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maxfactor, posted 32 weeks ago

my wife wont do it

any reasons- or do some women just hate doing it

Posted on 22 December 2007 @ 9:56 (London time) - permalink
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, posted 31 weeks ago

I don't know i like doing it. I like watching the guy while I'm doing it, they start breathing hard and their faces get flushed. I only really like because guys like it though, i do it for them. Maybe she doesn't like the taste.

Posted on 23 December 2007 @ 6:21 (London time) - permalink
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Ratha, posted 31 weeks ago

Here's a groundbreaking idea: ask your wife why rather than asking strangers on the internet.

Posted on 24 December 2007 @ 18:19 (London time) - permalink
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maxfactor, posted 31 weeks ago

i have- she says she did not think she was any good at it

how would we/ she know?

she has said she does not want me to go down on her tho'- just does not want it

Posted on 27 December 2007 @ 11:36 (London time) - permalink
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MissKin, posted 28 weeks ago

Since you are married you should feel comfortable enough to talk this type of thing through.

Personally, the idea both turns me on and revolts me. There's something very odd that I can't pinpoint as to why i dislike it, but i'm all for having a guy go down on me - but if i won't reciprocate the action, it's a no-go.

Maybe she is worried about her technique, so perhaps you should discuss this together. Or maybe she simply does not like it, in which case you should accept it and respect her feelings.

Posted on 13 January 2008 @ 21:18 (London time) - permalink
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maxfactor, posted 28 weeks ago

thanks MK

thats what i always thought

HOWEVER- when you become paranoid

you start to think- she does not love me, etc

i would willingly go down on her

but as you say- if she cant reciprocate

she is being good to me really

Posted on 15 January 2008 @ 9:54 (London time) - permalink
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ButterflyKisses, posted 28 weeks ago

I will be honest, here.

I don't particularly like to give them, but I LOVE the reaction I get when I give them.

When my husband and I first became intimate, I wasn't sure about techniques and that prevented me from even wanting to give them. I was subconsious that he wouldn't enjoy what I was doing, and I didn't want to receive negative feedback (at least, not at first).

I agree with the above responder - communication is KEY! We talked openly about my fears. As a result, we ordered a GREAT instructional, oral sex DVD. It was fun to watch and fun to learn.

I would start be reassuring her that she can't do it wrong (unless, of course, she is taking bites out of your, well you know). Build her confidence, and offer to start with a condom. A lot of women just can't handle the taste. You can mask this with flavored lubes. Give her compliments and don't be critical when she does explore and experiement - and don't demand certain things in the beginning, such as swallowing.

There is a time for constructive feedback, but not in the beginning because this could make her feel inadequate and stop wanting to do it altogether.

Good lcuk!

Posted on 15 January 2008 @ 15:39 (London time) - permalink
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maxfactor, posted 27 weeks ago

she says she just does not like it

so thats it - no bjs for me!!

boo hoo

Posted on 22 January 2008 @ 14:53 (London time) - permalink
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ellen14621, posted 26 weeks ago

My husband has been trying to get me to do that for over 25 yrs NOT me thats disgusting!!

Posted on 30 January 2008 @ 18:33 (London time) - permalink
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confused.i.is, posted 26 weeks ago

Oral sex is by no means disgusting.

Everybody has different perceptions of what they would deem acceptable when it comes to sex, what turns some on does not do the same for others.

Does not make it wrong or disgusting.

It is in fact a way to show affection, I doubt the poster above me complains when her husband gives her oral sex.

Posted on 31 January 2008 @ 18:47 (London time) - permalink
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