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Archived questions from: 26 October, 2009 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Sex hurt me way too much! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - hello(: I'm 15 years old and have been talking to a guy for over a year. He made it "official" a week ago. We tried having sex but it hurt way too much i could not handle the pain. I felt really bad because i told him i was ready. But i just wanna know what i can do to prep... (87 words)

How do I reconnect with my friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of almost a year. We are irrevocably in love and everything is great. But it seems like I have no friends anymore. I don't go out like I used to, I lost contact with one of my best friends that I thought I'd keep forever. ... (169 words)

I feel like dumping her as she finds him attractive!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - i recently asked my girlfreind if She would ever have sex with this guy, i know she thinks is good looking, although she told me she is not intrested in anybody but me. She told me she doesnt just sleep with anyone, the fact she has only spoken to this guy 2/3 times so i said w... (312 words)

Please suggest a solution to this! He knows I care about him, he must care about me too, if he keeps in touch, right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Here I go again. My x bf has been texting me he says we will be "forever friends" but he is living with a woman he met and started seeing when my mother was dying and I couldnt/wouldnt devote 100% of my time to him. He wants to meet up with me - tells me that when I give head... (402 words)

I've developed a crush on a female friend! Is this normal? Is it just a one-time thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5291 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have always considered myself a straight female, but lately I have developed a somewhat innocent crush on another female friend. I have known her for a while through another friend of mine but we have recently become more friendly. She is very kind, sweet, funny, attractive; ... (166 words)

What would girls recommend that a guy with a small penis do in bed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - What kind of things could a guy with a small penis do to give a girl a good time in bed? Mine only measures about 3 and 1/2 inches when erect, 4 inches if I push the fat in a little (I'm a bit on the heavy side), but clearly I'm not going to be pushing the fat in the whole... (147 words)

Why is my ex stiff and formal? He's the one who dumped me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex fiance broke my heart 9 months ago. We were together for 7 years, best friends, and VERY much in love, but one day he said he had an epiphany and couldn't be with me anymore (his family is very religious). He's 27 and I'm 29. We planned to marry when he finished school ... (323 words)

My teacher is on my mind literally 24/7. Help me get over this!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, this is going to be kind of long but I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!! Hear it goes... I am 15 years old I am totally in love with my business studies teacher since year 8 and I think I’m getting to the point of obsession. I know a lot about him and my friend knows how I feel.... (217 words)

She's still friends with her ex. Do I have a right to feel uncomfortable given the circumstances?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I would like to get some perspective/other people's views on the following situation: My girlfriend has an ex who she is still friends with. They broke up four years ago and didn't see each other for a while, but for the last two years she had sex on and off with this ex bec... (302 words)

Is it going to take forever for him to share himself with me on a more intimate level?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I will try to be breif. Currently going out with a man who I really like in every way after a year of being friends but is wanting to take things very slowly (which is great) and means that he must like me a lot. However; he wants a lot of female attention and always talk... (412 words)

I'm about to be bankrupt and homeless due to him. Should I take something from him? And tell people what's happened?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age - Hello Have a question I urgently need answering. I am at the end of a pretty terrible 11 year relationship with a guy. He is goodlooking, very talented, intelligent, and can be amusing. He also had a really bad childhood where he got abandoned by his real mum and then adopted ... (296 words)

Help me help my boyfriend. We've moved in together, but his misses his parents!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - So I recently moved in with my boyfriend. Everything is great between us we are very much in love and the two of us have never been happier with our personal lives. The dilemma is that my boyfriend misses his parents. They really did not want him to move out. He is an o... (230 words)

Is he hiding from me? Or did he find someone new? I'm so clueless and lost!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I am recently desperate in seeking straight and honest advice and I feel this is the right place for me. Kindly bear with me as I’m new with this stuff. I'm in a relationship for 7 months now, we started as collegues then we became friends and then lovers. My boyfriend has 2 ... (679 words)

No matter what he does, I always come running back for more.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5275 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a problem. My problem is letting go of the past. Especially one person in particular - my ex boyfriend. No matter what he does, I always come running back for more. He can chew me up, and spit me out, and I can't walk away. So my question is, why? Why do I dwell on al... (187 words)

Do you think he'll be interested if I call him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently met a man at a party. We were chatting for a while and I found him really interesting company- he seemed like an intelligent, unassuming and basically nice guy and we had quite a lot in common and, on first impressions, similar outlook on life. He was also really ... (302 words)

How can you tell if a boy likes you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 26-29 - How can you tell a boy you like like's you ? As he is in my class and I do not know how to re-act around him , any advice ?... (31 words)

Is my friend correct about my hymen not being intact?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I can fit my middle finger inside my vagina without any discomfort my friend said that this probably means that my hymen isn't intact, even though I've never had sex is this true?... (33 words)

What can I do to stimulate my girlfriend? She's always dry.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, My girlfriend can't seem to get wet for me. She gets in the mood but when we attempt to have sex, she is as dry as ever. But yet, she still can be stimulated by touch, but not MY touch. Why does this happen? What must I do to stimulate her? If I am the probl... (77 words)

How do I stop getting my hopes up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - hi please help as previousley posted - my girlfriend endedd our relationship in april - i suspected that she was seeing someone else and guess what within a week she said she was ina relationship. Like a fool I chased and chased her - but she just said leave her alone - I wr... (181 words)

Is it okay to have sex on prom night?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5292 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) age 30-35 - sex after prom night been a sort of "tradition" the question is whether or not to have sex with my gf after the prom. I think it depends on both people involved. If you are in a serious relationship, . I think it is ok to have sex that night. If we were not in a relationshi... (74 words)

Should I date a guy that doesn't go to college?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - So I'm 20 and I met this really really awesomely nice guy. He's not your typical nice guy: he's a singer in a band, has tattoos and piercings, skateboards and doesn't go to college. But he has a job and works. He's 18. I'm a junior in college trying to get into medical school. ... (216 words)

Is he trying to leave me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - i am 3 and half months pregnant and i have noticed that my boyfriend hasnt really wanted to have much to do with me anymore. he says it is my fault he is pulling away. is it really me that he is trying to leave?... (45 words)

In love with two boys....what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm in love with two boys. One boy, ('Cody') I dated for about 9 months. We had the most wonderful relationship, and I cannot remember a time when we fought about anything besides who loved who more. Towards the end of our relationship I started having feelings for my best fri... (254 words)

Is there a way I can tell him about my weight gain?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5282 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - A guy added me on myspace began talking to me. We have been talking for about a month and have similar interests, good conversation, and he is very interested in me. He wants to meet me, but there is one catch. All of my myspace pictures are about two years old, becau... (231 words)

Even though is sounds sad, I'm still jealous of my pretty friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - heyy i just want to know this may sound stupid but i dont like goin out with my mates to like clubs becoz they get loads of male attention and i dont am not sayin i want the attention but it would b good to b atleast noticed . i think my friends are just too pretty for me and ... (70 words)

Is my husband getting bored with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband and I have been married for 5 and a half months. I am 10 weeks pregnant and starting to gain a little weight. Before we got married, sex was not an issue. He wanted me all the time and gave me a look that always made me feel sexy and beautiful. Since we got married, ... (165 words)

Does no one want me because of my reputation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - im 16 and have never had a boyfriend but ive slept with 3 boys which mean nothing to me and i really wish i hadnt, but i really want a boyfriend but no one seems to want me coz they think im just goin to sleep about which im not i really do want a boyfriend. can anybody give me ... (61 words)

How do I open the lines of communication?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Okay I'm sorry in advance for this being so long... but its been a long 6 years lol.. my girlfriend started staying with me at my parents when she was 16 and I was 17. She lived out of the school ddistrict and her mom fell ill with cancer. (She stayed with us for a couple ... (410 words)

Is she the right person for me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - She once claimed at the end of a big argument at the end of which we left each other that life with me was dull and boring and that the idea of being married to me depressed her just as the idea of being on her own. Now we're back together and she keeps talking marriage, but I ... (71 words)

Can this just be an innocent friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating a man for about nine months. We met when I was going through a divorce. When we initially started dating, he was seeing someone he had dated in the past. During this time, he went to visit this person, and he told me that he had slept with her during this ... (303 words)

Why is my ex not adding me back on MSN?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - why is my ex not adding me back on msn because about a week ago we kind of had an argument but then she deletes me from msn. then about 4 days later i asked her why she deleted me and she says that i was getting on her nerves. but i apologised and she forgive me and we started ... (114 words)

How to quickly get rid of a hickey?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - What is the best way to get rid of a hickey in 3 days? It is dark red, blue, and the size of a half dollar or spoon tip. ... (29 words)

Should I read into his goodbye hug?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - The other night I was out at a coffee shop with some people I know professionally. One of the guys is an artist and was having an art reception there, so he invited the whole group of us via e-mail. I don't know him well and our acquaintance so far has been on a professional ... (131 words)

How do I take this outside work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have gotton myself into a situation at work where me and a coworker have become interested in each other, well I am really into him and he says the same although we only kiss when he is around and it seems just to be a work thing, how can I change the situation by getting him ... (73 words)

Is my penis deformed?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I don't know if this matters too much or not. Size wise I'm okay, I'm a little over 6 inches long so I'm average size. The thing is, the glans of my penis is twisted (that's the tip). It's twisted slightly to the left, which means my penis looks weird looking. Everyth... (104 words)

LDR: do I let her go?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok im confused, scared, frustrated... Me and this girl have been dating for 5 months now. Everything has been going good till she went off to college. I know the whole giving space and letting someone go. I understand if you care for someone its better sometimes to do ... (1339 words)

I can't stop thinking about my mom sexually

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - My parents got divorced 13 years ago, and so i was forced to live at my mums during the week and my dads at the weekends. About 8 years ago, i needed to get a glass from the cupboard, but my mum was standing on the worktop in the way cleaning the top of the cupboards. I reached ... (236 words)

What is the difference between pre-cum and cum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - what is the difference between pre-cum and cum?... (8 words)

Have I forever lost the love of my life?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - on friday nite i went to a friends house party where there was drinking involved. i was drinking and enjoying myself waiting for my boyfriend of 3 years to stop by and pick me up so that we could go home and have passionate sex. when he showed up he brought one of his friends ... (289 words)

Should I propose to her or tell her how I feel first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi! I want to ask that i love a girl from a year but i haven't told it to her. I think she also loves me so should i propose her? Plz help me Thanks!!... (38 words)

Escort girlfriend and sleepless nights, Part 2.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) age 36-40 - Hello, I posted a question for advice some time ago which you can read here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/escort-girlfriend-true-love-and-sleepless-nights-help.html As pathetic as it may seem I am not yet free of the situation. I was wondering if you kind people mig... (1483 words)

Are my parents doing the right thing?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello. My mum and dad are currently breaking up, although I have the feeling that they shouldn't be. Basically, my dad gave up smoking a year and a half back, but his job has gotten really stressfull. My mum had this happen two times before and said she wouldn't put up ... (236 words)

Will he try to contact me again, out of the blue?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have just ended a affair with a guy of 4 years and its over. I am ok with it wish him dead just joking.. What do I do if this sob decides to try and play me again and contacts me out of the blue. It has happened before and I wonder if it will happen again...... (59 words)

Is my husbad using porn as a weapon? Is he a heartless jerk?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - when my husband and i started out, i was ok with watching porn as a couple and i let him know that. porn wasn't a problem for me until our sex life turned downhill and i found the underside of our bed peppered with porn! now porn is an issue bc now it hurts me for obvious ... (165 words)

What is my ex husband's agenda?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - i am in a bit of a dilema. I thought everything was going how it was supposed to and then my ex contacts me. we have been in the middle of a divorce for 8 mths. he asks how i am doin and hows work. i reply short but sweet good and more or less good. then he talks about hes ... (324 words)

We are best mates so how do I not ruin things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I went out with someone 5 months ago. He was my first real love, i'd never loved anyone like i loved him! We was only together a month, we hardly ever seen each other, he got excluded for a week, and i went on holiday for 2 weeks. So we had only seen each other for 3 days. When ... (126 words)

Got drunk, kissed a guy, and hit my ex. How do I apologize?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear all, I made a stupid mistake over the weekend that I'm being punished for now. I've been split up from my boyfriend since July and all in all it was a amicable split and we've tried to stay friends although there's been some problems. On Saturday he gave me a ticket for an ... (310 words)

She wants to leave him. Is there a chance for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok recently, she messaged me around 3am, sayin I have put some magic spell on her and made her attracted to me haha. But she wants to keep a distance and she's worried what if we never get together because she's still with her bf but he just wont leave her but she WANTS to ... (112 words)

Is a woman's worth tied to her breast size?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5277 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) age 30-35 - I have many issues with my body. I hate having small breasts, because men may accept small ones, but secretly they all want big! My boyfriend masturbates to big chested women. Also I don't have all the time in the world to exercise, sure I'm not overweight, I do cardio every ... (705 words)

Any ideas on what to do here?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5290 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - During my high school years, I had a crush on a classmate. However, I was never able to bring myself to reveal those feelings to her. It was enough for me at that time that we were on friendly terms and that she didn't treat me as a loser like most of the other girls did. We ... (394 words)

How to tell my pregnant mother that I might be pregnant too?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - My mom is 4 months pregnant, and I think I might be pregnant also.. I'm 18 and live on my own but she still supports me a lot! I dont know how to tell her that I am pregnant, or that I think I might be. Help, please?... (48 words)

I really want a relationship, but I'm so insecure about my looks

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 16 year old girl and I have never been in a relationship before. I've liked several guys before (not at the same time of course) and about 2 of the crushes were HUGE, they really impacted me and it lingered on my mind for a year or so. But I have never made any approaches ... (185 words)

Out of control pubic hair?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone i'm 18 yrs old boy.well i have a problem actually i have lots of pubic hairs although i know its normal to have hairs in genital area but i too have hairs around anal area and its enough,i have lots of hairs on my legs but one thing is fine that i have no hairs on ... (138 words)

Should I look for the guest house or end the relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - am a young guy of 22, i met this girl on the net. i asked her to send her picture to me and she refused. as time goes on, we see each other face to face.she's not the type i want because i need a reasonable and responsible girl. when we are together, i asked her whether she ... (234 words)

I think he should have married me despite his mother's objections!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been in a relationship for 20+ years with my boyfriend. He is my best friend as well. It is positive in many ways, and that has been a strong glue for keeping us together. We laugh, talk, finish each others sentences. Time flies. We just click on so many levels. The ... (446 words)

They're on a break, I'm really taken by her, but I'm worried he'll say "no more other people"!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a 29 tear old male, who's been pretty damaged by love. yet, somehow remain consistently open to the prospect. i work 3rd shift 6 nights a week which makes meeting women difficult on top of that most realize off the bat that ill almost never be home with them at night. I've ... (223 words)

We can't make this marriage work ever since I took his advice and slept with another guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5293 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been married for 6 yrs and we have been together for 14 yrs..my husband and I have always had relationship problems..he always lies to me and he is verbally semi phyiscal abusive and since we started dating he always wanted me to sleep with another person. So a couple of ... (113 words)

Is raising my voice to him a legitimate reason for his physical attacks on me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - After being verbally beaten down - and occasionally physically attacked - I have nothing left except for a hollow-feeling body. After one year of being accused of being a wh*re, a liar, and a cheater I am, I finally started to fight back and there were times that I wou... (227 words)

Desperatly wanting the love of my husband back

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband wanted to talk to me the other night about us. The other night he told me he loves me but is not in love with me anymore but I am his best friend the thing is i felt the same way but i do love him and want our marriage to work. Since our discussion i have been trying ... (257 words)

Can my male cousin buy me a pearl and what does it mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i know this is not a relationship question but i need to know can my boy cousin buy me a pearl and what does it mean... (26 words)

Should I say goodbye or leave him to forget me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - im gonna cut off contact with my ex who is my best friend as well its killing me to do this, but i dont know what else to do to get over him. I haven't spoken to him for 2 days which is a big improvement because we talk everyday since we met. Should i give him a goodbye call, ... (174 words)

Is she really worried about things or just not turned on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend is currently experiencing pains in her arms and legs. We still don't know the origin. She has not appeared interested in sex in the past few months. I wonder if these are connected, because there are other factors in our life, like my unemployment, and I fear that ... (132 words)

I just want ONE night with him, I think that's all it would take to bring us closer then it could be the start of something new!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - There's a guy i've known for quite some time now and when we're alone i feel this 'connection' between us. We both become quite shy and although the eye contact is only brief, it is filled with such tension. Most of the time i avoid looking at him in the eye because the feeling ... (561 words)

I want to forget them and move on! HELP!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, Sorry this is sooo long. Please can I have some advice on the best way to get over someone, I do not want them back, well I do in a way, but I know I couldn’t go back, they have pulled enough shit, but I want to forget them and move on with my life. 100 percent, As... (1025 words)

What am I going to do all weekend while he's having a bachelor party?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - hello all i dont know what to do well you see getting married in 2weeks and hubby us having a weekend getaway batchelors party. and i dont like the idea of having strippers ect.. dancing naked and entertaining him. i dont know if i want party and what am i gonna do for the... (258 words)

How do I deal with my husbands depression? I feel more like his carer than his wife

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband has been depressed since 2005 ended, I've constantly tried and tried to seek help for him but he has so far refused to get it over the past four years. He keeps on insisting to me that September 2004 to the end of 2005 were the "golden days", "glory years" an... (234 words)

I went off sex so allowed my sister to have sex with my husband, but now I don't see why they should continue this arrangement!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I gave birth about a year ago. For the first few months after, I was not up for sex at all (although I did allow him to perform oral sex on me). My husband was very patient with me, but I could tell he was stressed by this. I didn't want to reject him, but ... (451 words)

Has this man got narcissistic traits?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - Please i really need some help here to understand this man. I'm beginning to think he has Narcissistic traits but i'm not sure. i have been in a relationship with him for 8yrs,the trouble is he never says I love you or shows a lot of affection towards me yet he texts me twice... (498 words)

How do I dump my boyfriend for the second time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5294 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I dump my boyfriend for the second time? RE: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-still-not-listening-when-i-tell-him.html His family know me again and so do his friends. Last time they stopped taking to me and so did he. Also I do still like him for the most part... (49 words)

What can happen if you do not get a yeast infection treated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I thought I had a yeast infection but I never got it checked up! 1.Is because I don't have health insurance 2.I thought after a while it would eventually clear up. But now I think that I should get it checked because it's very thick and I am worried! Is yeast infections that ... (60 words)

He said she was only a fling yet I found emails saying he wanted to marry her, how do I know that I'm not just another fling?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok.....this is a really long one but Im DESPERATE for help. 4 yrs ago i got in touch with this awesome guy n we really hit it off. he is 3 yrs elder to me.... and we've been together for over 3 and a half yrs now....and its always been in a long distance relationship. we... (806 words)

Am I being too serious too soon?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have started seeing this guy only recently (2 mths) but feel that I am falling for him. We have recently had a couple of conversations which have gone along the lines of him telling me that he thinks I am into the relationship much more seriously than he is (which would ... (175 words)

I've never fallen out of love so what now?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - i am 43 yrs old married for 18 yrs and have a son 16 and a daughter 9 but here is the situation. it was love at first sight at the age of 16 instantly i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl, still a virgin (both of us) i didn't want to just give that to ... (848 words)

I have really fallen for him but I'm scared it might be too late!

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so this might sound complicated. I known this guy for as long as I could remember. On my last year of high school I had several relationship problems with a certain ex. So my friend who I known for ages was there with me all the time. He listened to all my problems and ... (358 words)

He hit rock bottom after we split up and we are meeting again for the first time this Sunday. How do I play it?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - hi i split with my ex 10 months ago, after a passionate intense 6 months relationship, we had moved in together, i realised he had a serious alcohol problem, i know a lot about that issue, he had stolen money off me before, we were sharing money but it was my account, one night ... (344 words)

I don't want to be too available to him, how can I progress this relationship without doing so?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 51-59 - The man i used to date last year after a period of more distance between us now seems to be more friendly. I like him and i usually go out with him when we arrange it. However, i have a lot of doubts about continuing a more intimate relationship. Although i have a great time ... (120 words)

How do I tell my parents and my friends that I'm gay?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 26-29 - im 13 im gay. i love men. how do i tell my parents. and my friends it all started 2 weeks ago when i was straight, i had never kissed a girl though. i went into the bathroom and only my friend, who i knew to be gay, was there. i did my business and i was washing my hands... (122 words)

Why is my boyfriend blowing cold? Does he still love me?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age - Having spent a part of my holiday together, my boyfriend is now very cold and I hardly see him. Two weeks ago was the first time since our holiday in August and I did not even get a kiss on the cheeks. Is there something I should be doing, should I ring him and invite him o... (138 words)

Should I tell him how I feel? I don't know whether it is possible to have a relationship with him!

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so i'm like freaking out. i think this sort of started maybe 3 years ago when i started talking to my friend from germany. at first, it was just normal things and we chatted like everyday, and then he gradually started flirting and stuff but i didn't think he meant it... (400 words)

How do I let her down without hurting her too much? I don't want to start a relationship when I am moving away!

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - okay, well i'l just get straight into it. i'm a 17 year old guy and she is a 15 year old girl. we both go to the same college, she is 2 years below me in school and has a brother in my year. i honestly don't remember how we met but i have been texting her for about 3 months ... (282 words)

This feels so wrong to be flirting so openly with him while his girlfriend has no idea!

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok, so this is a very complicated situation. I have been in a relationship for the past 9 months. It is a very dysfunctional relationship, so we're taking some time apart right now. When I first met this guy, we started hanging out with his cousin and his girlfriend. Then we ... (414 words)

Should I have a relationship with a man 22 years older than me? What will happen in the future?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Just as the saying goes " love is blind",I am in love with a man who is 22 years older than me (i'm 28), he divorced couple of months ago, he loves me so much, making me feel I am having the whole world. This kind of beloved feeling never happens to me ever before. However, ... (185 words)

How can I let him know I am over him and just want to be friends?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - ok i posted a lot of things on here actually.. im having trouble getting over what happened i explained it in detail in one of my other writings.. long story short i got left for some ghetto girl on homecoming nite for a guy i committed to and gave everything to for 9 months.... (235 words)

He has already proposed to me, do you think he could be using me just to get citizenship in America?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - i started talking to this guy over the summer and he is arabic. and i cant tell if hes using me for my greencard. im 18 and hes 22. he respects me and he treats me good. over the summer he asked me to get engaged but its just between me and him right now. i know his family and ... (268 words)

Is our mutual friend only trying to get us together for his own entertainment?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - I met a guy recently who I think is shy: he doesn't look me in the eye that long, he avoids eye contact when he sees me passing (but I say Hi, and he starts talking to me), he looks at me from a distance, I usually am the one saying hi first... Anyway, a mutual friend of ours ... (312 words)

Why did my girlfriend break up with me out of the blue?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend of four months decided yesterday she wasn't happy, and wanted to leave me. The day before was our 4 month anniversary, and things were great, or so i thought. she says i did nothing wrong she just wasn't happy anymore. Can any one help please?... (47 words)

I'm scared to tell her I love her...

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - My bestfriend isn't the dating type but I am. I want her to know I love her but I'm scared of what will happen if I tell her that I've fallen for her. What should I do?... (38 words)

Is it really that serious?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - they say when your in love you'll know.......is it really that serious??... (12 words)

Perspective anyone?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - I really need some perspective. My bf and I are at college. He will be graduating in a few months and I will have another semester after that. We go to school near each other but this year we live pretty much at my place. He has a place at his school, but hasn't spent one ... (338 words)

She loves someone else...should I wait?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - here's the story, Kim loves me (not real names), i love amy, amy loves katie (yes shes bi), and katie well she loves everyone (shes sorta a sl*t.) so main point i love amy who says she loves me but also loves katie....i have waited for months for amy but shes still with katie. ... (101 words)

I still love my ex but we have different backgrounds. Can it work?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Well it's simple, I'm still in love with my ex and she says she still has feelings for me. I'm just not sure if I should take her back. When I was with her I tried to be the best boyfriend I could. I always did what she wanted me to, I bought her flowers when I could, I always ... (222 words)

Do you think he'll write me sometime?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - well i barly graduted from high school. i still have a crush on the football player. but we go to two diffrent colleges, i dont get to see him anymore. an our highschool theirs football games, the last game is novemeber 5. which i hope to see him!!!! the last two games i saw ... (309 words)

How do I kill my masterbation habit?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 22 addicted to masturbation for about 10 years or so.I masturbate more than once in day.I want to leave this habit. What should i do for the restlessness i feel when not masturbating?Especially if i get bored ..and have nothing to do I masturbate.How to kill this? I ... (70 words)

How do I improve my biceps?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm 16 m and I'm really weak..I'd be useless if it came to defending myself..am I the only 16 year old guy with practically no biceps?... (26 words)

Is my curiosity going to hurt my girlfriend?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok, here we go. First off, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months. My friend, which is a girl, broke up with her boyfriend just recently. Me and him use to play in a band together. And thats how i meet the other girl. I did not have a girl friend a... (255 words)

How do I get through to him that it's not funny?

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26 October 2009 (?) age 30-35 - soo me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 5 months now. we're jus coming back from a huge fight and break up and arent exactly together, jus working on things. so this weekend has been very good and we're happy, but today, i was at my house alone, doing some ... (271 words)

I want to feel passion with a man.

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello. I am very confuses which I am gay, bi, or straight. I want to be gay but not 100 percent... I don't want woman in my life but want to have kids... I just want is feel passion with man .... I want to be myself.. If I need feel passion.. Who I am ? God don't like ... (72 words)

Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) girls found out that I was a ... (121 words)

Is this normal behavior for a guy in a relationship?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I have been together almost a year and a half now. Things in the begining were great, of course, as with any new relationship. But it was our 2nd go at it, because the first time we met (on a blind date, which was cool) and dated for a mnth or 2, I found out ... (980 words)

Advice on having sex with an older man?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - i always enjoyed hav sex but now am married with really old guy an we dont have sex for a year now and i also dont want to cheat on him,we love each other very much,we enjoy each others company but i really want to have sex any advice... (49 words)

Is it possible to get a sex change?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 36-40 - i want a sex change but i like women i just also want to be one but is it possiple to get another sex change ... (25 words)

Should I forgive her and trust again?

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26 October 2009 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, please any advice at all would be much appriciated!!, sorry this might be abit drawn out but I need serious help with my love life. I met a girl when I was 12, it was love a first sight for both of us and immediatley we hit it off, for 4 years we had an amazing ... (353 words)

How do I let him know I need something more serious?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there, I've been seeing this guy for nearly 2months now, and its all very casual, soon after we started texting each other he told me he'd just gotten out of a 4year relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything too serious right now as he was still pretty... (308 words)

Why won't he respond?

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - my first question is so me and this guy have been talking for awhile on facebook and texting and at school he always sayings hi to me and he smiles but when i asked him to hang out he stops talking but when i said happy birthday he replied but he wont talk to me what does ... (67 words)

My cheating boyfriend aggravates me!

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26 October 2009 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so my boyfriend cheated on me like 3 mnths ago and i took him back he said that she got pregnant by his bestfriend and then yesterday we were talking and i told him how sick i was cuz i got the flu and he was like O ARE YOU PREGNANT and DONT LIE and i told no i would ... (89 words)

Can I beat him at his own game?

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26 October 2009 (F)

- Hey all, Me and my ex split up a few months ago, his decision not mine. He's been leading me on ever since, giving false hope that we may get back together. He wants to remain friends but like I said sometimes he gives false hope of us getting back together when thats not ... (169 words)