Breakups forum

What do you do when you have gotten yourself in to deep to quickly? That’s the big money question. Ok so bottom line is I messed up. In my own weakass defense I can say that since I had not been in a relationship in a very long time I was happy to

Thank you. I've been praying and I'll continue to pray. "Thy will be done". Like you said, I wish she would just tell me so I can move on. All I've heard is little bits from friends and that is enough to put the whole picture together. I just need

I have recently come out as a lesbian to some friends but dont no how to tell my boyfriend of almost 2yrs. He has exams soon and they wont be over for another two months. Should i wait till they are over to tell him or do it now?

my now ex boyfriend and I have dated for two and a half years and I thought with my joining a band (although it isnt workin out now) and attending college and working, that I wouldnt have time to be the best girlfriend I could be for him so we went

thanks, now im still recovering from her lost. but sometimes i feel that she doesn't mean everything she said. this kind of break up never happend to me in my past relationship. anyway, i just respect all what she wants. it's been almost 2 week

Hi, well i really feel for you, but i think you are best to let this one walk away. She says the ex (first love) is back on the scene, how? Are they seeing each other? What scene? Ex's are just that. Never to be gone back to, unless there are stil

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Hi mate I am so sorry to hear of all of this shite that you are going through. I was a battered wife for 20 years and struggles through it with two kids, but i walked out with the kids one day, the rest is a long story. But it was the hardest

Sounds like a mid life crisis to me. hubby told me that he wanted out about 7 weeks ago. He still loved me and after 20 years of a great marriage just got up one morning and said he needed to be on his own - usual rubbish. I then found out he was

Sounds like a mid life crisis to me. hubby told me that he wanted out about 7 weeks ago. He still loved me and after 20 years of a great marriage just got up one morning and said he needed to be on his own - usual rubbish. I then found out he was

Ended a FWB situation recently because he wasn't honest about the fact he was seeing other women. This is all after 3 yrs of intimate relations with this man. I got very upset(not to say I had the right to)said all kinds of hateful things to include

Started seeing my ex girlfriend in feb 2007,she was going through a rough time after her husband had left her after moving to a new home and only lived there for six weeks.He left her to live with a woman who he had had an affair with

I have a bad one too. I have been going out with my gf for four months. She is 23 and has a 15 month old little girl from her previous boyfriend. We fell in love hard and fast. Everything was amazing and she told me she was in love with me on a

Before you promise the earth to her, try to find out without pressure, if 1. Can you both stay friends and maintain contact this way, so the door will stay open for you. and 2. If she thinks she doesnot love you anymore, ask her without getting

I'm so sorry to hear of your relationship struggles. I would start by focusing on the positive things. First, you recognize the issues that you need to work on (i.e. sharing feelings, letting things build up, etc.). This is a serious accomplishment.

I hope that you haven’t made good on what you have implied about your end. I guess in a way I have been in a similar situation. Although maybe a little further along in the process. In my case it hasn’t been other men but alcohol that has ruined my

Subconcious and learnt behaviours. It's not about full blame; but full awareness. You have to own up for a true change of heart. AA will help you with this.

I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and would do anything for her...she honestly is the one i think i want to spend the rest of my life with but recently my dad had drug addiction problems my mom works and goes to school and my

That is a really sad story. i hope you will be okay. Let us know how you get on Take it one day at a time & good luck x

Yea I agree im very insecure and wouldnt like my boyfriend to have female friends (id be scared he would leave me for them) the thing is this is something within us it's not a reflection on you but you shouldn't end the relationship cause of it.

My wife and I were married three years ago....as time has gone on, our marriage just got weirder and weirder, and I finally asked for a Divorce last month. For quite sometime, however, my Wife maintained that she wanted to work on on our

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Need Help! I am 42 years old and my ex was 21. We spent 2 years together but the last 12 months i realised that he was using me. I know ths sounds like a common problem but the love I had for him allow me to put up with it. We have not been in

With drugs and drinking...she stopped doing drugs completely and drinks only socially whic is a beer or two with friends or her parents. And even thats not very often. I hve asked a few questions. She told me she doesn't want to live with reg

Probably because you love him that much, just tell him you both nedd a break from each other maybe?

Don't let your husband BS you. Not wanting the relationship is not a gut feeling. If it's his gut telling him this, I'd hate to be around when he has to make decisions. Imagine your brain being a bank, with equal halves. One is your deposit, and

I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles, but most importantly your financial worry. I mean at the end of the day running away to this other woman isn't going to help him but most importantly at this time you need to concentrate on your financial

This no doubt isn't the way to answer your question, but it would be the only way that I could sort out the problem in my own mind. If it were mine. I wouldn't have an agreement "not" to be dating other men, Why? Because I would want to taste more

As you have discovered its very rare for someone to break a relationship out of the blue without someone else being on the horizon. Natures way usually has people moving on to someone else before they end the previous relationship. It sucks and

i was with my ex for 5 years,broke up three times,most recently in april. now(shes broke it off all 3) im in the military,so we were doing the ldr.everything was good.she wanted to get married,and i kinda put off the talk for a lil bit,then iagreed.

Same situation, I wish I could change the past, the way things went down, but you can't. Focus on your work, your friends, your hobbies, however though, things change. But do put her out of your mind, when ever you think of her, but a big BEEP and a

The reason she is not telling you is because she feels your anger, get therapy and learn to let go. Is over. You will only make it worst. Things might change down the line, but for now move on.

Similar situation, 10 months down the road, I think the best thing is to carry on with your life, forget her, how ever difficult, unless she decides to come back. The friends thing, does not work, at least not immedately unless it was a shallow

hey everyone im just wondering if anyone has been threaten to have their child taken away from the by their parthner? just really wanted to know how things worked out.

thanks for the reply, she is behaving really stupid about it all from the sounds of things, youd be better off with someone who can treat you well. Perhapse a divroce is the best thing, it means you wont have to face her being so cruel. try and

I was in a similar situation.. You should talk to your boyfriend about it and let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he respects you enough and cares about you like he says, he should make some changes to ease your mind but he doesn't

Hey all any advice on this would be great! (Sorry for it being so long) My feonca and have been engaged for almost 2 years now. We had pland to get married 7-7-07, she liked the ider of the 3 7s . Everything between us I thought was goin

hi after 10 years together and seven years of marraige my husband out of the blue has told me he doesnt love me anymore we have just sold our house and he is in the navy we were moving into married housing on top of coping with losing the love of my

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I also posted this on the main page but's it's 4 in the morning and I can't sleep. I've been dating this amazing girl for 7 months. She is really everything that I've dreamed of finding in a woman, yet i have doubts, and sorry for the cliche',

I broke up with my first serious boyfriend last year, i lost my virginity to him etc, and he had cheated on me with my best friend. I was absoloutly devastated, i really did love him, and it tore ma apart. I started self harming, and sank into

Relationship questions are meant for the main site not the forums. ok? You'll get more responses that way.

Yeah I masturbate once to four or five times per day every other day or 2nd day. Also, I don't see why masturbation is wrong, unless of course, your religious interpretations are screwing with your head. Most of my female friends masturba

DO YOU GUYS/GIRLS MASTURBATE? AND IS IT REGULARLY, I DO, BUT I'VE TRIED TO STOP. BUT I CANT, IS IT WRONG TO MASTURBATE. I WANT OPINIONS FROM GUYS/GIRLS

He was USING you. Plain and simple. He didn't care enough about you to find out anyhting about you, and he enjoyed the benefits that being in this non-relationship with you brought to him. You miss him because you now have an 'asshole' shaped hole

Age like I always hint at, does not always dictate maturity in people. Just because he is 25, doesn't mean his mom doesn't control his life, or have an influence in it. The thing is, just forget about him. You said you worked on the relation

my sistution is a bit like urs.ive been with my hubby for 14yrs and im convused over wot to do but ive staying strong and told him the way i feel ive not told him every thing as i dont want to hurt him coz hes a kind and gentle man hes brill with

that sounds similer to what my ex was doing to me but when i got a bit annoyed she gave me the guilt trip that i am so jelous dont give her any space so she showed me the sender not the message and it had a girls name to it i made my appologies and

heres my story, well, i've been in a relationship for 3 years and 5 months. and my GF(now EX) broke up with me because she thinks im never going to marry her and she also thinks that she will never have a good future with me plus i bacame busy

Sounds like this girl (woman) wants her cake and to eat it. You want a monogamous relationship and appear to offer just that. She isn't making a decision, it is obvious you must make it. She is not committing to a relationship with you at present.

Wow, you should be a therapist. Your compassion and understanding in to human emotion is mind blowing!

Stand back, and do not get yourself involved with him or love/relationships. You need space to reflect on what u can do for your own life, and what u might find in the process.

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BTW, you should have posted this on the main site...

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This belongs on the main site. However, the question you're asking is already answered by your heart. I believe you do want to give this a try. So go for it. What's the rush today with finding new mates? Are we all supposedly so lonely that we

Hi there, Yes, we had not been going out long, just 3-4 months or so (we had met via the internet and had been e-mailing/texting/chatting about 2 months before we finally met up). When about a month ago, I began to sense things were not right be

sorry forgot to mention, that he was always saying he doesnt need anything else in his life apart from me, I bring him happiness. Dont you feel this is a little unrealistic? I mean surely you shouldnt literally live out of each other's pockets, it

I had an arguement with my fiance on thursday about him telling the truth then he was best man at a wedding on sunday that i was meant to go to with him but he went on his own without any contact and i havent anything from him since our arguement

Hello, I am so sorry you're being treated like this. That doesn't sound like a marriage. I haven't been married so I can't really say "Just leave". that's a decision you have to make. If he doesn't want to go to marriage counselling and he's not

Hello, I've just been through a similar thing. My now ex boyfriend started to find any opportunity to run away from me to do the things he liked that I didn't. He is very sociable but because I'm older and most of my friends have settled down, I

Hey willywombat youre perfectly correct to not go between anymore.. It is icky and as you say yourself adultry!! I admire your courageness.. Best wishes Jacqueline

I totally agree with you Martini it does depend on the individuals state of mind and sometimes the experinces of people aswell... Jacqueline

I'm sorry you are sad - but remember that being sad when your bf dumps you is NORMAL! You wouldn't be human if you weren't feeling unhappy right now. Give up on him coming back to you, and work on making yourself more happy, and if you need to

It is not clear why you want to get back with your boyfriend: (i) you are not in love with him - after only 4 months, you should be in love with him if it were to work, and (ii) you want to go out with him because he has helped you and t

i grateful for your reply but i thinking moving on might be the right thing for me at this time, i love him and i know there is a small chance for us as he said so himself. i'm just wondering if i'm moving on too fast coz i love him with all my

Thank you. 8] Yes, I am doing much better, though at times I do have bouts of anger... It's quite automatic. Like yesterday morning, before I went to dim sum with my cousins, I came out of the shower and started vomitting, due to the disgust I

Hey there I think you have done all you can do now and its better to leave it to him for the time being.. My advice to you is better to leave him till he gets back home and on his feet and settled.. He might be a bit better then he has got

he told me the day we last spoke to each other.

Yeah I know, I understand It was a hard thing to do Maybe now though that you have put your foot done he might change.. Who Knows Good Luck Let me know how u get on Jacqueline

Hey there I think your boyfriend just wants time to himself just now and he is being very selfish and bad mannered in the way he is going about this.. He obviously doesnt want anyone from his home life interfering with his uni life and he doesnt

Its okay sexy bum just playing wth ya.

No, it's not fair! I don't know what country you live in, but in some countries...you would've been considered his 'common law wife' where you shared a domestic partnership/informal marriage situation. Have you ever checked with a lawyer into what