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Does it sound like we are just friends or could he like me as more than a friend?

Q.   I'm really attracted to a man at work. He seems to like my company. He asks me things about myself, he bought me coffee once, he sits near me in the staff room and the other week, he asked where I was when I wasn't in. He is a nice man and a ...

A.   11 November 2013: Thanks for the reply. It's nice to hear I could help you out. Hope everything works out. Love to hear what happens. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Is he playing games or does he fancy me? Why did he delete my phone number? Yet still flirts with me?

Q.   Very brief- The guy is mid 40s. We work together and used to get on really really well, flirting, he use to be my bodyguard, defensive protective and at times jealous. We had a big argument, i told him i didn't fancy him (rumours were going arou...

A.   11 November 2013: I believe he deleted your number and is not making a move because likes you, but you shut him down. Especially with everything you describe. Also, when there's such an age gap, you have to let him know that you like him. An older guy will usu... (read in full...)

Does it sound like we are just friends or could he like me as more than a friend?

Q.   I'm really attracted to a man at work. He seems to like my company. He asks me things about myself, he bought me coffee once, he sits near me in the staff room and the other week, he asked where I was when I wasn't in. He is a nice man and a ...

A.   9 November 2013: This is a tough question. He might just be very very shy. That's what it sounds like. Or he might be the kind of guy that wants to be a friend first before he asks a girl out. But I think the key is that you're younger than him. Is he much... (read in full...)

Is he playing games or does he fancy me? Why did he delete my phone number? Yet still flirts with me?

Q.   Very brief- The guy is mid 40s. We work together and used to get on really really well, flirting, he use to be my bodyguard, defensive protective and at times jealous. We had a big argument, i told him i didn't fancy him (rumours were going arou...

A.   9 November 2013: Wow. I have to admit this story is confusing. What does this line mean: "he went to managers about me and lied whilst would not let me go in terms of stop working with him." Does that mean you got reprimanded but still have to work with each ... (read in full...)

Need advice on dating a girl I like

Q.   Dear everyone, I really need your help concerning a girl I have recently met. She's cute, nice and totally a keeper :) Now, we met in a completely neutral context. We were introduced to each other through some friends of my parents because sh...

A.   6 November 2013: I hope this is not too late. Mate, first of all quit worrying if she likes you. She does. Otherwise she would not have agreed to go to the movies with you after you met at a coffee shop. So please stop thinking like that. You're not grea... (read in full...)

I know he just got out of a relationship ...

Q.   I really hope and pray someone can please help me out. When I was young about 14 or so I was at a party and I met this guy we made out, then at one point we went outside and walked to a park and just talked. At that time he was a bit older so when ...

A.   3 November 2013: I'm going to let you in on a little male secret. There are very few things sexier to a single man than a woman you meet when you're on the rebound, who's then still single and happy a few months later when you're ready to date. It's also a great ... (read in full...)

Nineteen. Never had a boyfriend. How will that affect my future relationships, when I do start dating?

Q.   So basically I'm concerned that not having boyfriend experience will cause me to have a horrible first relationship. I'm not saying I wanted to have a boyfriend in high school simply for the sake of having one, but I just wish I had had that exp...

A.   2 November 2013: Good News. Every good man I know loves a late bloomer. Most of my friends are married to late bloomers and they're all still married to them. I think the key is for you to relax and do the simple things to meet a good guy. Go out and join lot... (read in full...)

I think he's interested but hasn't asked me out. Should I suggest something?

Q.   Hey I really need a mans advice here. I'm 18 and I'm interested in a man of 25 and I think he's interested in me too despite the slight age gap as we have very similar interests and are in similar worlds of gigging and music etc.. He's shown signs...

A.   31 October 2013: I hope you're still around to read this. 7 years is not a big difference at all. The AVERAGE difference in my family tree is 14 years and there's not one couple even close to a divorce. 121/121. Most are the still sloppily in love kind. S... (read in full...)

My ex won't let go and is telling people how he misses me and sending me things in the mail

Q.   Can any of u lovely people help me.... I've posted here before. I was with a man a few years older than me for 2 years. In those 2 years he cheated for 15 months (I was the mistress it turned out) I tried to stay and forgive him. It just didn't work ...

A.   31 October 2013: You seem like a very very good person and a kind soul so I'm going to answer this differently. Let's look at it from his perspective. What does he have to risk? If his whole family hates you, you were the one they blamed, not him. And he got... (read in full...)

Contact -- yes or no?

Q.   I liked this girl a lot. This was my first relationship (or pseudo). During our time together (4 months), I was the one who more often initiated the conversations, was completely honest about everything. She seemed to me an honest girl hers...

A.   24 October 2013: Thanks for the reply. It's good to understand how you're thinking. I agree, she's trying to make herself feel better. And if you want to text no probs. But let her know what you're thinking while being polite about it. Another way is t... (read in full...)

Contact -- yes or no?

Q.   I liked this girl a lot. This was my first relationship (or pseudo). During our time together (4 months), I was the one who more often initiated the conversations, was completely honest about everything. She seemed to me an honest girl hers...

A.   22 October 2013: You need a break from her. Don't be mean, just text back "I'm sorry, I don't want to mean but you didn't write me back. You don't want me to be the man in your life, which I think you're wrong about, so I need a long break from you." or ... (read in full...)

Advice on getting over an abusive relationship?

Q.   Hey guys. I'm in serious need of some help. I'm at a really low point. I'm coming out of an emotionally abusive relationship and I'm really having a hard time. It's only been a few days and I'm already struggling so much. I've always been such...

A.   6 October 2013: First, great answer by AB. Time will help a lot. But I think concentrating on good healthy relationships with friends and family can too. By doing this, it will teach and help you learn what to see and what you need in a good person around y... (read in full...)

How long afer meeting should I text? Or should I at all?

Q.   I am a gay female, in needs of friends, of course id like to eet somene but new friends are important I've met someone recently from an online dating/friendship site, we have been messageing online for a few weeks, they are just looking for frie...

A.   6 October 2013: If she really said "talk to you very soon", that's a great sign. I've always heard that phrase in a positive way. It means she wants to talk. Especially when she's so busy. And you're assuming she's not as socially awkward as you. I'm a very g... (read in full...)

Is it normal or healthy in a love relationship for your girl or guy to frequently mention some other guy or girl's name?

Q.   is it normal or healthy in a love relationship for your girl or guy to frequently mention some other guy or girl's name? my girl seems to mention this one guy's name every time we conversate. i once asked her and she said he was just a collegue and ...

A.   6 October 2013: I agree it could be a number of things, but we really don't know. The fact that she gets defensive about it is not great, but we don't know how she was feeling that day and I agree we don't know the circumstances how it was asked. I think the a... (read in full...)

My crush doesn't speak to me at all

Q.   please help i have a deep crush on a guy in college and he doesnt speak to me at all even though we used to when we attended a college program.its been almost a year like this but a few months ago he wished me on my birthday online in ...

A.   28 September 2013: Hi. I am this kind of guy. I think it's that he's just very tongue tied. He may have such a big crush on you that he doesn't know how to even spend a few minutes with you without being nervous. Since he's a guy, there's a simple answer for... (read in full...)

With all my issues I'm afraid he's more into me than I am to him

Q.   okay so im seeing this guy and everythings fine and its literally my first 'relationship' so to speak in over two or three years. my last relationship was with a guy who really was awful and forced me to have sex with him before bullying me and ...

A.   22 September 2013: OK, I'll do my best. From what I can see there are a few things. Trust. You're going to have to take your time with this one. He's probably more into you simply because you need to be able to trust him a ton to be into him. This is normal, ... (read in full...)

Twelve years of friendship, and now four months of being ignored

Q.   Let's start off here: Born blonde, beautiful, thriving, I was in Pennsylvania. And then we make a huge move. My grandfather was very ill with lupus and old age, and we needed to be with him as soon as possible. No one knew when he'd go. Our pla...

A.   4 February 2012: PS. I think you wrote so beautifully because you were so passionate about it. Sometimes, people can't understand that. I think it was lovely and keep writing. And don't give up on a good friend. All the best. ... (read in full...)

Twelve years of friendship, and now four months of being ignored

Q.   Let's start off here: Born blonde, beautiful, thriving, I was in Pennsylvania. And then we make a huge move. My grandfather was very ill with lupus and old age, and we needed to be with him as soon as possible. No one knew when he'd go. Our pla...

A.   4 February 2012: First of all, you should seriously consider being a writer. Really!! That story was beautifully told. I'll try my best to look at it from a guys perspective. From what I can see, he felt like you were a very good friend. He may have liked y... (read in full...)

I had hoped that he would feel the pain of being dumped and now that he has, I feel guilty!

Q.   Please let this question go up i need some help :( Ok a stupid question but please hear me out. How can I make myself feel better for something that I didnt cause? I'll explain. On St Stephens day/Boxing day A guy i was dating for five months...

A.   28 January 2012: First of all, every girl I know would have felt like you did. You did absolutely nothing wrong by hoping he could understand your heart break. He should have felt that before he broke up with you the way he did. But I'm sure you're thoughts... (read in full...)

Love in return of cheating. . . Is this right?

Q.   I have been in love with a girl since 4 months or more. I truly loved her and cared for her. I could do anything to make her smile. And, i thought she felt the same for me. Our relation started with some problems of her with her ex boyfriend. I ...

A.   28 January 2012: Sorry, about that. Most guys have been there. When girls are young, some have no idea how to control their feelings. So they do things like this. It's natural, so a girl doesn't get too serious at too young of an age. Don't be angry with he... (read in full...)

What do you think I should do when I see him again?

Q.   hey I'm a twenty year old girl and i am a virgin. I have never had a boyfriend in my life, just hookups. Beacuse of my problems with attachment. I find it very hard to connect with people especially guys. But you cant really tell by how i look. I ...

A.   24 January 2012: I think it's fine if you want to explain yourself to him, but you need to do it in a way that's not intense. Find a nice easy way and place of saying it to him. Just go understanding that probably won't help you to get him back, but it might give ... (read in full...)

How can I get my friend to take me seriously for once?

Q.   I'm 17 and my 2 closest friends (we aren't really close, but we're closer compared to us and the others) are beginning to take advantage of me. I'm really reliable and sympathetic, so if *X* or *XJ* need anything support wise, I'll do whatever...

A.   22 January 2012: One note. When you freak out him, make sure you walk away. I'd let him come to you to apologize. But if he doesn't come to you, then go and talk to him or text him in whatever way you feel. But wait at least a day or you'll look weak and he won't ... (read in full...)

How could I remove the misunderstanding? I'm hurting inside.

Q.   I'm 19 and IT's been 2 years that I live in this new town, I left my bestfriends and my boyfriend and everybody I'm attached to and when i got here it was so difficult making friends again. But I made two best friends and we used to spend all the ...

A.   21 January 2012: I'm so sorry you feel alone. I know how you feel that it can be tough, especially when you're in a new place. Sometimes, when you're younger, these things happen. Try and write a letter to your friend to straighten things out. It might work if ... (read in full...)

How can I get my friend to take me seriously for once?

Q.   I'm 17 and my 2 closest friends (we aren't really close, but we're closer compared to us and the others) are beginning to take advantage of me. I'm really reliable and sympathetic, so if *X* or *XJ* need anything support wise, I'll do whatever...

A.   21 January 2012: This one's a tough one. I think you're in the "being treated like one of the guys but as a girl" zone. They're joking around with you like you're one of the boys, but treating you as a soft girl. From what you say, they seem to take you for gran... (read in full...)

Our first date didn't go so well, is there a possibility for redemption?

Q.   I was set up with this guy by a mutual friend and right off the bat there were awkward silences. I don't know if it was because of me or him, but I just couldn't think of anything to get the conversation going and apparently neither could he. I'm ...

A.   21 January 2012: Ya, sorry I think it does. It's his move next. If he doesn't make a move then you'll know - at least for now. At least the next time when you meet you'll have already communicated and it'll help avoid that awkward moment. Make sure you say hi t... (read in full...)

Am I moving too fast?

Q.   My boyfriend of only 3 months emigrated to Australia on a working holiday visa today. Before I had even met him I'd planned on going myself with a group of friends in September. Now Im thinking that I hate being away from him and I'll go over ...

A.   20 January 2012: If you were thinking of going over next month, ya that might be a bit fast. But anytime after Febuary and I think you're perfectly fine and you've given him enough space. Life is 3 times as packed when you're in a new country so it will seem a lot ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong for being jealous?

Q.   I am dating a guy we have been together for about 2 months now. we have yet to have sex. I've known him for over 10 years we used to hate each other and now we are in love... weird right? ok well tonight we were talking and i asked him when the last ...

A.   20 January 2012: This is a hard one. Unless you both decided you were boyfriend and girlfriend, you really can't fault him for sleeping with someone else. He wasn't yours yet. Now if he slept with anyone after you decided to be more serious, that would be very dif... (read in full...)

Our first date didn't go so well, is there a possibility for redemption?

Q.   I was set up with this guy by a mutual friend and right off the bat there were awkward silences. I don't know if it was because of me or him, but I just couldn't think of anything to get the conversation going and apparently neither could he. I'm ...

A.   20 January 2012: Kinda shocked there aren't a lot of answers to your question. It's a very interesting one. I have lots of friends who got married or had long interesting relationships after an awful first date. Wanna know why? Because the guy was trying t... (read in full...)

Is he embarrassed to be with me?

Q.   A guy told me he lvd me but i never believed him. i later find out that a friend of mine was warning him to stay away from me cuz she thought he wasnt the right guy 4 me. wheneva we chat he constantly keep askin me about that girl. He has even been ...

A.   20 January 2012: I'll try and help. My observations: 1. He's trying to get you jealous and show you he's in demand 2. He's doing the same thing to your friend but in a different way. 3. He sounds like a "player" and because you're allowing it, and he's ge... (read in full...)

My feelings are so strong that I have trouble dating other girls but she only want to be friends

Q.   So there's this girl that's pretty much my bestest friend. The fun we can have together is un-freaking believable, and I love her to death. A little while back we were kinda poking at the idea of being a little more than friends. She admitted to me ...

A.   20 January 2012: Been there many times myself. You're stuck in the "friends zone" when you weren't at the beginning. I think you have one of 3 choices. 1. Suck it up and stay friends. Eventually, it'll get better as time passes and you'll find it's just easier t... (read in full...)

What do you think I should do when I see him again?

Q.   hey I'm a twenty year old girl and i am a virgin. I have never had a boyfriend in my life, just hookups. Beacuse of my problems with attachment. I find it very hard to connect with people especially guys. But you cant really tell by how i look. I ...

A.   18 January 2012: I think I'll try and write from the guy's perspective. First off, when you break up with a girl you really like, it's really tough for a guy. Unlike women, most men do not like to talk about it too much. So it usually takes more time to get over... (read in full...)

Mixed signals...how should I go about this guy??

Q.   Well normally I hate these type of questions but I'm desperate enough to want to ask. So, here goes: There's this guy in my uni, whom I have a crush on..We have the same classes and everything but I never really got to meet him until now. We ra...

A.   24 December 2010: Since nobody else has answered I'll try and help. Think of it from a guy's perspective. You keep saying you're not showing your feelings and you're shy. He likes you a lot, so he's doing everything to woooh you...like making you feel great....th... (read in full...)

Girls can you understand why she dumped me? I loved her

Q.   We met... there was an interest, we hooked up an became the best of friends that slepted together after a year of this we eventually wised up and officially became a couple, i have had alot of girls and im no amateur but we were so happy together, ...

A.   17 December 2010: Some girls can't handle being single. Maybe she saw you as her security blanket and didn't want to risk being single until she got back. You are so lucky to have that experience in China. But sometimes travel and culture change can be hard on ... (read in full...)

Is he simply playing games?

Q.   There's this guy I started developing feelings for were both the same age 19, I'll be 20 in a few weeks. We met in this internet-chat thing about 5 years ago. But we talked for a few months then stopped. He found me again on Facebook, I added him. ...

A.   17 December 2010: It sounds like he's not that into you. It happens. Stop texting him. Let him go after you. No matter how good a guy is, if you sleep with a guy quickly, then the relationship will not be as serious to him. It sounds like that's what happened... (read in full...)

I just can't get intellectual stimulation from him!

Q.   I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. Before we decided to take that step, we were best friends for about 5 years. The problem is a few months ago, we began to fight a lot. Last month, I finally decided I cant be in such an unhealthy ...

A.   17 December 2010: If it's not there for him, it's not there. No one can begrudge you that. I think you should never tell him that he's not your conversational equal. Simply state that when you're apart everything is OK, but when you're together the chemistry just ... (read in full...)

I thought there was hope for us... but now I'm not so sure... help!

Q.   three years ago I was going out with someone who cared so much about me that he wanted to marry me. I was hanging around with a bad crowd and drinking. I was given a choice stop or lose him. At the time I was in total denial of my problem and he ...

A.   15 December 2010: Firstly, congratulations on kicking the drinking habit. It's good to kick it out, if it's a negative in your life. Keep it up and good luck with that. Secondly, I can see why he's unhappy. Not that I agree with him, but I can see it. He broke up... (read in full...)

Should I confess to my crush?

Q.   I met this really great guy online several months ago. He recently had back surgery, and during his recovery we have become closer friends. We text and phone every day. He is still recovering from the surgery. We see each other approximately every ...

A.   15 December 2010: Reading your reply was lovely. You seem so much to be on the right track, and I think you've met the right match. Hope everything works out. ... (read in full...)

She talks about all her male friends but I'm not allowed to talk about any women!

Q.   I have a fiance that everytime I bring something up all she talks about is her male "friends" and how great they are and then if I once talk about a co-worker she gets all upset and says I am not allowed to talk to any women. I am beginning to ...

A.   14 December 2010: Sorry mate, but you have to get control over this situation soon, or you may never be happy when these type of disagreements happen between the two of you again. Good relationships are based on trust and respect, and what apply's to one should ... (read in full...)

Should I confess to my crush?

Q.   I met this really great guy online several months ago. He recently had back surgery, and during his recovery we have become closer friends. We text and phone every day. He is still recovering from the surgery. We see each other approximately every ...

A.   14 December 2010: I believe most guys, especially shy ones, don't respond to forward advances by women so well. Most men want to chase, not to be chased. Try to use your femine wiles to get him to go after you and to kiss you. Not the other way around. I'm s... (read in full...)

I really love my best friend! What do I do now?

Q.   I'm in love with my best friend i've known her since last year when we met at a volleyball on Homecoming vs: [removed]. We both go to High School and i'm a Senior, she's a Sophmore, she says i'm really smart , she does like and thinks im an ...

A.   14 December 2010: It sounds like she likes you, but you haven't made a connection yet to her heart. My suggestion. Write out your favorite things to do (besides video games) and which ones she would enjoy doing - something new and fun and something you wo... (read in full...)

Should I trust my otherwise wonderful wife who is my best friend and soulmate or listen to the frightening inconsistencies about her moral character?

Q.   I am married for about a year and a half to a wonderful woman who I fell head over heels for marrying after only 10 months. There are some concerns that have surfaced that I really need advice about TRUST issues. Shortly after we got together...

A.   13 December 2010: My Grandfather after getting to know my Grandmother's close "questionable" family and how young and carefree with other boys she was, was also worried. He was sure an investigator would find something since she was spending a lot of time outside ... (read in full...)

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