours,am afraid to say you need a reality check!!
Your not a wee 12 year old girl,your a grown woman!!
I have met my fair share of "famous" people & have friends in bands & other friend... (read in full...)
He's 16 years older than me. Is he sincere or using me?
Q. I'm 18 years old, and I work with a 34 year old man that's very forward about the way I make him feel. We've been good friends for a while, but all of the sudden he started giving me a lot of compliments out of the blue. Like how cute or amazing I ...
A. 11 April 2012: Hi I hope you don't mind but I'm going to share my own experience of an older man with you to warn to what COULD happen. I know it is long but I want you to face this situation with the best knowledge you can.
Like you we met at work got along real... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to treat me like they do my siblings?
Q. Recently I passed my driving test, something which I am really, really proud of. I didn't tell my parents or anyone else that I was taking it, and when I passed, I told them. But, they just said to me that I should have been open and honest with ...
A. 11 April 2012: Sit your parents down & talk to them.
Explain that you feel that they have been off with you & are treating you differently from your siblings.
Explain the reasons why you never told them about your driving test.
Perhaps they suspect you of lying... (read in full...)
Is he lying to cover up his problems getting an erection?
Q. Help I've been with my boyfreind now a couple of months, so everything is fresh and new and we're getting to know things about each other.. Its all bliss apart from one thing... Sex! My boyfriend finds it hard to get and maintain an erection. He'...
A. 6 April 2012: I was just meaning there is more to build the relationship on,not mean to make out your sex crazed sorry =P... (read in full...)
How do I cope with him not wanting me?
Q. Hello everyone :) So there is this boy He is one year older than me And he is handsome To the most of the girls at my school incuding me And I used to really like this kid And I told him because I just needed to let it off my chest (it was...
A. 6 April 2012: Just because someone doesn't want to be with you in a romantic way doesn't mean they don't like you as a friend.
I might seam to be ignoring you because he doesn't want to lead you on or for you to think he's leading you on.
Just because he talks... (read in full...)
I'm jealous because my husband's sister in law is pregnant, please help!
Q. I'm not usually a jealous person, but this situation has made me see green. I've been married to by wonderful husband for three years, and we started trying for a baby on our honeymoon. No such luck. I've had one miscarriage that I've known ab...
A. 6 April 2012: I'm so sorry to hear of your fertility problems.
First of all I can understand your jealously but remember it's not her or her babies fault that you haven't had a child yet,don't take it out on her & don't let your jealousy turn into resentment or b... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits, what do you think?
Q. Me and a friend of mine have been speaking for a little while and we got onto the question of how fun it would be to have a friends with benefits and before we knew it we were discussing actually going through with it, but i have never done ...
A. 6 April 2012: Well first of all I just want to say that FWB can some times be up-setting & I wonder if you'd be mature enough to handle it.
Could you handle seeing your FWB with another girl?
Could you handle your FWB getting into a relationship & ending y... (read in full...)
I am tired of all my friends, whats wrong with me?
Q. Lately I have been feeling like I just want to end all my friendships, I feel annoyed by all of them, and I know that sounds crazy but I feel I'm almost so consumed by my family that I would rather just go without having friends. One friend acts ...
A. 6 April 2012: Starlights just took the words out of my mouth!!... (read in full...)
He does not want to get married!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 3 years and we have a 19 month old son together. I never really was bothered about getting engaged and married till a few months after I had my son. I take him to appointments and we don't even have the same last nam...
A. 6 April 2012: First of all STOP NAGGING HIM!!
Your just pushing him away & creating unnecessary tension in your relationship.
He should also WANT to propose not have has hand forced by demands & nagging!!
I can understand that marriage & sharing your child's... (read in full...)
How can I get a guy to like me more than just a friend?
Q. I'm sort of in that situation where I'm always in the "friend zone". Don't get me wrong, I love having guy friends, the ones I have are amazing, they accept me as one of the guys but still look after and look out for me like I'm a girl. The only ...
A. 6 April 2012: You can't MAKE someone see you as more than just a friend.
I know it hurts when you get lumped in as "just one of the boys" I always get seen like that as well!
But isn't it better to have lots of really good guy mates to kick about with,who... (read in full...)
I am at wits end about our friendship! advice please? I don't want to ruin our friendship
Q. I'm unsure if this would be the place for help on this matter as it's more about friends and living situations, but I thought I would give it a go. For about six months now, I've been living with a really close female friend of mine. I'll point...
A. 6 April 2012: First of all she just has to get it ALL out of her system even if that means listening to her go on & on every night.
She won't/can't move on till she got every single little thing off of her mind.
As for the whole living situation you need to ... (read in full...)
Is he lying to cover up his problems getting an erection?
Q. Help I've been with my boyfreind now a couple of months, so everything is fresh and new and we're getting to know things about each other.. Its all bliss apart from one thing... Sex! My boyfriend finds it hard to get and maintain an erection. He'...
A. 6 April 2012: Ok so your boyfriend was almost blown to bits & had skin grafts(which by no means is light surgery) & your worrying about him lying about this?
Rather than be worried about the horrible mental scars he has to carry around with him?
Post-... (read in full...)
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