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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

With him 10 year but he's a controlling man... how do I get out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, my bf and I had been together for quite some time. First, we were long distance, then I moved in with him about 2 years ago. When I first moved in I didn't have any friends or family. I still don't have any family here, but I manage to find friends from work. But there ... (362 words)

Would a guy text a girl he just recently met but do not know so well a lot?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4637 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So, this may be a little long, but I met a guy through a community group activity a few months ago. He asked for my number but never contacted me until when I never showed up for any of the hangouts with the group. We texted all day and night even if he was at work. Would a guy ... (433 words)

My partner feels a failure because I can't cum. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4652 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My partner likes to watch me cum or know that i have cum , but I want to ,but can't.I don't believe in faking it.If I spend time on masturbating , I can occasionally but as I am have a very high sex drive surely this should be easy.i don't wan't my partner to think that he has ... (65 words)

How can I stop letting my insecurities get in the way of me dating again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I think I lost a great guy, because of my insecurities, also since I've been hurt before in the past.. I've became antisocial too I'm always home when I do go out its hard for me to meet people and make new friends..I wasn't like this I was the funny happy girl, now I put up a ... (215 words)

How do I handle this online relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I've never been in this situation before. I recently started talking to this guy online and I'm starting to like him. We just sort of happened upon each other and we found out we have a lot in common. I know it's silly, online, and I shouldn't get too wrapped up in it but I ... (137 words)

I think I only stay with my boyfriend because I have very low self esteem

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4653 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, please can you help me, sorry about the long letter. This is the first time I am telling anyone about this. Ok, so I come from a background where my parents had a very volatile and unstable relationship, growing up in my house hold was terrible. Anywa... (809 words)

Is he a cheater or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i been with my boyfriend about 5 years now wwe have a son together ... to get to the point isever since i had my son i feel fat which is normal but i miss beeing in my size 5 pants and i hate wearing size 9 my breast got huge i us to be a c now im a dd my boyfrind makes me feel ... (135 words)

Should I loan him money to get his car fixed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hiya uncles and aunts.. Advice me here... Ive been dating this guy for 7months now and things are still great.. Just have a question here... We frim same town but live two diffrent places and we also work at the same company..he has a car so when i get to town i wait for him ... (266 words)

The more I try to talk to him, the more he pushes me away!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my boyfriend and i have been going out for six months i thought things were going well except that i thought he was not romantic enough and sometimes i didn't feel he treated me right. I raised the issue several times and he promised to change made me promise not to leave to ... (118 words)

I believe a relationship means doing things together, so why does he instead spend time partying and drinking with his friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I posted a question a while ago for advice on my LDR with my boyfriend. As i've already been helped with that, I want to ask for help with the next issue i'm facing. For a boyfriend that has shown signs of being more committed to alcohol and partying than to... (736 words)

Can a relationship last without sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I haven't had sex yet, but I always knew I was gay. I've been trying to find the right guy, but couldn't all this 10 years. Last year I met this guy and when he noticed I was always avoiding sex he got himself checked and unfortunately he's positive. I couldn't let him go, he ... (109 words)

I'm a gay Latino man. Should I come out to my aunts, uncles, cousins and parents?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm a latino gay man but not out to my aunts, uncles or cousins yet. To tell you the truth I don't think that's their problem. My parents and brothers live in my south american country although I'm out to my brothers but not my parents. They're in their late 60's now. My ... (95 words)

Is this guy actually gay or am I getting played?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4652 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Alright, guys. Here's the tough one, and I need to know what to do. Until recently, I've been with this girl for five and a half years. She is beautiful, caring, reserved, and I can't help but feel that she really loves me. Recently, our lives have gotten hectic. I work a... (430 words)

Do guys usually hug a girl they've just met?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4651 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I just met this guy through friends at work so I went hang out some friends house where I met this guy we talked some when I left that evening he asked for a hug. Do guys usually hug a girl he just met? We met up again had dinner with friends he sat next to me and we talked ... (168 words)

Any advice on how I can open up to my boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we've been friends for almost a year. He wants me to open up to him so this way we strengthen our relationship. I have no idea how to open up to him. I love with all my heart and want nothing more than for our ... (121 words)

I feel stuck in feeling someone is going to take advantage of my calm and sweet temperment and later use it against me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I am currently mourning the loss of a Friendship that I cut out of my life this Spring. The friend decided to divulge some personal things about my life on her blog. She did not use my name, but several clues about my life and personality, mutual friends figured it out. ... (606 words)

How can I get my husband back in my bed?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband won't sleep in the same bed as me. We have two young kids and it started when they were babies and he needed more sleep for work. 6 years later - now he's gotten used to sleeping alone and claims he cannot get a good night's sleep in our bed. We've argued about th... (253 words)

2 weeks ago we were planning a holiday...and now it's over...I am heartbroken!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

- Im in bits right now. I was having a LDR with 'Rob' since christmas. He's in the army. We saw each other when we could. But while he had been away, things had changed for me in my life. I became a model and been published in a couple of magazines. He seemed pretty happy for me, ... (332 words)

He is one of the best people I have ever met and I don't want to lose him from my life...what can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Last winter, I hooked with one of my friends. We went to high school together, he is 2 years older though. So we werent great friends, we just ran into each other occasionally. I ended up leaving for school again right after this, but we kept in contact. He flirted a lot in the ... (564 words)

How can I overcome my nerves about drunken sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Basically I have a problem with drunken sex. So here's the story. I was out Friday night at a party and my cousion brings her friends down and this stunning girl but about 5 years older than me. I have a pretty good wing man though who can usually get me anyone I want not to ... (211 words)

He was chasing me and I thought he missed me....but now I think I have blown it...what can I do??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel like I ruined my chances for the come back of my ex yesterday. He broke up with me 1 month ago after 3 years because I hurt him with expressing doubts about my feelings and lack of commitment. After the brake up I thought being honest about my feelings is the right thing ... (482 words)

How to deal with arrogant boosyboots women?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - In dealing with a man there's an obvious way of responding - the one who gets uptight and irrational loses the dispute. And ultimately, there's the implication that if you don't treat them fairly you can get hit. Lately, together with my female friend, we've had dealings wit... (80 words)

I really want my daughter to be with her ex...how can I get over my obsession with reuniting them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age - This is a weird problem that I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone I know about. My daughter dated this guy for a year and a half. I was positive they were going to get married, he was perfect for her. Because she was only a sophmore at university, everything was new ... (251 words)

I want to still have hope but he seems to have given up...what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi my name is Gloria I am 20 years of age and I am feeling a lack hope, emptiness and depression. My ex boyfriend who is 22 years of age and I had wonderful realationship together for 4 months and we dated for 11months, he truly made me happy and always pushed me to do ... (449 words)

The girl I love isn't sure about what she wants.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Need advice, The girl I love has been seeing someone for a while. We live together and have a child together. She said I didn't do the things I said I was going to do and treated her poorly. After telling her how I felt about her she says she stopped seeing the guy. She ... (152 words)

Boyfriend wants a break for 6 months. How can I cope with this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with a guy for a year and a half, we started living together almost as soon as we started dating in December of 2009 (first mistake, but I thought it would be ok because he was ok with it and he'd been living with his ex of 3 years almost a year before) He's a year ... (715 words)

Girlfriend has hair on her nipples....it creeps me out. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4651 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend of 6 months has hair on her nipples. It creeps me out but I don't know how to address the situation. Even thinking about it makes me shiver. She shaves other parts of her body, ie legs, pubic region etc. however I don't know how to even bring this issure up in ... (62 words)

She is a snake and a liar, now she wants to ruin my life again. What do I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - my ex-sister in-law had an affair with my ex-husband while we were still married - now after i have been divorced for 10 years, my ex-sister in-law is now dating my new father-in-law (i remarried in 2006) and he is recently widowed (december 2010) she is a snake - and a li... (71 words)

I miss him so much it actually hurts!! How do I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4652 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I had everything and now I have nothing. I feel like me and my ex were doomed from the start. (I must apologise as this will be long and muddled due to how confused I am). Me and my ex got together 4 years ago when he was with someone else, I didn't know for about 6 months ... (681 words)

I can't seem to bring up the butterflies...do you think this relationship is going to work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is the relationship going to work??? My bf moved to sudney last year for uni, asked me if i wanted to go with him i said no.... a few months after he became sick and lost all contact with me and our friends... at the end of last year he moved back and we began seeing each ot... (131 words)

Do you think I creeped her out by moving?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - There is a girl I chatted with a lot for several months and we even joked/entertained the idea of dating but she lives on the other side of the country. We don't really chat that much anymore because one day we had a fight. However I wrote to her a few months ago and told her ... (151 words)

We have been in touch again for 7 months...why does he keep coming back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this guy who said that he wanted to be friends with benefits with me.i met him in the place he works at last year,and ended up finding out that we went to the same school.we knew each other a little at school.he is two years older than me.his brother was in my class at ... (333 words)

I'm addicted to eating at McDonald's and I need to cool it!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hey everyone i have quite a weird problem im ADDICTED TO mcdonalds !!! its all i think about and im relly spending hell lots of money on that shit per month but im loving it really !! especially that where i live they have delivery service so its even easier coz all i need to ... (86 words)

I really like her but she's always telling me about other guys

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4652 days ago

23 July 2011 (?) age 30-35 - OK, I've been friends with this girl, (Donna) for about 4-5 months. I liked her ever since i met her, she's goofy, cute, and all the above... i think I'm in love with her.. All i can do is think about how amazing she is all day and night.. I can't seen to get her off my mind, ... (208 words)

I love him with all my heart and yet just like Eve, I surrendered to temptation because of my weakness. Is there any hope to reconcile?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we were happy all throughout. We moved in together on our 2nd year and lived together for 3yrs. Ever since we moved in together, we had less and less sex. it would be about once a month.. i would get rejected by him so many times coz ... (807 words)

I develop serious social anxiety in college and it is getting me really down!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4654 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a regular college going person who's subject to all the pressures and deliberations a girl of this age is wont to be under, at this time. However, ever since I left my first year, I've been struggling with a niggling problem that totally weighs me down and consumes me ... (631 words)

Is there a way to keep him from orgasming too quickly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear readers, I'm in search of any thoughts, opinions or even similar experiences. I have a "bedroom" question. My boyfriend and i have been having some minor issues in the bedroom. First off let me say this is the man i want to spend the rest of my life with and i am committe... (243 words)

What happens between a stripper and a client during a lap dance?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4536 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age - Can anyone tell me what happens between a stripper and her "client" during a lap dance? What happens in the VIP or champagne rooms? What is the difference in a lap, couch, table, or bed dance? How much does an evening at a strip club usually cost?... (49 words)

He said he had a great time with me, yet he ignored me for nearly two months. Why contact me now?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Any insight as to what is going on in this guy's head would be fantastic. I'm pretty confused. In early April, I was an active member on a dating site. A guy messaged me and we began chatting rather frequently. After a few weeks of messaging back and forth and IM'ing, he a... (1031 words)

I'm insecure and afraid my girlfriend is going to run off with the next guy that comes along

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - wow I have really a lot or advice needing it is actually near pathetic :/, but I am soo insecure i think it is affecting me in my relationship, I keep thinking my girlfriend is gonna just run off with the next guy she meets cause he will undoubtedly be soo much better than me, ... (159 words)

Am I just being insecure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4656 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been told that in order for a relationship to remain healthy, one must let their SO hang out with their friends without having a problem with it. Totally understandable and that's how my boyfriend is with me. Just in advance, neither of us have ever cheated on, lied... (330 words)

How do I dress to impress when you're with someone for a whole day?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - We've hung out before, the first time was just a movie, and the second time it was a coincidence but we ended up spending half a day together. This time, I specifically asked her to spend a day with me, and she was completely for it and said yes. I don't know how to dress. W... (173 words)

I don't know what to say to my gf over the phone, please help.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4653 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I need help and pretty fast, I need help to be able to talk on the phone to my girlfriend cause to be honest I suck, near the 1 hr 50 mark it gets boring cause I don't have a clue what to say, and it usually goes on that long, 1. because she has soo many stories to tell, or 2. ... (88 words)

Will the depo shot stop me getting pregnant with a new guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay well, I've been on the depo shot for about a year now and I have a couple of questions about it. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and after I started the shot, we stopped using condoms, actually my gyno had told me to stop using them because I was allergic... (186 words)

Why does he treat me this way?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - We've been seeing each other on and off for a few months. I love him and I can't even tell him because he flips out because I care about him so much. We've slept together a few times but he still doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He keeps coming in and out of my ... (443 words)

My best guy friend is leading me on... Help!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My best guy friend is leading me on. He's always looking at me when we're hanging out together, even if our other friends are there. I'll ask him "what?" and he'll say "nothing" but keep looking. We talk all the time and he teases me all the time. Like, sitting on the gras... (280 words)

Married 4 years and we still have a communication problem

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4647 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - me and my wife have been married for 4 yrs and we seem to still have a commucation problem. we can talk and if i say somthing she dont like she gets mad. I try to be understanding but i tell her what i think in a well tone mannor. but when it comes to her side of the family it ... (98 words)

Why doesn't he love me anymore? I just want to help him and see him succeed...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4656 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I dated an amazing man for a year who treated me like such a queen. We lived together and had planned our entire life together. A couple months ago he began having crazy mood swings and would get so angry so easy. I found out he has been doing cocaine, although I'm not sure how ... (229 words)

I can't figure out how far I am along in my pregnancy

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so.....please help people of dearcupid. I simply want opinions. I am about 15 1/ 2weeks pregnant (or so they say, every doc has given me a different date and when they told me how far along I was it was impossible) I was with someone from April 6th- to maybe April 14... (124 words)

Ladies: Any consequences of using whipped cream down there during foreplay??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok this is a really, really freaky and albeit personal question, well me and my girlfriend want to spice up our love life, by adding sexual foods to our love life, the question I want to ask is well the food we want to add is whipped cream, from the can well she is quite hairy ... (99 words)

I find it difficult to cum, even though I really want to

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I have a very high sex drive and my partner is gorgeous and turns me on totally, but I still can't manage to cum.Is there something wrong with me?... (29 words)

Raunchy pics and dirty talk...Was he just using me? And should I confront him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4655 days ago

23 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi i am 21 years old and recently i met a 31 year old guy online. we got talking and i liked him. for a month we talked almost every day for a few hours however, we weren't able to arrange a meeting because he lived a good distance away. but we started sending each other ra... (240 words)