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Just another thought. Going back into his hole indicates that there is a problem in the marriage that he is just very afraid to discuss. It could be a problem with you or it could be a problem with him. The fact that this has bothered him for 15

Hi I totally feel you. And wonder at times whether there is any man out there willing to give himself to a relationship like a woman does. Oh yes, they will all mouth the lines or even show up and care and just be wonderful initially, but once they

To dump you for a 19 yr old escort must have really hurt and i am asking is escort in your state a working girl? If so i would make sure if you do get back with him insist that he gets all his health checks done before you do anything with him.

thats not always true. ive just ended a relationship and lm far too sad to consider another!

You feel nothing because deep in your heart you always knew this day was coming. You are out of tears, out of love, and out of chances. You have nothing left to give him. You have resigned yourself to your fate. It is over and nothing he says or

Hi I have 18 yrs old I love my girlfriend well my ex now, she is awsome, we have been going out for 2 years, she was the first women in my live, when I meet her for the first time was when she broke up with his first boyfriend he cheat on her with

Hi I have 18 yrs old I love my girlfriend well my ex now, she is awsome, we have been going out for 2 years, she was the first women in my live, when I meet her for the first time was when she broke up with his first boyfriend he cheat on her with

I am in a similar situation. I broke up with a man that I was involved with a little over 3 months ago. have i heard from him since then? Bo. Do I really expect to hear anything? No. I will say this much my involvement was with this man went on

I am going through the same thing and I know its so hard to put closure on a relationship when you havnt got any answers. My relationship ended, not sure why, he walked out of my life and doesnt return my calls, its been three months now and

he claims he got the bungalow on medical grounds and i knoe for a fact he didnt please anyone some advice on the best action to take

I think it sounds like you have already made your decision and your finding it hard to come to terms with it. Maybe your just looking for some validation from someone else but unfortunately no one else can tell you what to do. The fact that he

Rather than trying to suppress the agony, embrace it. Accept it. Feel it. You'll find that OWNING it is the most effective way of quelling it. AO

I thought... This account was deleted...? Odd how I have resurrected.

Have you been to Al-Anon yet? That's a good place to start looking for support from people who know what you are going through. Also, you might want to submit this as a question on the main page: www.dearcupid.org Find the "ask a question" link and

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost a year and a half. In the beginning of the relationship it was so great, and we were both so happy. But the past few months we have been getting in little arguments and i've been getting upset with him

Hello, it is like reading my story. And indeed it feels so bad. It's been more than one month from the break-up now and I feel a bit better. At first I was completely devastated, could't eat/sleep. Well I knew that our relationship was not in i

I think it could be because we're more objective. Unlike friends who might have other motives (friends with the other partner, worried about how it will affect the group, worried they'll get called a bitch if they tell the person to dump their

Why would anybody want to commit to 18 yrs of support looking at another mans genetic material day after day. Did you know in NYC for cold blooded murder its a 12 yr sentence. The raising of a child 18 yrs min.

Nah..don't waste your energy to call. You have better things to do with your life. Plotting revenge is fun though, and I think Phil's idea is pretty good, in fact, it's hilarious! But making little voodoo dolls and chanting all sort of weird little

Has you partner ended your relationship because you wanted kids and he didn’t. Lance Armstrong has just revealed that he broke of his engagement to Sheryl Crow because he wasn’t ready for children and worried that her biological clock was tick

if you love your husband and kids, pls move on and forget what happened in the past. talk to your husband and start a new life again.

Cliche subject but w/e I went out with this girl about 8 months ago she was 18 and I was 21 I noticed her the moment I met her but I thought she was too young so I tried to buddy up with her friend but I still ended up talking with the girl in

Does she know that she is getting these calls at your place? Do you know how to get a hold of her? Maybe you should let her know about her calls coming in to you. Has she tryed to call you?

thanks, we've had another chat late last night, and she has said give her time to think, that she will be in touch by sunday this week. Also she has told her mum and dad and they have turn around and said she can do better. She did say to me that

Justregularguy...that is awesome advice. Get on the site and start answering questions. You have a lot to offer. Good solid insight!

I'm sorry that you're hurting so much. Unfortunately in love there are no guarantees. And while it hurts so very much at present the hurt will only continue if you fail to respect her wishes (speaking from experience). Losing a relationship is very

hi i'm heather , i've been having alot of problems recently with this 1 guyy that i've been close to since i was in first year and we have always had sumthing there , but last week this is when verything got complicated for me . hes always been

Every girl wants to know she has that one person to always fall back on. No girl wants to ever be alone or feel alone. She is clearly using you, she wants you around only when she says so, which isn't fair because she is putting your love life on

Ok so on December 15th i caught my boyfriend with another girl. We've been dating on and off for over 4 and half years. We broke up in May, and we still were talking, having sex, and hanging out. In july i find out he is talking to some other

I am so confused right now. I only dated my boyfriend for 9 months and about 2 months ago he broke up with me.He really didn't say why, but I think it's because I wouldn't have sex with him and wouldn't give him my virginity. Although he never

i have an ex bf who broke up with me but continued to call me while we were apart after saying specifically that he wanted nothing more to do with me and that i should move on. Now things are even worse bc the girl he dumped me for dumped him. So he

You seem to be over the relationship. For a lot of people having a child makes for huge changes in the relationship dynamics. I think that part is pretty natural. The fact that you are looking outside of your relationship for a replacement (even if

You should of kept at it if he was the one but actualy you no what I hate those people that say theres only "the one" we will have the undieing love with its sooo UNTRUE! Im sure in high school you had a bf and dreampt of getting married but now

concerning my last post: What do you honestly think is gonna happen to my relationship? What usually happens to such kind of relationships?

I need help with this, however I do not need any harsh comment so please, please, restrain: I married my first guy 14 years ago, we had a girl and when she was 6 my husband started to be different with me, I think it was also my fault, 'cause,

I married a woman who cheated on me while dating thinking kids will solve everything. Nope! Move on she has issues that will cause you pain which you don't need. Best advice: Find a sane trustworthy young lady and make sure to give her lots of

Time is a great healer. You shouldn't worry about what your ex is doing. Of course she's not calling you, she's over you. Move on and find yourself a nice new girl!

Hi, I saw your message here and wanted you to know that it just got posted on the main board. You'll get more answers there than here. This is more the hang-out area for aunts and there aren't as many answerers here. Good luck.

I don't know. If you can get a hold of her, I think you should definitely try and find out what she meant. I kinda felt the same way at first. Upset that I didn't have any answers and I didn't understand why we were splitting up. But then I en

been with my now ex boyfriend for about 5 years.. he lives in Canada and me in the states a long distance relationship. He is 29 and I am 27 We had an overall close relationship and i even lived with him for a year and it was the best experience we

I was really hoping that I wouldn't be posting on this board, but it's over between me and my girlfriend. Talking didn't help or change anything. She just didn't feel that she loved me. Now, I've gotta start over. First thing, I don't wanna li

So this case sounds classic, but since it seems people on here are knowledgable about relationships, I kind of need some positive feedback. My boyfriend (hate saying fiance, such a fancy word) recently told me approximately a week ago that he

Hi, Joe. I hope you did ask a question on the main site, you'll get more people responding there than here in the forums. DearCupid.org if you need directions. It sometimes takes a couple of hours before a question is posted and the more detail you

im so sorry 2 hear dat he could eva do dat 2 u ive just dumped my boyfrend n i dont no wat 2 do now i luv him toooo much really but i will av 2 move on at sum piont in life but my heart will go on n my heart goes out 2 u write back soon

thanks for the kind words... will post it to the main page. he just admitted that he didnt think watching me go into our bedroom alone would be so awful. He hugged me, and said he was going to visit a GP on Friday, hes scared himself. Thanks for the

What do you do when you have gotten yourself in to deep to quickly? That’s the big money question. Ok so bottom line is I messed up. In my own weakass defense I can say that since I had not been in a relationship in a very long time I was happy to

Thank you. I've been praying and I'll continue to pray. "Thy will be done". Like you said, I wish she would just tell me so I can move on. All I've heard is little bits from friends and that is enough to put the whole picture together. I just need

I have recently come out as a lesbian to some friends but dont no how to tell my boyfriend of almost 2yrs. He has exams soon and they wont be over for another two months. Should i wait till they are over to tell him or do it now?

my now ex boyfriend and I have dated for two and a half years and I thought with my joining a band (although it isnt workin out now) and attending college and working, that I wouldnt have time to be the best girlfriend I could be for him so we went

thanks, now im still recovering from her lost. but sometimes i feel that she doesn't mean everything she said. this kind of break up never happend to me in my past relationship. anyway, i just respect all what she wants. it's been almost 2 week

The naughtyness!!

Hi mate I am so sorry to hear of all of this shite that you are going through. I was a battered wife for 20 years and struggles through it with two kids, but i walked out with the kids one day, the rest is a long story. But it was the hardest

Sounds like a mid life crisis to me. hubby told me that he wanted out about 7 weeks ago. He still loved me and after 20 years of a great marriage just got up one morning and said he needed to be on his own - usual rubbish. I then found out he was

Ended a FWB situation recently because he wasn't honest about the fact he was seeing other women. This is all after 3 yrs of intimate relations with this man. I got very upset(not to say I had the right to)said all kinds of hateful things to include

Started seeing my ex girlfriend in feb 2007,she was going through a rough time after her husband had left her after moving to a new home and only lived there for six weeks.He left her to live with a woman who he had had an affair with

I have a bad one too. I have been going out with my gf for four months. She is 23 and has a 15 month old little girl from her previous boyfriend. We fell in love hard and fast. Everything was amazing and she told me she was in love with me on a

Before you promise the earth to her, try to find out without pressure, if 1. Can you both stay friends and maintain contact this way, so the door will stay open for you. and 2. If she thinks she doesnot love you anymore, ask her without getting

I'm so sorry to hear of your relationship struggles. I would start by focusing on the positive things. First, you recognize the issues that you need to work on (i.e. sharing feelings, letting things build up, etc.). This is a serious accomplishment.

I hope that you haven’t made good on what you have implied about your end. I guess in a way I have been in a similar situation. Although maybe a little further along in the process. In my case it hasn’t been other men but alcohol that has ruined my

Subconcious and learnt behaviours. It's not about full blame; but full awareness. You have to own up for a true change of heart. AA will help you with this.

I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and would do anything for her...she honestly is the one i think i want to spend the rest of my life with but recently my dad had drug addiction problems my mom works and goes to school and my

That is a really sad story. i hope you will be okay. Let us know how you get on Take it one day at a time & good luck x

Yea I agree im very insecure and wouldnt like my boyfriend to have female friends (id be scared he would leave me for them) the thing is this is something within us it's not a reflection on you but you shouldn't end the relationship cause of it.

My wife and I were married three years ago....as time has gone on, our marriage just got weirder and weirder, and I finally asked for a Divorce last month. For quite sometime, however, my Wife maintained that she wanted to work on on our

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Need Help! I am 42 years old and my ex was 21. We spent 2 years together but the last 12 months i realised that he was using me. I know ths sounds like a common problem but the love I had for him allow me to put up with it. We have not been in

With drugs and drinking...she stopped doing drugs completely and drinks only socially whic is a beer or two with friends or her parents. And even thats not very often. I hve asked a few questions. She told me she doesn't want to live with reg

Probably because you love him that much, just tell him you both nedd a break from each other maybe?

Don't let your husband BS you. Not wanting the relationship is not a gut feeling. If it's his gut telling him this, I'd hate to be around when he has to make decisions. Imagine your brain being a bank, with equal halves. One is your deposit, and

I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles, but most importantly your financial worry. I mean at the end of the day running away to this other woman isn't going to help him but most importantly at this time you need to concentrate on your financial

This no doubt isn't the way to answer your question, but it would be the only way that I could sort out the problem in my own mind. If it were mine. I wouldn't have an agreement "not" to be dating other men, Why? Because I would want to taste more

i was with my ex for 5 years,broke up three times,most recently in april. now(shes broke it off all 3) im in the military,so we were doing the ldr.everything was good.she wanted to get married,and i kinda put off the talk for a lil bit,then iagreed.

Same situation, I wish I could change the past, the way things went down, but you can't. Focus on your work, your friends, your hobbies, however though, things change. But do put her out of your mind, when ever you think of her, but a big BEEP and a

The reason she is not telling you is because she feels your anger, get therapy and learn to let go. Is over. You will only make it worst. Things might change down the line, but for now move on.

Similar situation, 10 months down the road, I think the best thing is to carry on with your life, forget her, how ever difficult, unless she decides to come back. The friends thing, does not work, at least not immedately unless it was a shallow

hey everyone im just wondering if anyone has been threaten to have their child taken away from the by their parthner? just really wanted to know how things worked out.

thanks for the reply, she is behaving really stupid about it all from the sounds of things, youd be better off with someone who can treat you well. Perhapse a divroce is the best thing, it means you wont have to face her being so cruel. try and

I was in a similar situation.. You should talk to your boyfriend about it and let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he respects you enough and cares about you like he says, he should make some changes to ease your mind but he doesn't

Hey all any advice on this would be great! (Sorry for it being so long) My feonca and have been engaged for almost 2 years now. We had pland to get married 7-7-07, she liked the ider of the 3 7s . Everything between us I thought was goin

hi after 10 years together and seven years of marraige my husband out of the blue has told me he doesnt love me anymore we have just sold our house and he is in the navy we were moving into married housing on top of coping with losing the love of my

this needs to be posted on the main site

I also posted this on the main page but's it's 4 in the morning and I can't sleep. I've been dating this amazing girl for 7 months. She is really everything that I've dreamed of finding in a woman, yet i have doubts, and sorry for the cliche',

I broke up with my first serious boyfriend last year, i lost my virginity to him etc, and he had cheated on me with my best friend. I was absoloutly devastated, i really did love him, and it tore ma apart. I started self harming, and sank into

Relationship questions are meant for the main site not the forums. ok? You'll get more responses that way.

DO YOU GUYS/GIRLS MASTURBATE? AND IS IT REGULARLY, I DO, BUT I'VE TRIED TO STOP. BUT I CANT, IS IT WRONG TO MASTURBATE. I WANT OPINIONS FROM GUYS/GIRLS

He was USING you. Plain and simple. He didn't care enough about you to find out anyhting about you, and he enjoyed the benefits that being in this non-relationship with you brought to him. You miss him because you now have an 'asshole' shaped hole

my sistution is a bit like urs.ive been with my hubby for 14yrs and im convused over wot to do but ive staying strong and told him the way i feel ive not told him every thing as i dont want to hurt him coz hes a kind and gentle man hes brill with

that sounds similer to what my ex was doing to me but when i got a bit annoyed she gave me the guilt trip that i am so jelous dont give her any space so she showed me the sender not the message and it had a girls name to it i made my appologies and

heres my story, well, i've been in a relationship for 3 years and 5 months. and my GF(now EX) broke up with me because she thinks im never going to marry her and she also thinks that she will never have a good future with me plus i bacame busy

Sounds like this girl (woman) wants her cake and to eat it. You want a monogamous relationship and appear to offer just that. She isn't making a decision, it is obvious you must make it. She is not committing to a relationship with you at present.

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Unilever! What I find interesting about them that they can come up with such different brands... On the one hand you have Dove, that has done some great pro-woman marketing (imho) with the poster and TV campain featuring 'real' women as opposed

A glossy magazine is looking to interview two people who had a relationship with a gap of over 25 years who ended up finishing because the age gap created too many problems. If this is you, or sounds like someone you know, could you contact me at

Ricochet Television is looking for couples to take part in a Channel 4 programme about love quests. Do you want your partner to prove their love to you before you'll commit? Perhaps they've let you down in the past but now they want to turn it

Hi there, Yes, we had not been going out long, just 3-4 months or so (we had met via the internet and had been e-mailing/texting/chatting about 2 months before we finally met up). When about a month ago, I began to sense things were not right be

sorry forgot to mention, that he was always saying he doesnt need anything else in his life apart from me, I bring him happiness. Dont you feel this is a little unrealistic? I mean surely you shouldnt literally live out of each other's pockets, it

I had an arguement with my fiance on thursday about him telling the truth then he was best man at a wedding on sunday that i was meant to go to with him but he went on his own without any contact and i havent anything from him since our arguement

Hello, I am so sorry you're being treated like this. That doesn't sound like a marriage. I haven't been married so I can't really say "Just leave". that's a decision you have to make. If he doesn't want to go to marriage counselling and he's not

Hello, I've just been through a similar thing. My now ex boyfriend started to find any opportunity to run away from me to do the things he liked that I didn't. He is very sociable but because I'm older and most of my friends have settled down, I

Hey willywombat youre perfectly correct to not go between anymore.. It is icky and as you say yourself adultry!! I admire your courageness.. Best wishes Jacqueline

I totally agree with you Martini it does depend on the individuals state of mind and sometimes the experinces of people aswell... Jacqueline

I'm sorry you are sad - but remember that being sad when your bf dumps you is NORMAL! You wouldn't be human if you weren't feeling unhappy right now. Give up on him coming back to you, and work on making yourself more happy, and if you need to

It is not clear why you want to get back with your boyfriend: (i) you are not in love with him - after only 4 months, you should be in love with him if it were to work, and (ii) you want to go out with him because he has helped you and t

i grateful for your reply but i thinking moving on might be the right thing for me at this time, i love him and i know there is a small chance for us as he said so himself. i'm just wondering if i'm moving on too fast coz i love him with all my

Hey there I think you have done all you can do now and its better to leave it to him for the time being.. My advice to you is better to leave him till he gets back home and on his feet and settled.. He might be a bit better then he has got

he told me the day we last spoke to each other.

Yeah I know, I understand It was a hard thing to do Maybe now though that you have put your foot done he might change.. Who Knows Good Luck Let me know how u get on Jacqueline

Hey there I think your boyfriend just wants time to himself just now and he is being very selfish and bad mannered in the way he is going about this.. He obviously doesnt want anyone from his home life interfering with his uni life and he doesnt

Its okay sexy bum just playing wth ya.

No, it's not fair! I don't know what country you live in, but in some countries...you would've been considered his 'common law wife' where you shared a domestic partnership/informal marriage situation. Have you ever checked with a lawyer into what