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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is there unfinished talking I need to do with her? Or should I just draw the line?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been split from my ex for 7 months now and we haven't had much contact because I told her I needed to get over her. She texts me probably once or twice a month to see how I am. I've been on a few dates, but I just can't seem to get over her, even though I know we are not ... (197 words)

Any advice on meeting people these next two weeks?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm gonna be stuck in my vacation house for about 2 weeks and I really want to meet some new people. I don't have a problem with my personality or looks, I'm not worried about that part. My house is 2 minutes from the beach but it's in an isolated neigbourhood. It takes 20 ... (92 words)

What did this married man mean when he described his relationship to me?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4639 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - "Being Married but not to each other" When a married man say this about his marriage, what does it exactly mean?... (21 words)

My feelings have grown, but hers haven't

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I've been living and working with this girl for over a year now. We get on great, I've gone out with her few times and we do things together at the weekends. We joke alot with each other in work as well. Recently my feelings towards her have grown stronger and I'm really ... (167 words)

Partner leaves me for days when I try to talk to him

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4663 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - When I confront my partner about things he always walks out and is gone for days. During this time he is nasty to me via text and acts like he doesn't care. My question is dies care or am I being played for a fool x ... (46 words)

Why was she so sore this time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost 11 months now. Today I returned from being away for two weeks and we spend most of it rather physically. I've never came before but today I did. The strange thing was that she couldn't. She has before, several times. ... (175 words)

How can I learn who I am and change who I was?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Ok. Being at age 33 I have learned that what I have done with my life just isn't enough. I have a decent job that I love helping people. I make decent money. After having been broken up for months with the same kind of women that I have dated for ever I have done a ton of soul ... (236 words)

Any hope for us?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4660 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position though. She works part time at ... (98 words)

How do I start to gather some self respect and finally break all ties?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my married lover for 3 years. Over the years he has hurt me terribly and blamed it on 'being weak'. He has lied through his back teeth and it has gotten to the point were I'm struggling with everything he says. I am madly inlove with him, I have had 3 serious ... (309 words)

Sometimes we flirt, sometimes not. So I'm confused, what did he mean by this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so theres this guy that flirts with me and opens up and tells me what he thinks of me. However, I'm never that open. When we flirt , I laugh it off but he doesn't. The next day I always used to test him to see if he just talks to me for a flirty chat. So I'd act normal the ... (157 words)

The never take the blame boyfriend. why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm really gettin sick of this relationship we ben together for a year and a half and we have a baby together. My problem is that I'm tired of feeling like my needs are not understood but yet I'm suppose to understand his we agrue bout the dumbest things its like he doesnt ... (294 words)

I'm a cheater. How do I find my happiness with just one person?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear world, I'm 30 years old ive had my share of unsuccessful relationships...mainly unsuccesful because of me. i've never been faithful in a relatonship. im emotionally cheating and sometimes it leads to cheating physically if the emotional part gets to far. Very rarely... (161 words)

I really like her but I'm worried I'm too eager

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4658 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age - I need some help. I'm a mature man. I have been out of a long-term relationship for about 18 months. I have been trying to sort my life out. Now I have met a woman a little younger than me, but not embarrassingly so and I really like her. I'm getting positive signals but I'm ... (165 words)

Why did he contact me and give me the run around if he's not interested?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

- So I've been talking to this guy who I met online for about a week and a half now. He messaged me on a interracial dating site and he lives four hours from my location (which he has no problem with, he's dated women that far before). He owns his own house, just got of the ... (492 words)

To give head or not to give head? That is the question!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4663 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - To give head or to not give head? That is the question. Okay, talk about an icebreaker! Here's my situation. I've been dating a guy officially for a month this coming Saturday. Before officially dating, we casually dated for another month. Within the last week, we've beco... (397 words)

B/f thinks he can control me with sex!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4657 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I have a boyfriend that acts like he can control me with his d¤•k, how can I stop him from acting that without giving up sex?... (26 words)

Should I take the attitude "its been a long time so don't worry?"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age - Six months ago, I found an ex from 20 years ago on Faceb**k. She and I have talked on the phone for hours since then. We live in different states. She claims that she had aborted three of my children with her. At the time she was living with another man and their young son. I ... (211 words)

He doesn't ask whats wrong when I'm feeling down?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was feeling really down the other day, and talking to my boyfriend online. It was very obvious something was wrong by how I described my day, my responses etc. Instead of asking though, he just ignored it, sent me a few flirty messages, and said he had to go. What gi... (83 words)

I am ready for sex but find myself making excuses!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay. So here's the deal. My boyfriend and I love each other very much and we have so much desire to make love. I am a virgin but he isnt. The farthest we have gone is making out, and phone sex. I am feeling a bit scared and doubtful of doing things that I know I want to do. ... (261 words)

I like being with him but he doesn't satisfy me in bed. How do I tell him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello there! I recently started dating a man who is 20 years older than me. He is 66 and I am 46. We met online and we had an almost immediate connection, at least on an emotional and spiritual level for me, but for him it seems that he feels he is completely in love with me. I ... (267 words)

Why I am losing on so many fronts?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Since I was born , I have been on fighting on so many fronts. I was 14, when pimples started appearing on my scalp and they were gone when I reached 20 but at the cost of losing my hair. after five years, I lost my heart to a girl with whom I was in a relationship for next fou... (216 words)

Does this behaviour mean he's jealous? Something else?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi :) uhmmm....so my fiance has been with many other girls than i have (ive only been with my sons father and ofcourse him( my fiance) ) well some of the girls he was beeing woth he wasnt dating he'd just have sex with them he says he never remembers because he was always ... (288 words)

I'm worried that even though we are blissfully happy right now that it will all end in heartbreak!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 18 nearly 19, iv been with my boyfriend for 1 year now who is also 19 and its been amazing, I never knew another person could make me this happy, hes tought me how to live. We were away for a weekend together a couple of months back, and after a night out he got down on ... (239 words)

I think he fancies this lady neighbour!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age - hi i have a parner i been with for 3 years but there is a lady living in the same block of flats as him she use to always be in his flat untill i got very angry about this i think he fancys her but he keeps denying this every time i ... (217 words)

Bad breakup with my ex, and our engagement is ended!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need opinions agony aunts and uncles! I was engaged to my recent ex. We were together for 3 years. When I graduated, I went out to eat at the school cafe with the other students to say our goodbyes. The main person organizing the lunch was a male. He posted the lunch on ... (335 words)

High and dry!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've found that I am very co dependent. I just moved out frimthe apartment I had with an ex gf one week ago. We lived together about 8 months. I knew this day was coming but I stayed anyway. We didn't have much in common and she has about 130 comments about her [a gossipy ... (266 words)

All my boyfriends have been cheaters ...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i have seen many bad days. None of my relationship was successful. All my boyfriends cheated with me. M so stressed and unhappy. Now adays smal smal things irritates me and i start fighting with who ever comes cross. Please help me...how can i change myself ? ... (47 words)

Really like my surf instructor, but didn't have a chance to say goodbye.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi This week i have been having surfing lessons, and i have to say it has been one of the best weeks ever! Even though i loved the surfing, it wasn't just that. One of the instructors and me got on really well. We would talk all the time, laugh at eachother and we weren't a... (229 words)

I don't really know what to do in bed...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4659 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone, i need your help. i lost my virginity about 1 month ago, and everythings great. sex isnt painful and IS pleasurable. but everytime ive had sex i havent had to do anything at all (my boyfriend has done all the work). The other day i decided that i wanted to do ... (223 words)

Still in love with my ex teacher!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, so here is what's going down. I am 14 years old (closer to 15 at the moment however), and I had a few problems a couple years ago. I was at middle school, in year 7, aged 12 at the time. I had a maths teacher who I was fond of, he is very good looking and fun to be around. ... (835 words)

When he gets needy, all I want to do is be alone.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been in a long distance relationship for 1.5 years now. We see each other about every 6 weeks, and the longest stretch was 3 weeks in a row. I thought he was everything I was looking for sweet, kind, loving, smart, funny...ect., but now I am starting to have doubts. ... (291 words)

I'm concerned about his friendships with these girls!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been with my bf for a month i know thats not long but i am in love with him and he is in love with me, but he hangs out with 2 girls and everytime he is with them it bothers me so much, the first girl vanessa is his co-worker and there close and my bf just told me her ... (220 words)

I don't want to move on but have no idea what to do to.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (?) age 36-40 - It's like this, we had been going out for a month and now she tell me that she's not in the right state of mind for a relationship, she said that she want to be good friends and we may get back together when she's ready for a relationship. The thing is everyone says just let go ... (97 words)

He ended it because of his jobs and his son, but he still watches me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi everyone! so heres my problem, im a single mum to a 2 year old. i met a man 4 month ago who has a 8 year old son. i really like this man. we started dating in march for 8 weeks and i started getting feelings for him until he told me he didnt have time for me as he has 2 jobs ... (168 words)

Pardon, your slip is showing!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2817 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My Aunt has recently given me some brand new 1960s style underwear which includes some waist slips with pleated hems one black, one brown and one white.I could not resist wearing them and these slips are absolutely gorgeous and when the pleats of the slip show below my dress it ... (156 words)

Is he being genuine? I don't have a lot of experience with guys!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi I'm 15 a couple if nights ago I met this guy and we started chatting. So when I was leaving he came up to me an said I just feel like hugging you and hugged me. Later that nIght he sent me a friend request and sent me a message saying how lovely it was to meet me and if he ... (195 words)

Should I go for sex with my virgin girlfriend if I am not able to marry her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello ! Me and my Girlfriend is going to meet on this 18th July 2011.. I am planing to have sex and give her a little bit hint about it.. She was excited and expecting me for a great make out..But The problem is She is virgin and I am really feeling guilty for having sex cause ... (196 words)

What do I do? My husband ignores me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i have been with my husband for over 4 yrs. we hve a 3 yr old. he works a lot on his feet all day, hes a manager at a convenience store. he doesnt go out at all its work and bk home. i dont boss him around he has the freedom to do as he pleases hes not my prisoner. i was super ... (274 words)

A question for people who have been cheated on...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4636 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - A question for anyone who's been cheated on... Would you say that when you found out this person cheated on you that you were shocked and surprised? That you didn't think the person you were with could be capable of it? That you thought that person was a good honest pers... (89 words)

I'm attracted to women but I don't want to go down there, what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4633 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm attracted to men but I feel an attraction to women as well. I don't think I've met a woman in real life yet that I'm attracted to, but I know I feel aroused when I see women in the media - like when I watch a sex scene in a movie. This may be because our culture is highly ... (260 words)

Does she like me? Are we heading towards being Super Friends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I know this girl, we've worked together for a few months now. A few days ago circumstance brought us together and we ended up spending half the day together outside of work. I know I'm in the friend zone with her, but does it mean anything if... At one point we got on to the... (203 words)

Could he have felt my privates? And was this dry sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4666 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I was at my boyfriend's house and we were making out. It ended up with him on top and he kept grabbing my butt. Thing was, he kept grabbing closer and closer to my private part till eventually he was almost fingering me. Could he tell the difference between where my *** ended ... (121 words)

I feel he loves me, but when he is goes to his hometown, I'm a nuisance, and it makes me crazy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been living with a guy for about 6 months....he is going through a divorce, he is so so sweet, he makes me feel so beautiful, and I love who I am when I am with him!! He loves his daughters, I haven't met his girls or any of his family!! I think that since his divorce ... (465 words)

I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (?)

- My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS WON"T SAVE YOU IF SOME NUT RUNS YO... (118 words)

Relationship ended badly, is it possible to salvage a friendship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So I lost my girlfriend about a month ago. It didnt end too well. She told me that we didnt have room in each others lives and that she has issues that she should have dealt with before getting me involved. It wasnt seeming very clear and I asked her to be more open into why ... (180 words)

My girlfriend is always afraid of pregnancy even though we use protection...how do I calm her down?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I are worried about a potential pregnancy. She's a little later than usual for her period. She's almost always ~3 days late, but we're getting into a day or two past that point. To the best of our knowledge, she *shouldn't* be pregnant. Every time we've ... (268 words)

So what do guys really want?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F) age 30-35 - So what do guys really want? last night I went out with my friends to a pub/club and they were projecting music videos. Of course as "club music" videos go, they all had "hot" girls in them with skimpy clothes. My guy friends were all commenting about the girls' bodies... and ... (575 words)

We weren't together at the time, I didnt see the harm...how can I reassure him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I love my boyfriend so much. We're only seventeen but have been together for almost a year and a half. We broke up for about two months near the start of the year and both saw other people during that time. We broke up basically because we argued so much. My boyfriend has ne... (954 words)

Is a sexless marriage common or should I do something about it?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4664 days ago

16 July 2011 (F) age 51-59 - I have been reading a lots of different opinions on sexless marriages.Some says it is very common after long term marriage, that the marriage becomes sexless, for different reasons. And couples just keep living together sometimes a whole decade without sex. My marriage... (85 words)

She was upset because I was looking at porn again and then I left.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - long story short. me and my exgf had a controlling and abusive relationship. we are really crazy about each other. i betrayed her trust with a porn issue I was working on but didn't fix fast enough. she found out each time and basically never trusted me since. I did stop mon... (235 words)

Should I consider my cowork an occassional hook up or a partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4666 days ago

16 July 2011 (F) - another one of these coworker hook up stories...just kind of confused and wanted to express my thoughts. so basically last year a coworker and i wound up making out..after a night out with coworkers we went back to his place..i have been there before but it was in a group..... (1165 words)

How can I stop from reaching my climax too early and prolong the experience for both of us?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im only young and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, weve been having sex for just less than that too. we have a great sex life, and both seem to enjoy it. I know that premature ejaculation is a common problem in males but for us, it seems to be me that ... (140 words)

I kinda like him but not in the way I used to, not yet anyway but if this carries on I might.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4665 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - My old best friend from when I was about 3 to 10 has recently started contancting me through facebook and we have been chatting and catching up for the last 5 or so years. Well we was chatting away and I asked if he had a girlfriend and then he told me he was gay so I told him ... (170 words)

I'm a virgin and still trying to hold onto my dreams!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4661 days ago

16 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi I'm a 27 year old male and I'm still a virgin.The thing that bothers me the most isn't the lack of sex but the fact I still haven't felt what is like to love and be loved.To have a person that really cares about me and me feeling the same for her. I had my first crush w... (603 words)