wife or girlfriend

The wife or the girlfriend? Well this is my question. I have been married for seven years. I got married when I was 22 and mainly because my wife was pregnant. Since then we have 3 children together. I have had 2 affairs on my wife both which she knows about. So here is where I need the help about 18 months ago I met a girl that I had a very strong sexual attraction to and our personalities seemed to really click so just like anyone else we started flirting and of course flirting ended up turning into sex and sex turned into a relationship. When my wife found out about the affair of course she freaked out. I moved in with the girl I had the affair with and lived with her for about 7 months before I moved back home to help with the baby to be born. I continued to see both of them during this time about 4 months ago I cut of ties with the girlfriend to commit to the wife but my heart never hurt so bad I missed the girlfriend like never before. So I started contact up again and the wife knows this. I have to make a decision the wife or the girlfriend. If I go with the girlfriend I really think it is true love, the sex is amazing, we have all the same interests and I am so happy around her. The negatives about the girlfriend are I am 30 she is 21, the child support and alimony, the guilt of leaving my wife I am the bread winner and she hasn’t worked in 8 years, the embarrassment of the divorce and the affair, and of course how the divorce will affect will children and me seeing them on a daily basis. So this is the cliff notes what do I do I have to make a decision. I just can’t keep seeing both of them. Please help!

Posted on 29 July 2007 @ 4:22 (London time) - permalink
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well if i we,re sensible i tell you to stay with the wife but because we are paddling the same boat at this moment i say stay away from both for awhile and see which one you want the most i,ve broken up with my girlfeind right after i told her i was getting a devorce i think she,s more devasted then my wife because she,s been threw a divorce and doesn,t want me to do it but i think my wife deserves better hopefully my wife and daughter will forgive me trail seperation i think i,m in love with the other women and she won,t see me because i know we,ll end up in each others arms not sure if this is helping you but take a step back and see what you have

Posted on 8 February 2008 @ 5:7 (London time) - permalink
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well i'm on the other end!!! i have just found out tonight (yes i havent slept my heads all over the place) they dont know i know somethings going on but i dont want to loose my husband!!!!! we have been together for 17 years and married for 7 years with 3 beutiful boys 7, 5, and 9 months, 2 with disabilities! if i were you you should think about the family other than your choice wife or girlfriend- what led you to stray - could this be put right? i always think theres a chance

Posted on 8 February 2008 @ 6:8 (London time) - permalink
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If I was smart I would stay with the wife. You have been married for 7 years!! I really don't feel sorry for you in this so called dilema because you know what is right to do. You go and stay with your wife, you have 3 lovely children and you are breaking this womans heart. This isn't true love hust infatutaion. She is 9 years younger than you wake up. SHe will one day leave you for someone her own age. Your wife needs you and has forgiven you for the past affairs. Think of your children and how you would ruin their lives over this bimbo. Go back to your wife and never cheat on her again. Leave that girlfriend you ahve children that need you!

Posted on 25 February 2008 @ 2:47 (London time) - permalink
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