Why the double standard?
Q. Why do guys become 'the man', and girls become 'the slut' after sex too soon? i slept with a guy that chased me like crazy and yeah I know...I shouldnt have. if he stopped contact because he thought I was easy, then how is this not a double ...
A. 12 July 2010: Please please stop listening to the hate, from both males and females. Try and see it from a guys point of veiw.
You said in your post you know you shouldn't have slept with him? Why? A massive majority of men if you make him work for it, will... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me, and I can't seem to get over it!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend of 8 months cheated on me and I haven't been able to deal with it very well. She told me on our 8 month anniversary that she went to a bar, a guy bought her drinks and she got really drunk. She ended up sleeping with him. I brok...
A. 12 July 2010: Thanks for the feedback. Again try and go cold turkey on her as much as you can for a while.
And go and find someone to talk to. It's really important. You're in Canada. We spend a lot of money on mental health if you look for it. Tell the... (read in full...)
Please help! So confused because I'm in love with my second cousin ..
Q. all these days i was totally keeping this with myself, say for ten long years... now i feel little relaxed that its not only me who feels this but there are so many ppl... i just wanna know, are these kinds of relationships just an attraction or can ...
A. 12 July 2010: I'm one who believes everything's a crush until it's fulfilled. Sometimes it's normal to like someone you're not supposed to because it keeps us from growing up too fast. Because it won't be fulfilled, and therefore you won't get hurt by being let ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he's become distant!
Q. I met a boy in Montana about two weeks ago. We hung out a few times while I was there and we had an instant connection. I have never felt so comfortable around a guy in my entire life. He kept telling me how much he wished i lived in Montana, and ...
A. 12 July 2010: I think it's a simple thing. Men like to communicate differently than women. We like to use actions not words. If you text him all the time and there is no way he can act out his feelings for you, it can be very frustrating.
I agree with the... (read in full...)
Why the double standard?
Q. Why do guys become 'the man', and girls become 'the slut' after sex too soon? i slept with a guy that chased me like crazy and yeah I know...I shouldnt have. if he stopped contact because he thought I was easy, then how is this not a double ...
A. 12 July 2010: It's not at all a double standard. It's just the way guys are programmed. As a guy you want to chase. If you get the girl right away, even if you've liked her for a long time, it's a total high for you and the chasing mechanism is gone. If the gir... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me, and I can't seem to get over it!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend of 8 months cheated on me and I haven't been able to deal with it very well. She told me on our 8 month anniversary that she went to a bar, a guy bought her drinks and she got really drunk. She ended up sleeping with him. I brok...
A. 12 July 2010: I'm sorry this happened to you. It can be a terrible feeling. But it has happened many times before, and with some steps, we can get you back on your feet. First, you have to figure out a way to see her as little as possible for the next little ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 19 and have never even kissed a girl!
Q. Hello. I'm 18, nearly 19 and I have never kissed a girl before, infact I've never hooked up with a girl before (or whatever all you hip kids are calling it nowadays). I feel there are several factors affecting this. 1; I'm a naturally very reclusive ...
A. 10 July 2010: I really like Lindy's and Romany's answers too. I wish I had such good advice at your age.... (read in full...)
He's begging to come back but I just don't have the strength. Any comments?
Q. I have been married for almost 17 years, but have been separated for the last 12 months. I separated beacuse I just could not take anymore, the lies, the secrets, etc... He just was not a man, I mean in taking care of the house or me. nor was he a...
A. 10 July 2010: I agree with other posters that it may be too late to take him back, but I seem to be missing something here. Why did you have to beg him for money? Why did he have anything to do with the money at all? I know many successful relationships wh... (read in full...)
I'm almost 19 and have never even kissed a girl!
Q. Hello. I'm 18, nearly 19 and I have never kissed a girl before, infact I've never hooked up with a girl before (or whatever all you hip kids are calling it nowadays). I feel there are several factors affecting this. 1; I'm a naturally very reclusive ...
A. 10 July 2010: There's no problem here. You're just in a virgin rut. You're hormones are getting to you. Once you've had one girlfriend, everything should turn out OK.
Time to get some help from the Mormons. (No joke) Now I'm not at all a Morman, but when I w... (read in full...)
I'm interested in my boss, how can I move things with him forward?
Q. I am in the final days of my job and I have a BIG crush on my higher boss. For the pass few months I have been picking up on his body language. When in a whole staff meeting of about 70 staff he scans the room looking for me then stares. when I ...
A. 10 July 2010: The answer is in your question. He's volunteered to help you, get him to help you. Few things spur on male hormones more than helping a woman you're attracted to in need. It almost doesn't matter what need it is. But the fact that you actually need ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a bisexual or gay?
Q. I have a boyfriend who lives in a gay village in montreal, He stays with a 60 year old guy (apparently gay). But according to my boyfriend that this guy has been a very good friend of him for years now, and that they're just friends like a family. ...
A. 9 July 2010: I have no problem with the gay aspect of this, but I think this guy has already made his decisions about the direction his life will take. He has decided to become apart of this man's.
Since his decision is made, I don't think it matters about tr... (read in full...)
How do you have anal sex painlessly?
Q. my boyfriend wants to penetrate me from the 'rear' can anyone offer advice on how to do it painlessly?...
A. 9 July 2010: I hate to say this, but the way I got my girlfriend to enjoy it, was to court her. I did lots of little things over many nights to get her used to it. I waited till she was ready. Then when it happened it took our relationship to a nice new ... (read in full...)
My life is out of control!!!
Q. Let me start with a brief backround. (I was diagnosed with OCD when i was a teen right now i am 25 years old and still suffer with ocd. I am currently going in grad school ; live with my parents, and have a curfew. Also my boyfriend just ended our 5 ...
A. 9 July 2010: Your mental health is the most important thing. I think it's time to move out as soon as you can. Why can't you postpone school for a year? Maybe take classes slowly so it might be cheaper. I'm sure if you tell them you have difficulties they ... (read in full...)
Please help! So confused because I'm in love with my second cousin ..
Q. all these days i was totally keeping this with myself, say for ten long years... now i feel little relaxed that its not only me who feels this but there are so many ppl... i just wanna know, are these kinds of relationships just an attraction or can ...
A. 9 July 2010: As somebody who was lucky enough to go to school in India, I see your point. One of the things that happens for girls is that they can be very well protected. I think this is good for a girl's heart, but can lead to some problems. I think you've... (read in full...)
Am I meant to mention every guy I've had a thing with before I knew my boyfriend?
Q. Hey guys just wondering if i could have some opinions! Myself and my new boyfriend, both 21 have been together for about 2 1/2 months. Last night he found out (in a conversation between us two where i couldnt lie) about a guy he knows who i had ...
A. 9 July 2010: Sorry I had better amend my answer. Again I think the problem is this guy. I understand his point of view. But I have to admit I see why you did this. I'm sorry I read it as something more serious. I still think you need to sit down and a... (read in full...)
My brothers friends seem to really like me, what should I do?
Q. well there are 2 boys that know my brother and are friends with him .one of them be coming here when he isnt home and i let him in to wait on him. my brother dont know he he really likes me. now the other one lives on the same block as me and he a...
A. 9 July 2010: I think it's very good you told that boy to get out right away. He was totally wrong. I think you need to tell your parents about that one. If it's all really bothering you tell a close older family member if not your parents. They will help. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be clingy but I would like to maintain contact with her...
Q. So I met a girl in class through a class project and we have talked here and there during school. I'm not madly in love or anything, just interested. But she just graduated and is currently out of the country on vacation. The night before her ...
A. 9 July 2010: I like Xantic's answer because it's safe. It's a good time to contact, because no matter what happened on vacation, she's starting a new.
But you might also think of a quick note to her on her vacation. See if you can get her e-mail easily. ... (read in full...)
Awkward situation at work - how do I handle this?
Q. Hi, I'm a team leader at my place of work and am caught in between an awkard situation. There's this woman who joined the team last year from another office part of our work group as she was pregnant and needed to downsize her workload ...
A. 9 July 2010: I have never been in an office where babies were allowed to be shown. Especially because of a reason like this. That should not be allowed on company time.
And the baby magazines? On their own time and own space I think. Nowhere in public. ... (read in full...)
Am I meant to mention every guy I've had a thing with before I knew my boyfriend?
Q. Hey guys just wondering if i could have some opinions! Myself and my new boyfriend, both 21 have been together for about 2 1/2 months. Last night he found out (in a conversation between us two where i couldnt lie) about a guy he knows who i had ...
A. 9 July 2010: I think the problem here is this guy. If you have a friend who is an ex, you should mention this to your boyfriend after you are officially "going steady". I know I would be upset.
Every guy has seen at least one of his friends lose his girl to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says we're over the "lovey-dovey" stage!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year and it was fine at first all the lovey dovey holding hands and kissing. now he says we are over that stage. i don't understand why it stopped. i still want to do all that what should i do?...
A. 8 July 2010: As a guy you are taught to do little lovey dovey things to let a girl know you are interested. The problem is that most men are not really like this. That's why it's better to be yourself and not listen to others about dating as a guy.
This ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me saying she's going back to her ex for everyone else, not herself
Q. im 31 and met a girl of 23, she was with someone who she has 2 kids with, i never felt happy about seing her but she was very insistent as i felt guilty for what we was doing, it was a case for the first 2-3 weeks that we would meet every other ...
A. 8 July 2010: Sometimes you have to let a woman go, even if you are still in love. I think there is too much baggage in this relationship.
I think someone else deserves your love. Time to move on. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Will we ever be able to move forward with our relationship?
Q. ok well just over a year a go i met my boyfriend in a club. I saw him and could not help but smile at him. We had spoken briefly years before on facebook and I recognised him. Immediately I had a feeling that something would happen between us and I ...
A. 8 July 2010: I think it's good to get your feelings out. It can be very cathartic.
But I think you may be too worried about your man.
The simple answer here is to move out asap and to relax. Going through a lot with somebody is the basis for a solid rela... (read in full...)
Scared of flying!
Q. Hi guys, can someone please advise. I'm going on holiday soon and hate when the plane takes off. I get so scared and have to hold someones hand- stupid o know! I can't read or distract myself either. Any advice?? ...
A. 8 July 2010: I had that feeling when I first started flying now I don't mind it. It can take a few flights to get used to. I found when I thought about the wonderful place I was about to go to and who I would see, it overcame my feelings of being scared. It will ... (read in full...)
At what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why?
Q. Hey Guys: Just for curiosity's sake, at what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why? And for those of you married already, at what age did you tie the not? What made you want to get married and was it more about the person or about ...
A. 8 July 2010: In my family it's all about timing. Our motto is never get married before 35 if you're a man, unless it is with the ultimate woman and she will get away. There is not one divorce in our family tree, and most of them are the sloppy in love kind. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend that I live with wants space. What should I do.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Things have been going perfect til about 3 months ago. The intimacy stopped. I chucked it up to her getting sick and the move I was going through. We talked about it long and hard and we decided ...
A. 8 July 2010: I think there are 3 answers to this.
She loves you, enough to move in with you, but not in an intimate way anymore. More of a brother or sister way.
Or secondly she is a very controlling person and is doing this to see how far she can control ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend that I live with wants space. What should I do.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Things have been going perfect til about 3 months ago. The intimacy stopped. I chucked it up to her getting sick and the move I was going through. We talked about it long and hard and we decided ...
A. 8 July 2010: I think there are 3 answers to this. She loves you, enough to move in with you, but not in an intimate way anymore. More of a brother or sister way. Or secondly she is a very controlling person and is doing this to see how far she can cont... (read in full...)
I'm beggin my LD girlfriend for attention
Q. hey , i have a problem with a long distance realationship , so far me and my gf been together for over 2 years now , im australlian and shes british , we see eachother on and off usually on vacations, but lately she got a job (which shes quitting ...
A. 8 July 2010: I think the problem here is that she is a girl. She needs intimate time one on one with her someone special with the person being next to her. I think a long distance relationship works when you are at a certain stage in that relationship and you ... (read in full...)
Wife wants attention of strangers
Q. We've been married about 25 years and have had our problems like any couple usually does. I adore my wife and have eyes only for her. My wife is still very good-looking, very shapely, but lately, she says, has had doubts about herself and when, out ...
A. 8 July 2010: Wow, I'll do my best to help. I think it is very, very normal for a woman to need to be "wanted" by others and still be deeply in love with her husband. It's a way for a woman to feel sexy about herself. When a woman feels that others "want" af... (read in full...)
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