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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I'm a straight girl and I'm in love with my best friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I am a straight teenage girl and I am in love with my best friend. Well let me start off by saying that my best friend is also a girl. In fact she is "bi" but mostly dates girls. Last summer (and during that school year) we started seeing each other. It all started out when... (924 words)

Is there hope that my love of a lifetime loves me back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - You allude to My heart is absolutely broken and I don't know words to describe my pain. I've become depressed about this situation with a friend, and so afraid that it's hopeless. A couple things going on. I love my friend in a way that I've never loved anyone else. T... (206 words)

Why does my boyfriend's ex constantly tell him how happy she is with someone new!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My fiancé and I have been together for 4 and ½ years and his ex drives me nuts! For the first 3 and ½ years all she did was cause trouble. She could call him all the time, text him all the time, she’d text me saying they’re together, she’d tell our mutual friends she got back ... (447 words)

Is she taking me for a ride? Does she want the best of both worlds?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and this girl have been sleeping together for about 6 months now... She has a gf, she says she's only with her as it's easier to stay with her and then break up with her when she leaves for travelling in a few months. She says things would be different with us if she wasn't ... (153 words)

The girlfriend of my boyfriend's best mate is trouble and I don't know what to do about it

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm not trying to judge here, but my boyfriend's best mate's girl really bothers me. She is a big time flirt and tries to get with all the guys which includes her flirting around with my boyfriend. Like they say harmless flirting isn't a big deal, but her flirting is way ... (267 words)

Do women really get 'used for sex'?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3985 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This is not a personal question but a general question about the concept of 'using' someone for sex which is usually used about women. Why do people assume that a woman is 'being used for sex' when she's in a friends with benefits situation or at least in an undefined relati... (260 words)

His controlling female friend is damaging our marriage

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hmm...I have thought about this issue for many many months but this is the first time I have written it down to try and talk about it...It's such a mess I almost don't know where to begin. My husband and I have this friend..well..he has this friend. She is married, like us, ... (993 words)

Is he reluctant to marry me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4002 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi aunts and uncles:) I am needing some honest advise here about my boyfriend. We dated for one year and have been living together for almost another year this coming June. So we have been together for almost two years now. I was married in the past and have two childre... (348 words)

Not only does her brother not help support her with her illness, he's critical of how I'm taking care of her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I new some advice. My partner has depression after years of being up and down has hit an all time low. She has never been this bad before. She has signed up to get therapy and in the meantime I am doing everything in my power to help. I'm making sure she is eating right, ... (646 words)

My 60 year old married dad is flirting with 20 year old girls! How do I handle this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - My 60 year old married DAD is flirting with girls half his age. Recently i accidentally happened to see an SMS in his mobile where he was expressing his love(attraction) to some 20 odd yr old woman. I was shocked, as I never expected this off my dad and he never gave me an... (135 words)

I always end up paying for my fiancee!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - im always ending up paying for my fiancee,we r together for 8 months and i know he loves me and i love him too,but this is just making me sad.he is financially irresponsible and he earns almost 3 times more than me but cant even make it to his payday..he is good with ... (120 words)

I feel so insecure and madly in love! What is wrong with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - So here goes.... I have fallen in love with my best friend, it was not supposed to happen I am finishing university he is starting, when we first met I didn’t find him attractive but the more we spoke the more i fell for him, my friends all say every time he looks at me you c... (230 words)

Do I have any rights at work? They keep putting me on nights!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4003 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - im working in an arcade, its a temp job and im on a zero hour contract but they been giving me at least 30 hrs a week. they said when i went for the job i be on days and up to 8pm sometimes which is fine but lately i been having to work nites which is all through and i hate it. ... (126 words)

HE wouldn't tell me if I'm his girlfriend, what should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've met a guy 7months ago. We've been sleeping together we text each other everyday he calls sometimes. 5months ago i told him that i want a serious relationship. So i asked him where do i stand with you? Am i your girlfriend? And he could'nt give me a straight forward answer. ... (70 words)

Should I contact an ex who hurt me for answers and possibly to get him back

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4003 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I was in a 1 and a half relationship and ended it last year March because my boyfriend was behaving badly He was flirting with other women. I expressed my distaste with this behavior and suspected that he was doing more than flirting with two other women overseas. While I don't ... (1155 words)

How long after our break up should I wait to ask her how she is doing?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I broke up with my gf of 2 years yesterday. We both parted saying that we love each other a lot but she is not sure if she wants to commit to me cause she is 10 years younger. She is afraid we might not want the same things even though we have talked about this in the past and ... (192 words)

Why can't he tell her to move on 2 years after they broke up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, I´m with my bf almost 2 years, everything´s great, but one thing. My bf´s been always friends with his ex of 4 years..It always bothered me. And finally, after almost year and a half that I hated her I had to really speak about her with him. And he told me ... (241 words)

Cant get my head round my Ex girlfriend please help

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi Me and my ex girlfriend have both admited we both still have feelings for each other and we could never hurt each other. And both admit that we were proud to say we are/were each others partners. i just cant get this part of the conversation around my head it w... (154 words)

Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around quite a bit. Many times it was not... (133 words)

When do I tell someone I am dating that I cannot ever have children.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I am an 19 year old female, I have just met a guy who I have started dating, we have been on 1 date, but been talking for months. Last year I found out that I can never have children, when should I tell him this? I have been thinking I should tell him straight away, but some ... (110 words)

Between My Head and My Heart. Should I try to make it work with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance recently broke off our engagement. He immediately stopped talking to me saying he was unhappy and that he didn't want to change, although he said he loved me. He said he was tired of feeling like he couldn't be happy with me and that he found himself not missing me. ... (366 words)

Gift ideas (Adult toys)

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm looking for gift ideas for my wife. Sex toys in particular. Background: We've been married for 12 years now. The number of times she's had an orgasm in the first 11 years was less than 11! Even when I went down on her. Last year we moved to a free country and I was able t... (167 words)

Needy Family. Anyone out there with similar experiences to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4000 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm not sure if this is the right website to ask this... My wife and son never seem to let me be alone and do what I like. I leave house at 7am and come back at 7pm. As soon as I arrive they surround me and want my full attention. They talk endlessly and won't let go. So... (197 words)

Brokenhearted after boyfriend cheated. What do I do next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, how to i recover from a broken heart and the feeling of being totally foolish with I guy i love and would have spent my life with. I found out from a good friend if mine that he caught him at 3am with another girl walking down the street after a night out. He said ... (245 words)

Is it wrong not to pick up to everyone who wants me to be the strong one and care for them, and to have fun instead?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4003 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - am tired of taking care of everyone else, and when it comes to seek for help, no body seems bothered. in my relationship with my bf, am like the guy i pay for all the bills. in fact i haven't paid my rent bill for last month, but am not whining like my boyfriend does when h... (182 words)

Crush on my new roommate, what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4003 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in my second year in college (21 y/o) in the Netherlands, and because I like moving around and meeting new people I've been staying in temporary rooms for 1,5 years. Past december, there was a party in the house I lived in at that moment and I met a guy. We talked for a ... (417 words)

Is this a problem what happened when I had sex with my girlfriend last night?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4002 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - MOD NOTE: English is not the first language of asker. Dear sir.. I am 27 years male. I do have habit of hand shaking my peninsula.(masturbating). When I do so that lequid comes out.(I ejeculate when I mastubate). Last night I had sex with my gf..... she got setisfied but... (93 words)

Long story, My Ex-GF says we will never get back together... Thoughts?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend broke up a day before valentine's day this year, so we've been broken up for nearly 3 months. She was my first real love, and my first GF and long-term relationship. She's had alot of experience and told me that I was her 8th long term relationship. I admit ... (1323 words)

I just want to know which method is highly risky or if both methods are equally risky? help me

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear friend, I had unprotected sex with a guy but he ddnt ejaculate a week later I had protected sex with a different guy. I jus want to know how safe are condoms compared to non ejaculation? Nine months is far for me to get a partenity test and I just want to know which is... (71 words)

I Have been seeing my ex-husbands brother ever since my divorce 4 yrs ago

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I was married for 15 yrs. my ex cheated on me with his best friends wife. I was a very loyal wife when I was married to him. After my divorse I fell head over heals in love with his brother. we have been seeing one another in secret for 4 yrs now. About 6 months ago I ltold his ... (279 words)

If 20% of the relationship is bad, and 80% is good, is it worth it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hypothetical situation, curious what everyone's tolerance level is. If in a relationship, 20% of the time, you and your partner were either fighting, not speaking to each other, or "sad" with each other and the rest of the time, 80%, is perfectly happy, loving, and your ideal ... (88 words)

LDR and first time bad sex. Do I want to continue?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a long distance relationship. We've been together 3 year. He's so amazing and Im very much in love with him. Due to the distance we were finally able to have sex recently. I was a virgin and he wasn't. It was horrible. Even though I'd never had sex before I know it isn't ... (156 words)

I discovered she doesn't shave her legs and it bothers me!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello! Well I kinda have a problem. I met this girl online about 3 weeks ago and we've hung out a lot. We decided lastnight that we would be together. Today she ran a marathon and she wore shorts which she hasn't at all since I've known her but I went and picked her up and I ... (161 words)

Should I assume that he is dating someone else? or is stressed at work?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4003 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I met and have been going out with this guy for three months now and we did not have anything other than a flirtatious relationship up until one month ago. The first time we slept together was amazing and we had great chemistry. The next night after we slept together I wanted... (1131 words)

Should you be worried if your partner says they don't know why they love you?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - So I hear recently from a radio advice guru on love that it is always important to ask your partner WHY he or she loves you. If they can't tell you...then it's a cause for concern. The reason he said that is that often infatuation is mistaken for love. Maybe it's purely phys... (157 words)

Am I too short to find a boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 17 now, and throughout my childhood I realized I grew much slower than the others. I used to be the shortest among my (same-age) friends, and basically I felt like I've stopped grwoing in these 2 years. So now I'm only 4'11, 90 pounds. I considered myself as (kind of... (97 words)

I feel the need to pay him back but don't know how to give hand jobs or blow jobs

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - HI! I'm starting with a guy that I really really like!! i will move to another country in Europe at the end of June, so Iknow there's not that much time to be with him. I like him a lot and he likes me too and the other day we started kissing and he took my bra off and started ... (143 words)

Is seeking comfort and intimacy online normal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4006 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I knew my boyfriend was on online chats. He always denied it, but I know it was him. Last weekend, he found out that some friends had been talking about him behind his back (because of some lies he got caught on). He is very ashamed/hurt/whatever, so he doesn't leave hi... (246 words)

My boyfriend has a crush, but it isn't on me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - my bf of 8yrs has a crush. He hasnt told me but he wont stop singing the praises of a girl in his pub. His friends joke that he is in love with her (ha ha). ive noticed he gazes at her even when im there. she is apparently not into him. do i stay quiet and hope it burns out? or ... (80 words)

Is this relationship worth fighting for?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Oh, dearcupid, I had to turn to you... Thank you for taking the time to read this. It has just kept repeating in my head and I am left wondering if I was just too hasty. I was dating a guy, who I really liked, quite a bit. We have fun together, the sex was good, I fo... (1133 words)

Online dating. I'm interested. What should I say in my message?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I asked for advice on using dating sites a few days ago. Now I have a more specific question. There's a guy I'm interested in someone on OKCupid. Should I message him? Why or why not? And if so, what should I say? I'm a bit shy and embarassed about it. I've visited his prof... (194 words)

Break up after miscarriage, where do I go from here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi me and my ex boyfriend broke up 8 weeks ago after i had a miscarriage we had know each other years before we got together i moved in found out i was pregnant we were so happy then i miscarried he started arguing with me he avoided me i went out for 5 hours to my parents cos ... (169 words)

How do I tell my family member about my interatial relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

6 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 18 years old and I live with my grandmother who doesn't approve of mixed race dating. I am Caucasian and my boyfriend is Dominican. We have been dating for 6 months and he treats me very good. I have not told my grandmother about him because of how strongly she feels about ... (94 words)