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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What should I do? Her mother and my father are second cousins. So that makes us third cousins? Where is it ok to draw the line?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have a dilemma. One of my cousins lives about 45 minutes away from my home town. We see each other every now and then at family reunions, (maybe 2 or 3 times a year), and have always gotten along great. About a week ago, she emailed me saying it would be fun if I tagged ... (395 words)

Should I see if they are back together or just forget him and move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4679 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi, me and my boyfriend split about 2 weeks ago now, we split because his ex kept getting involved and trying to split us and due to him having a baby with a different girl, she stop him seeing his daughter due to what his ex was saying. although we arent together we are ... (239 words)

Hygenic to go back and forth between 2 places?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a fantasy about having half anal sex and half vginal sex as in in and out of one for a bit then in the next hole, but is that hygienic!?... (32 words)

He's great... except for the making me orgasm part.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a couple of months and he is perfect for me... apart from him making me orgasm. Firstly we are both hard to please. I mean it literally. He rarely cums during sex and I never have. When I say I never have I mean neve... (558 words)

We're met on a website and will only get to spend time together this summer!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4718 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Well I have a boyfriend his name is "Dustin" and we say we love each other. Anyways he lives in FL n i live in Maryland. We met each other on a website. We skype and text all the time! This summer we are planning for us to hang when i go to FL to Disney. But we only going to ... (88 words)

Why won't my wife wear makeup?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello there, Can you please advise me on what to do with my wife who doesn't like make up at all. We have been married and everything is great except that I would love my wife to put on a bit of make up. She tried it one time and she looked great. I even went to lengths ... (157 words)

Without explanation I'm horrid to my boyfriend!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been seeing/dating a guy for over a year. He has changed my life in many wonderful ways; I am a much happier, confident person because of him. I love this man very much, more than I have ever loved anyone; he is very kind, very sweet, and very generous. Bearing this all ... (284 words)

Should I be worried about the way my breast looks?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - When I'm in the shower I usually check my breasts for lumps and such stuff and recently I noticed that my nipple is a strange colour. But when I havent been in the shower its normal colour again. My left nipple has always been a little bit darker than my right but when I... (103 words)

B/f putting me on hold because he can't manage his work load!

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15 May 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi i have been seeing this chap for almost four months and i know he loves me dearly of that i have no dout, recently we had our first row that uncovered the unmanagability in his life,he said the argument started due to stress as he has been spending time with me and not ... (216 words)

I love my friend but she's with the guy I hooked her up with!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4682 days ago

15 May 2011 (?) age 26-29 - Hello everybody. I have a bit of a problem The thing is, there is this girl(original huh?) and i really REALLY like her a lot. Actually that's an understatement. let's say i love her. a lot. But ok, here's the deal. i hooked her up to her current boyfriend, who is a... (771 words)

Ladies: Is bigger better when you're looking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - this is one for the ladies. i know there are plenty of penis size questions on here but i'd like to know how do girls feel in regard to penis size visually. i know how blokes are visual creatures and women less so but i have a question around size visually. do you feel more ... (121 words)

How do you end an affair when you are "the other guy"?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4646 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I posted a question similar to this one a while back, but I can't seem to motivate myself to end this, even though my mind is saying enough is enough! I've been involved with a married woman for a couple of years now, and I don't feel like I live in the real world because she's ... (221 words)

Ideas for a perfect date?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I need ideas for a perfect date. That won't be expensive. And one that a girl will love an she will never forget. I need idea plzz help I need female advice. But everyone is welcome to give me ideas:)... (41 words)

How do I get this man to wear deodorant?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am an American female and I've recently began dating a man from Saudi Arabia. I don't know if this is a cultural thing or a personal thing, but he does not wear deodorant and I am wondering how I might get him to start? He doesn't identify with a religion so it isn't a moral ... (79 words)

How long should people wait to have sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I know that two people should have sex when "the time is right" but I'd like to know opinions on how long is the usual good amount of time to wait? Usually when I meet guys we click really fast and enjoy each others company and it seems like we've known each other longer ... (67 words)

How best to deal with these emotions after a break-up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4721 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So me and my boyfriend were together for 2 years and 3 months and we recently broke up. After all that time I still just didn't feel "in love" with him. Of course, I cared about him and love him but not like that and it made me feel guilty which was depressing me and it was ... (131 words)

I do want to be with him forever so why on earth do I keep pushing him away?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, I need some serious advice here. First off, thank you to anyone that reads and responds to my question. All the agony aunts over the years have been very helpful! So here goes, I've been in a relationship just over a year with the absolute best man I've ever known. With... (233 words)

Too young for me? Is it wrong to be in a relationship with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I am 23 and am quite shy and not very good with guys, and I look young for my age and quite often getting mistaken for an 18-19 year old, but my questions is I have recently started to get to know this guy who is so lovely and so good looking but didn't realise he is only 17-18 ... (124 words)

Is it that hopeless?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4703 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Three weeks ago I started to become close with someone from my office. I am bisexual but I never fell in love with a guy before and I think he is straight. We become closer and we are really good friends now, he is very kind to me, always talks with me, we go to lunch together ... (132 words)

Is it wrong to catch up with the ex from time to time?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4719 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I sometimes catch up with my 1st love..like we talk a few times in a year... I'm no longer in love with him. But the fact is,i always feel happy when i talk to him. A few days ago, i thought about catching up with him after almost 4 months but he didn't pick up. Nor... (177 words)

I feel so stupid, so ashamed and so abandoned! Do I let go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Ive asked questions up here a few times and have gotten good advice. some of which i wish i would of listened to before now. this guy who i thought was a very good friend ive known for a year and told him i was inlove with him in nov.2010 and he disapeared and came back jan 28 ... (489 words)

Performance anxiety, afraid to have sex again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello lads... About one week ago I started to date a f*cking awesome chick, awesome as stunning good looking and as personality. Yesterday night I went to her friends house with a pal ( who was dating her best friend ), had a few shots of tequila... started making out and then ... (238 words)

Does he like me? Or am I getting my hopes up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4509 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello cupids , I met this guy last march (lets call him x) X and I really got on we got with each other a lot and became good friends as well. When me and x are together we are so comfortable with each other we have good banter , play fight , talk about our familys and our ... (215 words)

We're supposed to go on a two month trip together but now she's got feelings for another guy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I started dating this 27 year old mother of two girls, 9 and 10, back in November. We were in Spanish class together at the local community college and spent a lot of time talking about travel. A month later we booked a trip to south america for two months together leaving ... (264 words)

Why did my youth leader reveal this in front of everyone?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Why did he have to do that? I feel so bad.:(? ? ? Last week I went to a prayer meeting with the youth at my church and when we were praying the youth leader said the Lord revealed to him that I've done something physical and the Lord has given me a warning and on... (255 words)

I fear that my bf can't say no to his female colleague

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my bf and i have been together for more than 2 years. he's a nice guy, quiet and loyal. but lately we've been having problems because of this female colleague. we have set boundaries before that he can only go out with female co-workers if they are in a group/team. he a... (653 words)

Why would he still want to meet me if he's back with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So my ex knows I'm meeting new guys... I got a text from him about meeting up with me and I agreed because I'm still not over him... My ex went and met with his ex a few days ago who is still completely in love with him and he texted me telling me saying how he was out having ... (141 words)

I want to reveal my feelings but I don't know what to say. Also, he has a GF.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4683 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 20 year old girl and becoming crazy because of my heart racing and chaos in my mind. It's a long story but to make it a bit clear: in November 2010 i fell headlessly in love with this boy, i am sure it is love because i felt the butterflies and everything just by ... (484 words)

I have four kids and I am afraid to leave. Should I stay just for the kids?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi. I have four kids under 5. My relationship with my husband has gotten cold and I feel extremely lonely. He has been looking online, as I found out not long ago for a companion, because he feels lonely too. He did not tell me anything about it. He fails to give me any ... (159 words)

I don't like the way my friend acts now that she has a BF. It's like they're bullying me, Any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4683 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my friend have known each other for around 6 years, she always used to joke around and was always up for a laugh. Recently though I have noticed that now she has a boyfriend she is acting differently to what she used to be like. I am not the only person who has noticed ... (456 words)

I don't want to feel this pain anymore. Need advice on getting over my first love.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex girlfriend and I broke about a month ago after 2 years and I'm pretty sure that she already likes someone else and is moving on...which really hurts me :( But I now realize that I really need to move, but the thing is...I don't know how:( I love her so much and she's my ... (138 words)

Should I complain about my treatment in the store?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys. This is not a relationship question, but more a question for your view point. Im 18 years of age, and suffering from a condition that my doctor is not quite certain of yet. I also have crohns disease. My condition is something to do with my womb which is causing... (498 words)

Why is my friend always embarassing me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Your Open Question: Why does my friend do this? am really upset:(? ? ? Am really upset, last week I went to a prayer meeting with the youth at my church and after the service my cousin's boyfriend gave me a lift home and in the car there were 3guys and me and my friend f... (241 words)

How long should I leave him to have his space?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Well it seems every relationship i have ends up a distaster! Been with my bf for 4 months so not that long really but we get along great and we also work together in the same company so share mutual friends. Recently hes been distant with me and last week i cut to the chase... (266 words)

When we have sex, it's agony!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Heyy.. Okay; Well; ive been with my boyrfirend for 7months. I love him with all of my heart. Butt; when we have sex; its agony!! I have been in tears over this before during sex. I feel really bad; because he then feels bad for putting me thru the pain. Why is it hurting? + how ... (63 words)

Has anyone been through this with choosing a life path or partner?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My BF who I love and care for a lot is studying to become a Geologist and work in the mines. This will require him to be away for long periods of time. But then have quite a bit of time of as well. He has a couple of times tried to convince me to study the same thing as him so ... (225 words)

Could you tell me what I'm feeling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - To be honest, I just really don't know how I feel inside and was wondering if people could give me an idea of what I feel. I am emotionally restarted right now, like I know what makes me laugh and I can feel okay, but anything more its just a numbing feeling. My ex girlfriend, ... (250 words)

My long distance boyfriend has been acting distant!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship with this guy for the past 10 months. I love him more than anything and love keeps on increasing every moment. Initially, even he used to be very expressive of his love. Since we are in a long distance relation and can't meet quite often, he used ... (219 words)

I think a guy at my workplace is following me around at lunch time.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4704 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I think a guy in my workplace is following me around when I'm on lunch... Now I don't think it's anything sinister but I'm finding it annoying. It all started after some post from his department came to mine by accident so i bought it down for him and since then he's alw... (471 words)

When you rim someone, can you taste anything?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4720 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was wondering, when you rim someone, does it taste of, err, anything? Or should it be fairly tasteless? Is it normal if it tasted of "anything" or would that mean someone has bad hygiene? Thanks x... (40 words)

Why did he cut it off so quickly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - the guy I was dating is attracted to me (havent had sex yet) and loves hanging out with me..we have a great chemistry.. Lately he's been busy with exams and school. We had an argument(our first) and didnt talk in a week. When we finally talked he said he Isnt in love with me. I ... (119 words)

I'm afraid I'll bring the boyfriend home to my parents' dirty, drink smelling house and he'll think the gap between us is too wide.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my boyfriend have been together for months and he really likes me. He has recently started to pressure me to introduce him to my family. This has been happening the past few weeks and I haven't let it happen. My boyfriend is convinced that I'm embarrassed of him because ... (464 words)

I don't know what's in his mind. Is something wrong with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - there is this teacher who teaches me physical eduction(around 25-26) who likes to stare at me. Once i caught him staring at me, when i was about to leave the hall. he was standing near a pillar and when i turned around i saw his eyes moving (scanning from head to toe) about. I ... (341 words)

Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4259 days ago

15 May 2011 (?) age 30-35 - My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why do men like it?... (52 words)

Are the things she says hints that she really likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - so i'm trying to get a read on this girl who i've been the best of friends with for years. she's living with and dating someone else, but i still believe there may be some hidden meaning behind the things she says to me. and let me go ahead and say that i don't condone ... (420 words)

Given our respective sizes, will we be able to successfully have anal sex in the future?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My penis is just a little over 5 1/2 inches and just under 6 inches long when erect, and me and my girlfriend are both virgins and we really want to have anal when she and I get married, she's really self conscious about her butt because it's not small (it's definitely not ... (192 words)

Should I be jealous that guy I really like seems to like my sister??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4721 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Im kinda worried, if you have read my other posts you will understand my situation (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/where-do-i-go-from-hre.html). If not here is a simple rundown. I'm bi, I like a guy, I think he likes me, I mean I'm almost positive, but I'm not sure. An... (483 words)

I like this girl and want to ask her out, but our conversations (through texting and IM'ing) don't flow well. What should I do??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok there is this girl in my grade who recently broke up with her boyfriend. I have had a crush on her for a while. I have also been pretty good friends with her for a while. I have a very strong feeling she likes me back. I have been trying to start to talk to her a lot more ... (103 words)

Been dating a girl for two months but am too afraid to kiss her!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - I have a great girlfriend and we've been together for almost two months. We haven't kissed though and when I try I get scared. How do I get over being scared of it and just kiss her? Also how can I make it special?... (44 words)

Dating someone else but still have feelings for another guy. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - So I have this problem that has been bothering me for quite some time. It started last October when I started talking to this guy from my school. We talked every single day and I developed strong feelings for him. I might even go as far to say that I fell in love with him. But ... (204 words)

Men are leering at my legs and I want it to stop!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4706 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello there! Here is my crisis. Men who are way older than me are looking at my legs and smiling at me. Not the friendly polite smile but a sinister pervert smile. Please forgive the language. This started happening when my mom said that I should be more girly. Should I ... (81 words)

Is it a big turn off for guys when they see girls bleeding while having sex?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4722 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - The other day my boyfriend and I had sexual intercourse for the first time and i guess he sort of didn't know how to react when he saw me bleed. He didn't stop right away because he didn't want me to get anything wrong, but I could sense that he felt uncomfortable. After a ... (156 words)

How do you respond to someone telling you they no longer find you attractive?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - So I'm a gay male that has been in a LTR with another man for over 10 years. We are both in our early 30's and are monogamous. At various points in our relationship, my partner has emotionally and mentally been exploring the idea of being with someone else - wondering if the ... (744 words)

He's too old for me, and he's leaving for college...but I can't get him off my mind! How can I move on??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4681 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay so I like this boy a lot and i'm 15 and hes 19, and according to some people he'll be leaving town for college soon, and me and this boy haven't spoke in for about three weeks and i miss him so much. I wanna see him, and be with him but..i don't know.. I cannot get him off ... (124 words)

Do sociopaths attach strongly to their victims--even if they don't feel empathy?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4712 days ago

15 May 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I was with a girl for a long time who I believe was a sociopath. I dont wanna go into the details, but she had all the characteristics: she lied constantly, said very sweet things to me--as well as a bunch of other guys, was promiscuous and viewed sex as a way of getting what ... (277 words)

He cheats on her with me and he enjoys it. I feel so bad because I am a terrible person.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy my senior year in H.S. He is one year younger than me. Our relationship started bad because he wanted to keep us on the 10th floor. On any other floor of the school we were just friends. I got mad when he asked this of me but in the end I said yes because I ... (343 words)

Can you use lotion as a lubricant?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4675 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm really nervous about giving my boyfriend a hand job. Can you use lotion as a lubricant? If so, which kinds of lotion are best? Thank you!... (27 words)

I'm afraid it won't last because he "gets bored with girls easily!"

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i'm literally at a loss for what to do. i've been talking to my brothers best friend, who is his college roomate. Im younger than both of them by a year. We had a thing that lasted about 3-4 weeks, although nothing official. things were great, like we had so much fun together ... (231 words)

How can I give my boyfriend pleasure with a handjob?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend doesn't masturbate using his hand, and when I try to give him a hand job he says it feels good when I touch him but that's about it. Like he doesn't moan or react in those kinds of ways and it makes me feel bad. Is it because he doesn't use his hand when he ... (67 words)

Why do some nice people get exploited?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4723 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Why do some nice people get exploited? I am a nice person and I've been walked on all my life. People take the piss out of me because they think i'm to stupid to notice and when i'm having a laugh and a joke, i always end the butt of it. I lived in a hostel and some of the ... (375 words)

Having some concerns to whether my friend is true to me or not!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm having some concerns, weather my friend is true to me or not. I'm going frew a bit of an emotional time and i txt her, upset, saying that i felt like she wasn't that botherd with me. I mentioned in the txt that some times i will ask her how she is and she won't give me any ... (275 words)

Should I confront her about this or should I distance myself from it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4724 days ago

15 May 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Alright. I've been very close friends with this girl since the beginning of junior year. We've always been there for one another, and she is quite patient with me and my trust issues. I had an old friend since middle school who dated my ex, lied to me, took advantage of people, ... (462 words)