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We chat all the time yet I don't know what he wants, do I just ask him?

Q.   Hi, pls help me decipher this. N is my colleague from another country (3hrs flight away). We know each other since 8months ago, chatting everyday on company chat and we meet up for coffee/lunch whenever we're in each other's location. Recently...

A.   15 July 2009: today........ (read in full...)

He says he wants to meet me but never says when

Q.   Ive met someone who is a family friend of my partners family -last year we got close and he would tell me how attractive I was - he was all over me, we would arrange to meet up(which wasnt often) - we did not sleep together but would cuddle up and ...

A.   14 July 2009: i'm in the same situation! and i have no idea what the guy wants! except maybe he's just not that into you?... (read in full...)

We chat all the time yet I don't know what he wants, do I just ask him?

Q.   Hi, pls help me decipher this. N is my colleague from another country (3hrs flight away). We know each other since 8months ago, chatting everyday on company chat and we meet up for coffee/lunch whenever we're in each other's location. Recently...

A.   14 July 2009: hi, some new developments....after 7weeks or so of not talking....he msged me one day to say let's talk next time i'm in town.....any advice to what's going on?... (read in full...)

We chat all the time yet I don't know what he wants, do I just ask him?

Q.   Hi, pls help me decipher this. N is my colleague from another country (3hrs flight away). We know each other since 8months ago, chatting everyday on company chat and we meet up for coffee/lunch whenever we're in each other's location. Recently...

A.   13 June 2009: hi, i have new updates reg this. He has been msging everyday so one day i just asked him what he wanted. I said i just want him to be honest with me, we can still stay chat buddies but until he tells me what he wants, I cannot act as per normal to ... (read in full...)

We chat all the time yet I don't know what he wants, do I just ask him?

Q.   Hi, pls help me decipher this. N is my colleague from another country (3hrs flight away). We know each other since 8months ago, chatting everyday on company chat and we meet up for coffee/lunch whenever we're in each other's location. Recently...

A.   11 June 2009: i'm in his country now for work. he said he wants to meet me and would call. but he didn't. when i asked he said he was drunk, so i said are we still meeting up? he said he wants to but will let me know. I said he seems half hearted about meeting ... (read in full...)

We chat all the time yet I don't know what he wants, do I just ask him?

Q.   Hi, pls help me decipher this. N is my colleague from another country (3hrs flight away). We know each other since 8months ago, chatting everyday on company chat and we meet up for coffee/lunch whenever we're in each other's location. Recently...

A.   4 June 2009: just seems like guys are pretty dodgy to me haha... (read in full...)

We chat all the time yet I don't know what he wants, do I just ask him?

Q.   Hi, pls help me decipher this. N is my colleague from another country (3hrs flight away). We know each other since 8months ago, chatting everyday on company chat and we meet up for coffee/lunch whenever we're in each other's location. Recently...

A.   4 June 2009: hi, thanks for that. It's been a few days after the kiss and still no mention. He still chats me everyday as per normal. After the kiss I put on my facebook msg 'i'm looking for something that I can't live without', and he asked me what it meant. ... (read in full...)

I love her so much it hurts!

Q.   I love her so much it hurts. We went out for a few months and then she randomly dumped me. Now her friends are saying she really doesnt care about me in any way what so ever anymore. Its it tearing me up for her to do this. she has never ever been ...

A.   27 February 2009: you are 16/17? u have so much ahead of you. move on... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend is driving me nuts with so much confusion!

Q.   My ex boyfriend and I broke up 3 1/2 months ago about. We have been friends throughout the breakup because he wanted to be. We do have sex but that has stoped, unless a rare occasion that I ask him- because he doesn't ever bring it up so I know that ...

A.   27 February 2009: i am in the same situation as you....he probably misses you cuz you guys are no longer together. but remember...he was the one who let you go in the first place. that already says a lot..........:(... (read in full...)

Should I wait and see what his intentions are or should I get out before I really fall in love with him and lose him and his kids?

Q.   Ok so I've been seeing this guy for a few months now and everything is going great but, he says he does not want a girlfriend. He treats me like his girlfriend we go out on the weekends and stay at each others houses overnight and sometimes for the ...

A.   27 February 2009: he's just not that into you. move on... (read in full...)

They say time heals but how long will it take to get over my break up?

Q.   how do you get over a guy? its been a month and i was doing fine then all of a sudden i start missing him and start thinking about him even though i know that we could never work because we're just too different and he doesnt match my needs. I cant ...

A.   21 September 2008: me been 4 months, and i still wake up in tears :)... (read in full...)

Is he just not that into me or am I being overly sensitive?

Q.   Hi, want to know what this guy is thinking. Is he interested in me, or he's just not that into me? Firstly, a bit of background on myself. I'm 28, and just broke up with my ex-bf after almost a year together. I know this guy A for almost a year no...

A.   3 August 2008: hmm...i don't think all his friends know that I like him. Only one of them does, and he's the one who told me that A likes me first. In fact, it was quite 'common knowledge' among this group that A had the hots for me 1 year ago and now that I'm ... (read in full...)

Why did he remove me as a friend on facebook? Can anyone figure out what he's thinking?

Q.   My ex R and I were together for almost a year, before he moved away to another country and wasn't committed. We are both around 30. We tried, but I pushed him away when I kept asking for commitment (yes i know 1 year is not long enough for ...

A.   21 July 2008: err....nothing happened, really.... (read in full...)

He's made the decision to move on without me. I don't know if I need any closure... or I just want to tell him I miss him.

Q.   Hi, those who have followed me will know. So what happens is, I had a bf of 9 months. We were happy together. However, he decided to move to another city without really considering me. After some discussion, we realized that I want to get married ...

A.   23 June 2008: i put in a lot of myself, and when he left, it seems like my life fell apart. I still try to be strong, but sometimes I think if he's back, a lot of my problems will be solved. At least I'll be happier... (read in full...)

Are these fortune tellers giving me false hopes?

Q.   Hi, I broke up with my b/f, I felt depressed so went to see several fortune tellers. They were pretty accurate about some stuff...and 2 of them said that my ex likes me a lot and he would come back next year. I dunno if this is giving me false hope...

A.   23 June 2008: haha you're funny. well we were together 9 months and were happy. Before I realized that he doesn't want commitment. He moved away, I asked for commitment IF i'm going to move for him. he wasn't comfortable with it said I kept nagging him and broke ... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   13 June 2008: well I said I hope he's feeling more relaxed now. And he said that I'm rite... he needs to take it easier no matter what. Told me that he's fine... don t worry about him... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   13 June 2008: recently my mum fell sick and i put something like i'm worried on facebook. He msged me asking if everything is fine, but we only talked for like 3 sentences. He asked me not to worry about him and that i was right, he has to learn how to take ... (read in full...)

After 8 years he still hasn't proposed. What do I do?

Q.   help. ive been dating my man for 8yrs.1n currently26 and he loves me. i know that. problem is he is taking too long to propose marriage. all my friends are married with kids and i started dating this guy way before they met their husbands. my ...

A.   11 June 2008: can u live with the fact that you might never get married? if not, leave...u rather be single than with someone who doesn't want to give you what you want. I was in the same situation, and we broke up. Funny thing is, after we broke up, I realized ... (read in full...)

If I ask, will he?

Q.   We're attracted to each other, we've flirted but I think he wants me to make the first move. If I tell him I want to have sex with him, will he turn me down?...

A.   8 June 2008: if you can handle it, go ahead. But be mentally prepared that he won't want a relationship with u regardless, manage your expectations... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   6 June 2008: it's been 2 weeks as i said and he's not contacted me....and might never will. Yet, I still miss him like crazy of course. I wonder....perhaps the reason why I can't move on is cuz we didn't have a proper closure (he broke up with me via email)? ... (read in full...)

What can I do to make me want me again and know I'm not going to leave him?

Q.   I am a several years longer than my husband and we have been married for almost a year. it will will be a year the 23rd of June. He seems to have lost intrest to me though. I do have everything he has said he likes, and we don't have any kids. I've ...

A.   6 June 2008: the only way to your problem...is to pretend you don't need him... (read in full...)

Is 5 years a big age gap?

Q.   i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 25 years of age..so do u think 5 years of age gap between us makes a difference..do u think he is too old for me????...

A.   6 June 2008: no it's not. enjoy... (read in full...)

How important is being true to yourself when it means loving someone who says they don't want you?

Q.   How important is being true to yourself when it brings you pain, for example when it means being in love with someone who says they don't want you? Is it fair to be with someone, knowing that you love another? I split up with a girlfriend of fi...

A.   6 June 2008: u just want the stuff you don't have... (read in full...)

Is he letting me down gently?

Q.   I have been seeing a guy who i 26 and im 31 we work together...he has come out of a long relationship around 3 months ago and i think he still has feelings for her because she ended it and he has anxiety issues..im also coming out of a relationship ...

A.   5 June 2008: he's just not that into you... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   5 June 2008: Thanks Mandy for your support. Yes, it was very low of him to do that...and I keep telling myself I deserve better. But not a moment has gone by without me thinking of him. ... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   4 June 2008: I still love him a lot and I can't let go. I have not contacted him as I know he will be happier without having to deal with me. But the thing is we broke up over email and I always felt that I do not have any closure.....however, I wonder ...so ... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   4 June 2008: it's been almost 2 weeks....and still nothing from him. is 2 weeks a good sign that he really does not want it anymore?... (read in full...)

He was still saying he misses me the morning of the break up! Do you think there's a chance I can get him back?

Q.   early may - i told bf we needed a break 2 days later - he moved to another city i sent him off at the airport next day - we talked about our issues on MSN and solved it. After which things were great 2 weeks later - I visited him in his new ...

A.   1 June 2008: you know Mr Big and carrie from sex and the city? The difference is, though Mr Big was commitment phobic...he NEVER broke up with Carrie.... (read in full...)

I wouldn't move on, but I want him to know I can stand on my own

Q.   I recently wrote about how my boyfriend and I broke up and I needed my things back. Actually he was the one that told me I should keep in mind he has to do other things but never mentioned break up. It's been quite long since we spoke and i texted ...

A.   31 May 2008: sigh, i'm in the same place as you now.....i'm torn between believing that if he loves me he will contact me.....vs if i should give him a declaration of love and hope he gets back tog with me... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   31 May 2008: thanks all. it's been a week.....how much longer do you think I should wait? should i contact him even if he does not call me again? how should i contact him? like 'how are you' or straight to the point that I want to get back together with him?... (read in full...)

I love her but my friends think she is ugly, shall I go out with her or leave it?

Q.   I love a girl and im 90% sure she fancies me. All my friends are friends with her but they think she is ugly. If i go out with her they will probably take the piss. Shall I go out with her or leave it?...

A.   30 May 2008: in my view, your friends are the ugly ones for not seeing how beautiful she can be... (read in full...)

After realising my foolish and impulsive behaviour towards my ex, I changed and repented completely, but he does not want to retie the string... what more can I do?

Q.   i want to get my ex back...i know he doesn't love me...but takes me only as a friend..we still talk....but the reason he left me was due to my constant questioning about girls messaging him and girls roaming about with him..he didn't have had any ...

A.   30 May 2008: i'm in exactly the same situation as you are....and my heart bleeds to know that I will never be with him again.... (read in full...)

Guys, have you broken up with a girl, then want to get back together? Girls, am I delusional or should I find someone who is ready for commitment?

Q.   Posted this earlier but no replies...really hope to get some advice here! My ex-bf and I had been together for almost a year. I want commitment, he doesn't want commitment....thus we did the classic girl nags at guy for commitment/guy i...

A.   29 May 2008: Do you think I should give him some space then try talking to him say 1 month later? Guys - if you were him, would you take back an ex-gf? ... (read in full...)

I'm so confused over my ex boyfriend...

Q.   I'm confused about my ex bf and have a few questions. A week before breaking up with me, he started ignoring some of my messages which he would always reply too. he stoped calling and messaging me non stop and asking where i was and who i was wi...

A.   29 May 2008: you know what...my ex bf broke up with me like that too. We had a great time a week before..then 5 days later he broke up with me via email. I will be interested to know what others have to say!... (read in full...)

I feel like I wasn't good enough to keep him and I'm having trouble dealing with this.

Q.   I think my boyfriend broke up with me because he didn't want to wait till there was enough trust in our relationship to have sex. He has a history of sleeping around and going out with girls who get into bed with guys within the first week of ...

A.   29 May 2008: i'm sorry, this guy is really not worth it. You are worth more than that. I know it sounds harsh, I'm in the midst of a break up myself, but I have to tell you the truth.... (read in full...)

Don’t want to break up, so what I gonna do?

Q.   My boyfriend is breaking up with me, and actually this is not the first time. The fisrt time was one year ago, and we got back after 10 months. He made us back, he only said that he missed me so much and I have the same feeling as him. But we’ve ...

A.   28 May 2008: You should go. Do what you want to do. If he comes back, he's yours.... (read in full...)

What can a girl do to get a guy out of a bad mood?

Q.   Hey I was just wondering what a girl is supposed to do to get a guy out of a bad mood and sort of comfort him. Any ideas anyone. Thanks for the answers....

A.   27 May 2008: leave him alone. guys like to sort things out themselves... (read in full...)

Should I try to talk to him again?

Q.   I was with my ex for a year. We broke up 4 months ago. It's been hard for me. I wish that I could have did things different. There was no cheating or nothing like that. We just had problems like any other couple have. I would lash out at him alot ...

A.   27 May 2008: as long as there is love...things can be worked out....it is never too hard if you truly love each other. have a set of core values you want to keep...then try to compromise the rest... (read in full...)

Is it too late for me to try and get his trust back? What should I say the next time I see him?

Q.   Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. I pushed him away from me. I've learned a lot in these last 3 months that I didn't know before. I've been going to church and attending bible study, not for my relationship, but for myself to change my attitude ...

A.   26 May 2008: keep your dignity...if he wants u, he will call you... (read in full...)

It's a stressful period for him, should I give him time and hope for reconciliation? I started nagging him about commitment and we broke up.

Q.   I just broke up with my bf...together for almost a year and things were great. We are in our 20s-30s so mature adults here. Thing is we've had different expectations about marriage (I know this is a fundamental problem) and he's going through some ...

A.   26 May 2008: sigh...the thing is....if we would get back together at all ... (read in full...)

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