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thewiseman, posted 40 weeks ago

well im a new guy at this site. Im 15 and ive never had a girl friend. but I have picked up alot of relationship and dating information as i grew up. I enjoy helping other people with there problems which why im here.

Posted on 14 October 2007 @ 8:23 (London time) - permalink
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d_day, posted 8 weeks ago

Well im actually 27 and iv never had a girlfriend lol. i have absoultely no idea why that is (probably partly bcos iv got red hair lol). 15 is very young.

people say im shy and not confident but thats not the reason either, i just dont seem to attract anyone, either am not very interesting or whatever. iv had about 2 or 3 dates that didn't go anywhere, i msg people on various dating sites and nearly all of them don't have the courtesy to reply. nothing wrong with anything i talk about, interests, i have hobbies/interests etc but nothing cliks with anyone.

all my mates (all of them have dark hair suprisingly) have had girlfriends in the past and have had life experiences but never happened to me. probably because im far too nice to people and to many being nice is being boring. people dont want the 'mr nice guy, squeaky clean' image. most women go the arseholes because it gives em a feeling they are mysterious and dark in some way.

actually my brother has never had a girlfriend either. dont what where doing wrong at all. il probably never meet anyone for starters noones goes for red heads or nice people. lol

Posted on 29 May 2008 @ 10:50 (London time) - permalink
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OhLawdWhat DoIDo, posted 7 weeks ago

To be honest I really dont see why anyone would use dating sites. I think the chances of bonding with someone off a dating site are slim to none at best (feel free to correct me on this if you wish!).

If anything id say dont go looking for a girlfriend, just go out in an attempt to try and make friends and something is bound to develop! Dont put it down to your hair colour, anyone who doesnt want to date you because of the colour of your hair doesnt deserve your attention anyway. You said youre boring but have plenty of hobbies and interests so pretty much counteracted your own point on that one! As for being shy, just talk and get involved in as many social situations as possible until you learn to relax more.

As for girls all going for the "bad guys" whilst the "nice guys" finish last I really dont know why people seem to think this - its not really the case at all.

Posted on 7 June 2008 @ 23:14 (London time) - permalink
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d_day, posted 6 weeks ago

i know ur probably right im sure. i find it hard getting anywhere off dating sites, but of course im sure all the 'stunners' do get attention including blokes. i cant talk for england, im just a simplistic, sensible (if boring) person.

i dont really go looking for someone, i never did until a couple of years ago until i started noticing people i fancied and that they seemed to be with someone and made me think ''why not me?'' and then it came a bit of an obsession. some of my mates have been successful, one of my mates has, in the past, almost broke the record for dates and has quite a number of girlfriends lol, he just attracts women because of his mr nice guy squeaky cleak image, the typical ''no problem, very pleasent man about town lol'' type of guy who knows every music chart out there and every football leage/score etc there ever was. he used to go on date after date (most from datingh sites even after a week of talking so it has worked for him)

as daft as it is women want the football type men (especially when their single mums because of their kids upbringing.

i cant describe what boring is but iam boring, not because i rant on but the way i talk about things, ie a very simplistic, no frills, avoiding of risks type of person, the way i have a conversation is not very interesting, im very formal at doing things. most people, especially on dating sites have that relaxed common let ur hair down type of way of describing themselves, the way they write, putting smily faces, no caps, dots etc the way they talk about their life etc. mines usually ''i like art, drama, photography etc, im honest, kind and caring'' lol. that is very boring to read and im not surpised people ignore me because they want intersting people.

my mate would put ''i love going to gigs watching foofighters etc, i support liverpool (the best ever)...blaa, blaa. thats what women go for. i know im being silly.

i get involved with things, im involved with a local charity (where i met my mates) and help and get to know people but theyve all got their own lives.

Posted on 8 June 2008 @ 22:41 (London time) - permalink
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