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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Age differences category)

Age differences: Help and advice

I'm a 20 year old mexican girl wanting to date a 30 year old white man, is this wrong?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi I'm new to this so I hope some one helps me is it bad if I date a 30 year old man I'm 20 s don't know if its a problem....I'm mexican and he is white!! Idk what other people would think. It shouldn't matter what others think but I'm kinda ...

Do you think a relationship is possible? We had the most amazing sex ever.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5316 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Last night, I had the most amazing night of my sexual life. I met a man, who is 33, and I am 18. I've always had a thing for charming older men, and he fits definitely fits that status quo. However, one thing I did not expect to happen, was for my ...

I confessed to my teacher that I love him! He said it can never happen...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5263 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - i am a 17 year old girl and am in love with my teacher.He is unmarried, good-looking amd an absolute charmer.He is an extremely talented person and is loved by all his students.i have been his student for alomost one and a half year and i have a ...

Should I leave him and start my life over again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Please help. I am so confused. I don't know what to do now. I date with this guy for 2 years now. He is 8 years older then me and he said I am his first girlfriend. He said he use to date before but nobody take him serious. He is kind of plain (ugly ...

5 year age difference between us is bothering me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5281 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am starting to have really strong feelings for this guy that works in the restaurant at the bottom of my building. My issue is that I just turned 25 and he just turned 20! I am a Children's Librarian and work with kids ranging infant to 18 years ...

8 years chatting with a man almost 30 years older than me!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5309 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Hi, Aged 16 (just) I began going on internet chat rooms, it was a phase that lasted only a few months however, I began chatting with a man aged 48. We have continued chatting over the past 8 years(!) though have both long since abandoned going ...

31 year old and an 18 year old???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5309 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - hey I'm turning 18 in october and i've been head over heels for a former teacher that I had a while ago. He's turning 31 this year i think. would it be ok if i dated a 31 yr old once i graduated high school. cuz in school will def be wrong even ...

Why am I attracted to my guitar teacher and older men?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I have a crush on my teacher. He is my guitar teacher and he is awesome and we have so much in common. He does private lessons with me and my best friend and I had a dream yesterday that my best friend was ill and he tought me on my own. He put his ...

Why can't women have young lovers?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5310 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - I am an attractive 40 year old woman currently in a relationship with a 24 year old strapping young jock. We initially hit it off as friends while playing on a co-ed softball team together. Then went out with a group and ours eyes met and have been ...

He's 6 years older than me but I really have feelings for him, its an online romance

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5121 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - Ok so basiclly i'm quite young and i live in another country to this other guy who is 20 and 6 years older than me and he isn't a perv or nothing due to the plain and simple fact i lied about my age i look older anyways and i'm more mature so when i ...

How can I pluck up the courage and talk to him again?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5251 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I really like this guy at church but I've never had the confidence to chat to him before, but recently at a friends suprise birthday party he started talking to me. We spoke for a long time and he was making a lot of eye contact with me but i was so ...

What are the legal limits? Our ages are 20 and 15. Can we kiss? Anything further?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

23 September 2009 (M) - I'm a 20 year old guy, interested in a 15 year old girl. We've been talking online a lot for the last few months, and seen each other a few times. As a normal person, her mum likes me, but when it comes to seeing her daughter, she's against it. ...

Am I just over sexed or is sex just over rated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5323 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - im 21, multiracial, mostly black female and my fiance is 31yrs white male we been together going on 3 and a half years and im frusrated because i just want him to have sex with me am i just a hornball because im young or is he just not into my sex i...

I feel guilty for leading him astray. Should I tell?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - i'm 14 nearly 15 and i've been talking to this guy i've known for about 6 months we get along really well and i like him and he's said that he really likes me the problem is that he's 20 and i've said to him i'm 17 the proiblem here is that i'm...

Am I confusing the signals?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4856 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Im a 16 year old female and over the past 3 years ive had feelings for my female 29 year old pe teacher.The past year has got out of hand, ive grown to love her. Sometimes i wonder if she feels the same way.... Ive been reading a book on body lan...

Falling for my long ago ex-history teacher...is this wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Sorry if this is long...Four years ago, I graduated from a small blended middle/high school in Tennessee. I moved to New York for college, and while I was there, I lost a lot of weight. I look a lot more attractive now than I used to. A couple of ...

I've fallen for two older women

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - i've had feelings for a 39 year old woman for 2yrs now. i realized it after she had gotten divorced but she also has a 10yr old daughter. but she's not ...

Is it your opinion that this could be rape?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Ok i know sum one that is 13 and she has a boyfriend that is 18 and they been going out for a while and she lost her virginity too him and they both wanted it and some of her friends says thats rape i don't think its rape if the too people that is ...

My boyffriend's dad is breaking us up! Are we still together or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5310 days ago

17 September 2009 (F) - I know I just had a question exactly a month ago about another guy. Well, his friend had the same problem as me with breaking up at the same time I did. I asked him for advice, since he seemed to know what he was doing to get over his ex-girlfriend. ...

Do you think she regrets "settling" while she was so young?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

17 September 2009 (M) - I fear this may be a long post as I have a lot on my mind at the moment. My situation is as follows: I have been happily married to my wonderful wife for the past 7 years but our relationship dynamics have changed drastically over this ti...

He wasn't serious about saying he loved me before, I'm confused, shall I leave him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5310 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - Hi ! Im 25 years of age and my boyfriend is 21. I met my boyfriend 9 months ago. We hardly meet but we always talk on PHone. I love him a lot and for the last 9 months i thought he has the same feelings as i have for him. But today he told me that ...

Do you think such a relationship nowadays can work, considering the age gap?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

16 September 2009 (M) - I am a 47 yrs of age man, an artist, and I've dated young women for a while, mostly friendships, based on similar interests like wine, dinning, companionship, and of course sex. About a year ago, I met this girl, she's 17 yrs younger, and what i ...

Is it wise to keep hoping something would occur between this married woman and I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5329 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - I fell deeply in love with a woman last year, but I've never confessed this, since she's already married. She's just one of the loveliest people I've ever had the honor of knowing. Inside and out, she's so beautiful - she has the most wonderful ...

Would it be wrong to have a relationship with an older guy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - Im 16 going to be 17 in the spring and ive always had "a thing" for this guy whos about 23 24.hes no stranger.My mom and his mom are bestfriends and known each other forever and ive known him since i was in like middle school.we've never really hung ...

She's 14 should I tell her that I love her?!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5210 days ago

15 September 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, i'm 20 and there's this girl that i play video games w/ online who is 14. the thing is, i really love her, which to me is an understatement. we've now known each other for 8 months. i really have feelings for her. i think about he...

Should I keep him or walk away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5311 days ago

14 September 2009 (F) - Well people are gonna think im a right bitch i just have to tell someone, im 17 years old, and having an afair with a man who has a gf and little boy! i feel really sick about it but i didnt know until about a week ago, i really liked this man but ...

I feel stuck with an impossible choice: him or friends!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5331 days ago

14 September 2009 (M) - I am in a long term relationship with an older man. The age hasn't been an issue until recently. I am in my mid 20s and he is in his mid 40s. We had led a quiet life together which we both liked. I had a bit of social anxiety and was unwell for a...

He called me a hoe -- does that mean he wants us back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

13 September 2009 (F) - im 19 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years is 29. yes thats 10 years difference. what could we possibly have in common right? well he spent 10 years in prison and his state of mind is truly that of a 20 year old at this point if you ask me so we ...

He says he's too old for this - any advice?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

13 September 2009 (F) - Hi I am in an age gap relationship, my partner is 57 and I am 37, we have a great relationship, he has a boy of 8 from a previous relationship whom I have known since he was 3 and we get on brilliantly, there is only one problem I have recently ...

I'm 35 and she is 21, would people care about the age difference?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

12 September 2009 (M) - I'm 35 and just signed my divorce papers to finalize my divorce. We were separated for almost a year and I found myself becoming friends with my neighbors. I was physically attracted to the one girl from the day I met her and she was the same. Since ...

Why does he jolt when we are being intimate? Is it just a result of his orgasm?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

12 September 2009 (F) - i am currently seeing an older guy and i have found when we are being intimate, at a certain point, he will start to have strong jolting sensations, so strong he physically moves back and forward. i have never experienced this before, is it just the ...

Feeling ignored

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

11 September 2009 (M) - Im 37 and my girlfriend is 41. We have been dating for about 5 months and get along fine. However, I have noticed that her home life kind of distracts us from developing a solid relationship. She has two kids 17 and 20 who live with her (i dont have ...

He doesn't pay me much attention, do you think he is giving it to another woman?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5335 days ago

11 September 2009 (F) - am 19 and am dating a 30 years old guy. he works and i go to the university , the thing is am worried whether he really loves me or he is just having fun with my heart. we met through a friend and he told my friend that he wants a gal with a vision ...

Do you think theres a huge diffrence in age?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

10 September 2009 (F) - I Have a Problem . I really like this guy , But he is a year younger than me and also the younger brother of one of my very old friends i havnt seen in awhile . I know he wants to mke us offical but im not sure , even though it seems almost TO ...

Is he too young to commit?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5335 days ago

10 September 2009 (F) - I'm currently heartbroken. i had been with my boyfriend for over a year but lately i realised he had become distant and didnt want to see me as much. i asked him what was wrong and he finally confessed that he didn't kno what he wanted anymore but ...

I'm in love with my best friend's son!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2648 days ago

10 September 2009 (F) - I have fallen in love with my best friends son who is 21 i am 39 we have had a little contact sexually but nothing is happening i am married and he has a girl friend. i can't get him out of my head, we have not had full sex at all but I dream of him ...

Life is nothing but disappointments

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

9 September 2009 (F) - I am a 28 year old female. I have 2 children and 1 on the way. I have lived such a chaotic life. When i was 4 i was molested by an uncle until the age of about 11. He died about 4 years ago, without confessing a thing. He also let my family ...

Is 8 years too big an age gap?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

8 September 2009 (M) - Hello, I'm a guy who just turned 25 last week and have started dating a brilliant girl who is only 16, 17 in a couple of months. Is this too big an age gap for a relationship? I've known this girl for a few months and she has had the hots for me ...

If my teacher broke up with his girlfriend would I have a chance with him?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5309 days ago

8 September 2009 (F) - My last year teacher got involved with a senior girl two years ago and they've been dating since, but for the last year they've been kind of on and off. I really have a huge crush on him. He did get into trouble for dating a student but he got to an ...

He's perfect for me apart from the sex...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

8 September 2009 (F) - I had been dating and intimate with the same man for over a year. He is quite a bit older than me. The sex is over-the-top, yet I backed out of our engagement due to some issues of his that seem to be unresolvable (financial, family, baggage, etc). ...

He won't give me his phone number but calls me his property...

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

7 September 2009 (F) - 4 months ago, a much younger man I met in real life came after me full guns. He won't give me his phone number, but doesn't call me either. We mostly communicate by chat or email. He claims he is divorced with shared custody. He claims he...

Why does he keep pressuring me to have a baby before we get married?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5338 days ago

7 September 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, long story short 18 months ago I met my fiance Rob, he was married at the time but filed for divorce shortly after our meeting. I am 24 and he is 34. Our wedding is set for Dec 26/09. Even though we are just months away form our ...

Came out of abusive relationship, met nice man, how do I keep the negative thoughts away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5339 days ago

6 September 2009 (F) - Ok, this is going to sound a bit silly to some people I am sure...but I need some advice... I have recently come out of an abusive 4 year relationship - I had 2 children with my ex. He moved out to be single and wanted me to wait for him to decid...

Should I go for this guy, or accept it as impossible and drop it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5339 days ago

5 September 2009 (F) - So i really like this guy who most likely returns the feelings, and on top of that, we're already friends, so it's perfect. Plus he's adorable. Although there's two major problems: i only know him because he's one of my best friend's(a guy) brother. ...

Should we just keep things friendly for now because of the age difference?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5340 days ago

5 September 2009 (F) - I recently met a guy at work who is 24. We have gone on several dates and text one another almost daily. He knows that I am 17 for five more months, but has said multiple times he will wait for me. We are very similar and get along so well, but ...

Is she too young?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5340 days ago

4 September 2009 (M) - hey people im 15 and i like this girl that is on the soccer team i help out at she about 12 to 13 and ive known her for two years now i would like to ask her out or something but i dont know if thats wrong because of her and my age i really need ...

How do I tell my parents his real age?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5337 days ago

4 September 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, well this is a straight forward question. My bf and i are in love, there's no other way of saying it. Though we have not yet met each others parents. But I have told my mum and dad that he is 16 but he's really 19. I am nearly 1...

I'm falling for him, but I'm afraid that being so much older I can't give him a child

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5342 days ago

4 September 2009 (F) - I am in a relationship with a much younger man, (he is 29 and I am 46). He thought I was younger and I thought he was older. We have been dating for 6 weeks and I am afraid of falling in love with him, since I cannot have children. I tried to break ...

I'm 22 and she's 38: can we have a successful romantic relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

4 September 2009 (M) - The love of my life is older than me. I’m twenty-two and she is thirty-eight. She is such a beautiful, happy, and generous woman. Can we have a relationship? What to do? Can we move into a romantic relationship? How? ...

Is this guy just using me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5338 days ago

4 September 2009 (F) - well i met this guy on the internet and we talked for while. but the problem is, hes 20 and im 15. he thinks im 16. i invited him over and my mom thinks he goes to my school and is 17. we kissed and stuff and i let him finger me, and then he wont ...