Living together, and lack of, er, "intimacy"

lostlad, posted over a year ago

Hi guys,

I've been seeing my girlfriend for over a year now, and she moved in with me last month (serious, I know!) - but our sex life has really gone from bad to worse recently, only making love once a month at the most. It just seems that she doesn't want to be intimate at all - we barely kiss and only cuddle when she wants to...

Is this normal? I don't want to seem pushy and talk to her about it, but it hits the old self esteem pretty hard!

Posted on 30 May 2007 @ 15:22 (London time) - permalink
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miss_nell, posted 52 weeks ago

Hello,

I'm in a similar situation but the girlfriend who doesn't want to be as intimate as we were...if it will help, this is how I feel about the situation and whats going on from this side of it all:

My bf moved in with me 3 weeks ago, at first I loved it - whatever we want, whenever. Now, because we were too busy having fun, lots of little jobs have started to pile up: the washing, cleaning, bills etc. The spirit of spontaneity was fun but all the other stuff has to slot in too. This is where all my efforts now are - sorting out other stuff so when we are being intimate, I can focus solely on that!

I'm not sure if that helps, I do hope you both find happiness again

Posted on 8 July 2007 @ 12:22 (London time) - permalink
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DJ8433, posted 52 weeks ago

Here's my suggestion. Be a man! I would almost bet you are to the point of almost begging for sex. Big turnoff by the way for women. Women look to men to take charge, be in control. I'm not talking about being a macho man, I'm talking about being a confident man. Now ask yourself what you want. More sex, right, and probably a woman that will show you and give you respect. You may have to make some hard decisions, but that's what real men do. Talk to her first. Why no sex? Get back to me. richard@whatdoesshewant.co.uk

Posted on 14 July 2007 @ 5:29 (London time) - permalink
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lostlad, posted 50 weeks ago

Thanks miss_nell, some other folk on here have mentioned the housework problem, but we usually tidy up on a regular basis, so I think the problem might lay elsewhere!

Richard – “that’s what real men do”. Well thanks for that enlightened comment. I’m not begging for anything, and we respect each other. I think a subtle approach might better to be honest.

Posted on 26 July 2007 @ 11:38 (London time) - permalink
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