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| | -gemma-1990-'s profile:Heya my names Gemma as all my m8s no, but i normally get nicknamed Gem! lol but i dnt mind. nt alot happens in my life i just ave work, meet up wiv m8s sumtimes, nd spend time(weekends) wiv john, hu is the bestest boyfriend ive eva had! i luv him soo mch! i seem 2 av alot of bd luck which ent gd but ill get by, just. ive finished all my school education, i started college but i got kicked out :-| nt a gd start but o well! i ent goin bck there either! |
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I think my doctor took my virginity! Should I press charges?
Q. i think mydoctor took my virginity!i was a virgin and i went to the doctor for a pap spear and a swab exam.when I told the doctor to be gentle because i was a virgin his whole facial expression changed.he was going to fast.he didn't care if i was ...
A. 12 November 2008: now, calm down. he did not take your virginity just because he was meaner about examining you compared to other doctors.
if im completely honest, id say you dont know very much at all about sex. there is no way his fingers could have been insi... (read in full...)
Why won't my Mom let me go on the pill?
Q. the relationship between me and my mum is rapidly changing and i dont know what to do. me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently lost our virginities to each other, hes the best thing in the world, treats me like a princess and he and my mum do get ...
A. 6 November 2008: just go to the doctors urself, ive been goin on my own about personal ailments since i was 15 or 16. i went on the pill earlier this year before i turned 18 and i went to the dotor on my own and my mum never knew anything about it, i came off the ... (read in full...)
2 questions - why can't I cum and why do my nipples always get hard?
Q. i have 2 questions: okay heres the first. i can't cum no matter what. i've tried masturbating different ways, but nothing works, and i have been mastubating since i was young and i can have an orgasm but i don't cum.. and the only way i have an or...
A. 5 November 2008: firstly, make sure you are completely relaxed before you masturbate or before your bf plays with you. take a warm bath and wrap up in a silky or fluffy dressing gown, and dont think about anything stressful (homework, coursework, parents etc) if ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and my mum wants me to have an abortion
Q. Me and My boyfriend have been together for just over 8 months..he's the one for me,ive never been so happy, i couldnt ask for anything else of a partner. Weve been trying for a baby, and every month, i have my period, and its a smack in the face.ive...
A. 5 November 2008: well for starters your not underage, so your mum cant really stop you.
secondly, all parents are mad at first, unless your like, in you mid 20's then theyll probably be mad that your NOT pregnant LOL.
thirdly, she will, or should, calm down in ... (read in full...)
More has developed with this guy in work in a short while than has in one year with my boyfriend.
Q. ok where do i begin? im in a bit of a tight spot, theres a guy at work and i think he likes me but theres one problem - i have a boyfriend! if any of you know me from posting previously, its the same boyfriend ive had since august last year. b...
A. 4 November 2008: i work in the liskeard branch. hehe
if i remember the penzance branch is huge! or am i thinkin of newquay, hmmm . . .... (read in full...)
More has developed with this guy in work in a short while than has in one year with my boyfriend.
Q. ok where do i begin? im in a bit of a tight spot, theres a guy at work and i think he likes me but theres one problem - i have a boyfriend! if any of you know me from posting previously, its the same boyfriend ive had since august last year. b...
A. 3 November 2008: i work at morrisons? does that help?... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but we know nothing about it and are both 13!
Q. my bf and i have been dating for a year and we both wanna have sex but we can't because a: my hymen hasn't broken and b: we are both 13. what do we do?...
A. 31 August 2008: that is the silliest excuse i have heard for not having sex: "my hymen hasnt broken"! thats the whole idea of sex! its basically your virginity, and when it breaks, your virginity is taken. but then well done on knowing that u shouldnt have sex beca... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend overcome hating taking his top off?
Q. well. my boyfriend is paranoid about his top-half. he's told me i'm the only girl (outside his family) to have seen him topless, because he hates it so much. he's had girlfriends before, but always left his top on. i want to go swimming with h...
A. 26 August 2008: i had this exact same problem!
my boyfriend is reli ashamed about how he looks on his top half, but hes perfectly happy to run around in shorts! he doesnt care about his legs really!
i tell him hes gorgeous at least one a day now finally after, l... (read in full...)
Virginity Poll: How old were you when you lost the V-card?
Q. tell me...how old were you when you lost your virginity??...
A. 26 August 2008: i was 17, it was the best ever, strangely enough it was like a soother after sum1 trying to rape me just 2 days before my 17th. im still with the guy i lost it to now... (read in full...)
How can I be happy for my friends when they move on and I don't yet because I'm younger?
Q. I'm the baby of my group of friends and am a year behind them school (bar two others) We all get on extremely well and are pretty close, a family of our own. All of them have finished school and got their college entrance exams results back the othe...
A. 13 August 2008: talk with them about it, tell them what your feeling.
they may well sympathise and try to include you in thier activities etc. or they could go the other way, but hopefully they'll sympathise.... (read in full...)
I started my periods and I don't know how to tell my mum.
Q. hello erm i dont really know how to put this but i started my periods. and i really dont know how to tell me mum! like she has a draw full of black pants and pads and things and i put on some of the black pants and put a pad on and yes im basically...
A. 13 August 2008: its gonna be really hard, i found it hard.
but it should only last for a couple of mins after you tell her, you could say something like "dont fuss over nothing but, ive started my periods".
for the next few months after that, she'll probably... (read in full...)
How do you keep your man sexually interested so he does not wander "too much"?
Q. I want to know how do you keep your man sexually interested in you in the bedroom so he doesn't wander too much...
A. 12 August 2008: you could try all different types of foreplay, like feeling each other, fondling, fingering/handjobs, licking out/blowjobs, or actual intercourse itself, both vaginally and anally, but if you meant without intercourse then just the previous ideas.
y... (read in full...)
I think I'm ready for sex but part of me is thinking I'm too young... am I?
Q. I'm 12 years old and have been thinking about sex for a couple of weeks and i really want to try it and no i'm not a slut/slag or whatever you want to call it so my boyfriend who is 3 years older(been with him for a year and totally in love ...
A. 12 August 2008: legally, you are too young.
developmentally you are too young aswell, basically meaning that your body isnt developed enough yet and niether is your mind as you could be left feeling emotionally hurt.
but if you really want to for your birthday... (read in full...)
I've met this amazing guy but he is not a great looker-what do I do?
Q. Okay so my question is this... I am 19, and two weeks ago I have met this guy... He is so amazing. In his personality... I cannot even describe all of his wonderful characteristics...He truly is amazing. Truly. He is talented in music, has nice ...
A. 12 August 2008: im not that good looking, niether is my boyfriend, but we chose each other through personality, not looks.
we both think the world, no, universe of each other!
hes always thought that im the best looking girl around, and whats more, ive fallen f... (read in full...)
Acne- Anyone know any products that REALLY DO WORK?
Q. hi :) so i've always had problems with acne. i have it on my face and shoulders/back. and my doctors have perscribed me lots of medicines for it. lotion and pills. and it seems as none of them really work. so does anyone know any product...
A. 12 August 2008: i dont know if you have it in the states, but there is a gel called freederm, all i know is that it aint cheap!
but according to quite a few people, it works wonders on getting rid of spots/acne etc.... (read in full...)
How can I take a restraining order out on a family member?
Q. Well let me explain my situation. I'm 16 years old and i live in a house with my dad, mom, little sister and brother. My father has verbally attacked me and has struck me. He's even blacked my eye before. He doesn't take his aggression out on my 2 yo...
A. 6 August 2008: u say that u havent called 911 due to being scared theyll take your siblings away - well you never know what your dad will do next, i would have got help as soon as my dad had hit me!
dont worry about them being taken away, at least they'll be in a... (read in full...)
He said he was divorced. Now I know the truth I want to tell his wife. Am I being fair?
Q. dear cupid, i was just recently broken hearted by a guy 13 years older than me which i found out later that he's married and with 3 kids. he lied to me, he keeps on telling me that he's divorsed and no kids. i respect him so much and care for a l...
A. 5 August 2008: it may influence everything within the family, or there may well be a chance no one will believe u, but if u feel that strongly about it, then tell his wife.... (read in full...)
I had a piercing done 3 days ago, how long do I have to clean it, days, weeks, months or forever?
Q. i had a piercing done 3 days ago i am wondering how long do i have to keep cleaning it for? is it days, weeks, months or all the time cheers x...
A. 5 August 2008: u clean it for as long as the piercer told u 2!
if its summit like ears, belly button, eyebrow, etc. its bout 6 - 8 weeks.
but things like tongue and genital etc are, like, 3 or 6 months or summit.
but your piercer should have told you this... (read in full...)
Did I hurt his feelings, by telling him, that we both need to wait before having sex?
Q. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for over a month now and we are very close. We can talk about anything without awkwardness or embarrassment. Just a few days ago however, we were at his house and his family was out. So we were kissing and getting ...
A. 5 August 2008: of course u did the right thing.
would you rather have your boyfriend be a bit stroppy for a little while, or have him banged up in prison??
i no which one id choose.
well done for waiting, you made the right choice... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and scared that I might be pregnant...I know I shouldn't had sex...
Q. help,im a 13 year old girl,i no i shouldn't of had sex but i did, and i just hate my self for it , me and my boyfriend had sex on the 15th of july ,and i was due on my period on the 27th of july but have'nt come on and i no im not late because i ...
A. 5 August 2008: firstly, calm down.
secondly, stop worrying, that could well be the cause of no period, worryin is reknowned for making preiods late.
thirdly, go and get a test done, whether it be a home test or one at the doctors.
dont be scared to ask your mum... (read in full...)
I have brown discharge before my period. Is this normal?
Q. is brown discharge normal? i seem to get this usaully before my period is it normal??...
A. 29 July 2008: inormally get mine just after my period, but its a thing that happens around the time of your period, so its perfectly normal, unless it smells funny, then go to the dctor asap.... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are ready for sex?
Q. how do you know if your ready for sex???...
A. 29 July 2008: if the age displayed is your real age, you are most definately not ready for sex.
try waiting until you are at least 16 (or whatever the laws are in your state), even if you feel ready, its a big chance your not.
plus its best if you wait until yo... (read in full...)
What is sexual contact, and is it illegal to have any sexual contact with someone under 16?
Q. i just wondering if u could help me what is sexual contact??? is it illgal to have any sexual contact with a person who is younger than 16? ...
A. 29 July 2008: i suppose ill have my head bitten off by the other aunts for tellin this to someone as young as you but here goes:
sexual contact is where you are touched in your private place in any way, for the woman, the chest also counts, seeing as we have boob... (read in full...)
I get a lot of sleep, but I'm always tired, how do I get my mom to take me to the doctor?
Q. this isn't about love or sex or any relationships.. But I still need some help.. I sleep A LOT and I'm not sure whats wrong with me, my mom wont let me go to the doctor or anything to get checked because she just thinks it's the way I sleep...
A. 29 July 2008: firstly, why does your mum have to take you to the doctors, you can book appointments yourself, and go to the doctor yourself. secondly, there is such a thing as oversleeping, not the kind where your alarm goes off and you sleep through it, but wher... (read in full...)
My boyfriends birthday is coming and I have no idea what to get him-any suggestions?
Q. My boyfreinds birthday is coming out and i have no idea what to get him.He is a country boy ..I want to get him something special that he can keep and something that means something but i have no idea what that could be...If anyone has got some idea ...
A. 29 July 2008: my bfs bday is soon too, and hes a country boy too!
he works in agriculture too, therefore when it comes to xmas or bdays i get him something to do with tractors.
he loves his car aswell, so i get him something to do with cars too.
think abo... (read in full...)
Phone calls to another girl in secret, deleted inbox. Can I trust him?
Q. I don't know what to do about my boyfriend as he acts really suspiciously. He gets lots of texts from some girl he knows who apparantly 'lives in london'. He tells me that they're nothing but friends, but I find this really hard to believe as I have ...
A. 28 July 2008: oo, dodgy.
this is not on, you need to talk to this man and let him know that it is completely unacceptable, in your relationship at least.
if he cant buck up his ideas, hes history if you ask me.... (read in full...)
Is there any given time that a girl is obsessed with sex?
Q. Hi readers? Just want to hear different answers for the viewers. 1) is it true that a girl whose in vinicity of her period is obsessed in sex? 2) if not, when usually is a girl obsessed with sex? is there any given time? thanks...
A. 28 July 2008: i sometimes really want sex from my bf just before my period, thats about it though... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to him groping me while I slept?
Q. I've been in a relationship for a year and a half now and about a week ago my boyfriend and I were on holiday together; we'd gone away with my family. We shared a room but not a bed; we're both virgins and I want to wait until I turn 18 before I ...
A. 28 July 2008: firstly, well done for waitin to lose your virginity and not just jumping in at any time.
secondly, what he did was really wrong, had the hand that went into your pyjama shorts been his penis, and had it gone in, that would be known as rape.
he on... (read in full...)
I get really turned on, but I can't "get off". Why?
Q. I'm a 19 year old girl and have noticed that I can't get off by masturbating to someone I'm attracted to. The weird thing is... if I see them or am around them I get REALLY turned on. Why is this? Could it be that I don't think they're attracted to ...
A. 28 July 2008: everyone is sexy in thier own way, and everyone is deserving.
just relax, and enjoy yourself while the moment is around... (read in full...)
Are girls turned off if guys have hairy asses?
Q. I've been complemented on having a nice and big ass, but the thing girls don't realize that i have a hairy ass. So here's my question, is it a turn-off, or do girls mind if guys have hairy asses??...
A. 28 July 2008: my boyfriend isnt the skinniest guy around, hes 15st.
hes got a nice, big ass, hairy too, and i absolutely love it... (read in full...)
I've had sex several times and still no pleasant sensations, why?
Q. what is wrong with me? i've had sex about 7 times and i still haven't felt anything good. my boyfriend is on top and i just lay there. we also tried me on top and him behind me but it hurt for some reason. my cherry is popped so that can't have ...
A. 24 July 2008: firstly, if its a case of just jumping in the bushes, then a bit of wham, bam, thankyou ma'am, its gonna hurt!! you need some foreplay, to get you moist, and get both of you in the mood, make sure you have plenty of time, me and my boyfrien... (read in full...)
Is it less likely to get pregnant while you're on your period?
Q. ok so me any my boyfriend have been ready for sex. we've done it a few times. i know we're ready so don't even say i'm too young. but anyways, we had sex when i was on my period. he used a ultra thin condom so guess what? it broke. and i don't know ...
A. 24 July 2008: you should be able to go to the doctor without ur parents knowing. afterall, its your body and your life, and the doctor has no right to tell your parents, its against confidentiality rules. the condom shouldnt have split, just because its a li... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to have things in common with a partner???
Q. Hi just a quick question. Is it necessary to have something in common with your boyfriend or girlfriend? My boyfriend said on the phone last night " i dont think we've anything in common". And i said is that bad? Then he said "i think you're meant ...
A. 17 July 2008: the only thing me and my boyfriend have in common is our hair colour:
try and beat that for less similarities!... (read in full...)
If someone says "leave me alone" when they are heated, do they really mean it?
Q. If someone tells you to stay away from them and leave them the F alone knowing they were saying it because they were heated does that mean they never want to see you again ever in life? ...
A. 17 July 2008: well, on rare occasions, yes!
but most of the time they're just angry about something and dont normally mean it... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get pregnant after treatment for cancer. What can I try?
Q. hi evryone now this happened awhile bak but it still haunts me till ths very day whn i was 7 i was diagnosed with leukemia and i use it as an excuse evry so often is this wrong also i askd my mom if it causes infertility and it does so another ...
A. 14 July 2008: firstly, just RELAX!!!
dont stress out over this, it may take its time, but im sure you'll have a baby one day. it cud even knock you out and u find out youre preg with triplets!!
secondly, go to the doctor, and ask for all the available options,... (read in full...)
A bright yellow orange liquid on the toilet paper had me worried. What was it?
Q. About 6 months ago, when I went to the bathroom to do a "number 2" i noticed some bright yellowy orangish liquid on the toilet paper after I had wiped. i am 14, have not got my period and have never had sex. this hasn't happened again and i have ...
A. 6 July 2008: this may sound really crude, but the "number 2" u took may have been a bit big and stretched some skin to the point where it tore it, and u may have bled a little. yes the bloods a funny colour from there!
or you may have had a blister of some kind... (read in full...)
Should I go back to ex that cheated?
Q. My ex boyfriend of 2 years cheated on my with his ex of 8 years to whom he had a child and a mortgage with. It wasn't just a one off wither, every time he told me he was going to see his daughter, he was in fact sleeping with her. He even went on ...
A. 4 July 2008: u may love him, but there are plenty more fish in the sea.
everyone is against this man, even yourself!
plus in my books hes done too much to hurt both you and his other partner already.
leave him be and find someone more decent, theres no wa... (read in full...)
Are there any good websites I can use to determine if I have an STD?
Q. I want to know if I have a disease.Around my scrotum and the lower part of my penis are these "bumps".However they are at the base of my pubic hair and think that I have them because my hair is being pulled while I masturbate or because while I move ...
A. 3 July 2008: my boyfriends got the ones u have around the base of ur pubes, but he doesnt have the ones at the top of his foreskin. well he might do actually, casue u mention that u have to look closely to see them, it could just be a normal part of ur skin, but ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Over 600,000 visitors last month!
Q. Just a quickie We broke the 600,000 unique users/month (i.e. people!) last month. According to google analytics we had 638,310 visitors from June 1st to June 30th. Doesn't seem that long ago we passed the half a million mark. Thanks to all t...
A. 2 July 2008: hooray for dearcupid.org!!!
i love this site, and every answer recieved has been a helpful one!
well done all... (read in full...)
Sex hurts me. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. me and y boyfriend have slept together on 3 occasions, and all the times it has been so painful. the first time i bled really heavily. is there something wrong? xx...
A. 2 July 2008: its gonna hurt the 1st 2-3 times, nothing like that has been up there before!
like daniellexxxx said, try using some lube to ease the pain, and have lots of foreplay before u have sex.
if it still hurts after, say, 5 or 6 times, it might be that ... (read in full...)
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