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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He has a big problem! Is my husband cheating on me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been married for just over a year but in the same relationship for 16 years. This sounds crazy but my husband and I have just stopped having sex - initially I just put it down to stressful jobs (investment banking)and the associated fatigue but at the back of my mind I ... (387 words)

I feel confused and alone...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I am completly in love with my husband who recently blind-sided me (at 5 weeks pregnant) by telling me that he does not love me anymore. We have been married for almost 3 years, but in a relationship for 6. All along he has wanted kids and was (or so I thought) waiting for me ... (232 words)

I have been in a secret relationship with a man 15 years older than me for almost a year.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in a secret relationship with a man 15 years older than me for almost a year. It has all happened under the cover of a professional relationship, but with this intense undercurrent of attraction and innuendo. We never had sex or even touched, but he showed me ... (504 words)

I'm just not sure on how to proceed. I don't want to keep pestering him about what's going on.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm 21 years old, he's 23. We've known each other since college, and he has graduated and I've left due to financial reasons. We didn't really start to hang out until I moved in across the street from him. At the time, I was casually seeing someone else. It was obvious that he ... (1503 words)

I've had 7 failed relationships. What can I do to make my relationships work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - hi im 16 and i have had 7 failed relationships. all of them i have tried my best to make work but all have failed. im captain of my rugby team, im a county champion 4 triple jump. im also a volunteer youth worker. im not exactly ugly, im sensitive and im in a good group of ... (79 words)

I have trouble being faithful in a relationship, how can I stop being this way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - hi... I wondered if you could help me? I have trouble with being faithful in a relationship. Every time I'm in a relationship i always destroy it by cheating and lying I wondered if you can tell me the best way to stop this? ... (47 words)

Am I asking too much from my boyfriend? Do we have a future as a couple?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello please, I need help, I have a dilemma with my relationship with my boyfriend, I know he is a good guy and we share strong feelings for each other, but I am seriously thinking if I should stay in this relationship or not, I have a lot of trust issues, for me it is ... (580 words)

How can I convince her to keep our unborn child?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 402 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - Hello cupid readers.... I once came upon this site about 3 months ago, when I had just found out that I got a 15 year old pregnant. I decided to delete my old account becuse of the rude things I was told. Now I have come back for advice, but not for lectures. I'm aware she is u... (275 words)

32 year old christian virgin - should I lose it in Amsterdam?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 317 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 32 Christian male, single (and have always been) and still a virgin. All my friends are getting married and I feel left behind. I've never been very out-going and this "no-sex-before-marriage" thing is engrained in me but recently getting depressed about this. I'm ... (62 words)

She's not sure whether she wants a relationship right now... where do I stand now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Hi i ahve known a girl for 4 years. We were quite close but this year have really grown to like theis girl and i eventually asked her out. We saw each other all saturday and sunday and we were brilliant together. But on sunday nite i got a call saying that she found it a lil ... (117 words)

Do I have a chance with her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 13-15 - I'm 14 and so is my ex. we broke up about a year ago, we went through things because we hated each other for about 6-5 months. but since a few months ago we have been talking like twice a week. I always start the conversation [text, myspace] she never starts a conversat... (93 words)

Infidelity flashbacks - how can I get over this now that I'm happily married?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm 42, consider myself mature, and am no means weak minded or overly sensitive (I'm in the middle of my third combat tour in Iraq). The closest term I can use to describe my problem is infidelity flashback. I have a long history of being cheated on. I know this, and I know... (353 words)

Is he a jerk and I'm too blond to see or does he need more time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I lost my virginity to him and we were friends with benefits for months, he told me he really liked me but needed to focus on school. I felt like I was being used so I said i wasnt going to do it anymore. He then asked me to be his girlfriend and even intoduced me to his ... (255 words)

Pregnant on Plan B. Considering abortion.

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 411 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi. I am 26 and been married for almost a year now. Like every marriage we have our differences. Maybe they are a lot in our case cuz our viewpoints are divergent on most of the issues. We've been working on our issues and trying to get a deeper insight into each others n... (308 words)

The both rejected my request to be friends on Facebook now I'm getting paranoid people don't like me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

- Sorry, my question will prob sound a little dumb..... I've got a facebook page and a couple of months ago I requested Adam to be my friend. I knew Adam from years ago, we were really close but there was no romance, we were just good mates. He moved away but I would occasionally ... (253 words)

Do you think he just likes the chase???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - A guy I was seeing quite often broke things off with me for no other reason than he did not want a relationship. So for the past 3 months now all I've been is a drunken 3 in the morning phone call to which I always usually go round to his apartment.(I may as well get mine ... (169 words)

Is my husbands fetish normal?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a question about a weird fetish my husband has developed in the last few months. Lately, instead of us having intercourse, he likes to watch me have intercourse with a vibrator instead while he holds it. Is this normal, and if so why does he get off on this? It has kind ... (67 words)

Should I kiss it off, or fight for her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - I am not well. I have trouble with the drink, and have spent many years sober, in fact, all but seven of the last seventeen years I was able to stay clean. I have a great job, and by most accounts I am doing okay, but have a tendency to go on big benders, while other time... (377 words)

Now I'm 22, is a relationship with my one time Spanish teacher legal, or is it frowned upon??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - I'm a 22 year old male, in a decent job, with a good social life. I often go out drinking with friends. One time when I went down the pub, I saw my old Spanish teacher. She was 27 when I was 16 doing my GCSE's. We had fun reminiscing about old times and she mentioned she ... (127 words)

We're not compromising on our personalities - neither one of us is going to change

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm "talking" to this guy. we're trying to get to know each other before we start an official relationship. One problem. There's basically no compromise. He loves to joke around at the most inappropriate times -- like when I'm mad or trying to tell him how I feel. He'll totally ... (154 words)

Could this just be some sort of phase?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - My brother-in-law told me he loves me, and that he always has. We were friends before my husband and I met. Back then I had feelings for him, and he had feelings for me, but we both had too much pride to do anything about it. So I moved on and got married, my husband and I ... (185 words)

Is he just a nice person in general or is he interested in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - There is this guy I sit next to in class. He is really nice to me and we always talk. He seems interested in me, like always asks what i did the day before, what im going to do, etc. but i dont know if he likes me or if he is that way to everyone. Talking to him makes me ... (104 words)

Husband and I have trust issues, any advice would be appreciated.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hey i am 18 years old been married 8 months. My husband and i have trust issues. Not because of eachother but because of the way we have been done in pervious relationships. Well i have caught him talking to girls he went to high school with he's 19 and in the Marine Corp. I ... (190 words)

What can I do to stop my friend getting hurt but without disrupting the friendly atmosphere inthe flat?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 303 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I recently moved to university hall - about 4 weeks ago to be precise and Im having a bit of a complicated problem. I've been really lucky in the sense that I've got 3 fantastic flatmates - one of which is a girl who I've become best mates with. We'll call her Sammie. We ... (252 words)

I think my husband has stopped loving me. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - hi... iam have a problem that i think most woman have...my husband stopped loving me...doesnt want to sleep with me..he avoid it...started talking to his ex...he is distant emtionally...when i ask him if he is still loves me...he said sure...i dont believe him...i have one... (89 words)

Planning a romantic weekend soon. Is there a way to induce my period to get it now, before I leave?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm seeing this guy on the weekend. We're long distance and only see each other once every month or 2. We haven't had sex yet and I'm pretty sure we were going to this weekend. Normally my period is on time every month, the 5th or the 6th, but I haven't gotten it yet this ... (161 words)

I am totally stumped as to what to get for my best friend's birthday, any ideas?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - It's not exactly a question and I guess you guys see this type of question on here often, but I need help. It's my really close friend's birthday soon and I don't know what to get her. I was thinking of doing something based on our friendship to give her, but her other fr... (110 words)

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years now and it seems as though we hardly talk or see each other anymore.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years now and it seems as though we hardly talk or see each other anymore. He graduated from college last semester and I graduate next semester and he was just put in charge of ROTC at our school. I definitely understand how b... (168 words)

Artist block: how can I compromise?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - It's been a couple of months sense my boyfriend has moved in with me. He loves my art and I appreciate that very much, but if I don't draw for one day he'll get a little sad, well more like a pouty sad. Basically in my opinion he wants me to draw every single day. As an artist ... (200 words)

Holiday Options!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - I would appreciate some feedback on a problem my boyfriend and I have concerning holidays. We are both very mature adults with grown up children and I can't believe we can't sort this out ourselves. We have been toegether for 8 years but don't live together, we see each other ... (357 words)

Should I tell my sister that her husband made a move on me? If so, how?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - Yesterday, I was so tired and my sister and her hubby arrived to the hospital to see my step-dad. So my sister said, go home and rest. We'll stay here for couple of hours. So her hubby, hates the hospital and he offered to take me home. So i was like ok (even thou, i had my c... (500 words)

Will he ever commit or is this just for fun?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - How can you tell if a guy is scared of getting hurt or never has plans to take it to a serious commitment? Are there ways of making him make a decision like jealously or should you give him more time? I've given it 5 months and don't want to waste my time but I enjoy being with ... (87 words)

His family don't want him to be with me and are making our lives hell.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age - well I am back on here. I told you last week about my man and me. He is 69 years old and I am 65 years old and we have been dating 3 years and 10 months. His kids have never liked the idea of us dating. They want him 24/7 to meet their needs. Well we had a fight week ... (316 words)

Could I have given my boyfriend genital herpes?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Yesterday night I gave my boyfriend oral sex. I get coldsores, and he knows, and we never do oral sex whilst I've got one. But I woke up this morning, and I had the beginnings of one. I hadn't felt the tell tale tingling though. I'm really worried that I could've given him geni... (93 words)

She keeps popping into my life all the time, should I ask my mate's girlfriend to tell her I like her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - hi, I was meeting up with a girl a few months ago that had just broken up with her boyfriend. We really liked eachother but I could tell she wasn't over her boyfriend. Although I could tell she really liked me I could see that she would probably go back 2 her ex as he's h... (240 words)

Is it friends or something more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Theres a guy who I work with, he calls me and texts me every day, and we speak on the phone for hours. We went for lunch one day, and were going out again this week and he says he's gonna take me shopping for clothes and stuff. He's asked me things like 'what do I go for in a... (73 words)

I love my boyfriend but he takes drugs and I don't know what to do.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hey, I really don't know what to do :( for the last month or so I have been seeing a guy. But on weekends he takes cocaine with his friends, I totally disagree with any illegal drugs, so I had a go at him about it. Saturday night I was supposed to be seeing him but when I t... (194 words)

I'm starting to get headaches listening to my boyfriend's venting all the time.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I want so badly to hold things together with my boyfriend. Things HAVE been well lately, in fact, except that he's been having a terrible time at work and I'm starting to feel a bit psychologically bludgeoned as he goes on and on about all the things wrong about it: I totally ... (129 words)

I am having severe difficulties overlooking my girlfriend's past sex life!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 122 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I'm going to get strait to the point, I am having severe difficulties overlooking my gf's past sex life. She has told me that she slept with around 20 people, mostly within a couple of years. She has also told me some of the details to great extent: drugs, a... (925 words)

Don't want to lose new boyfriend over racist family and friends.. anyone else had this experience??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 324 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - hi ok my problem is I'm Irish and I've started seeing a Polish guy who's living in Ireland. We work together and get along really well and he's the first person I've had real feelings for since I split with my ex 2 years ago.. I've kept it quiet so far but we're starting to see ... (225 words)

I would like to have a relationship with her but I don't know where to start...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - I'm 15 and i'm a girl. I have never had a boyfriend before and it has never bothered me. I've had a few 'crushes' before but they have never meant much to me. I am now in my last year of high school, it was around last year i developed an attraction for one of my friends. P... (178 words)

Please help!! Does he need more time or does he not like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 362 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - We were friends with benefits for months but i couldnt handle just having a sexual relationship. I told him and he asked me to be his girlfriend. He even introduced me to his friends as his gf and we made plans that day. But then he broke them and said that now he feels ... (226 words)

Is she really stringing me along,what do you think?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - My ex wife, for the last five month's has been saying she still loves me and wants us. Last time she told me, she was trying to get to me, but her car tax has ran out, and hasnt got any money. I think now it is exscues she is just making, havent really got a clue where she is ... (242 words)

Single 18 year old girl, completely infatuated with 32 year old married man who feels the same...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 402 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I recently moved to a new town for college, and found a new job, etc. I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year because we were fighting a lot and he wouln't do anything with his life. Well, at my new job, I found that I felt attracted to an older man [he is 32, i am 18] I ... (566 words)

Help me understand how this is my fault! Why is she mad at me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - About a week ago my fiancé through tear filled eyes told me she had just tested positive for HPV and had to get a biopsy for cervical cancer. Turns out she had tested positive for it before we met, but it hadn't shown up on any tests for a while so she thought she was ... (459 words)

I do love him but should I stay with a man just because he is nice and doesn't abuse me? What about love and feeling wanted?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been married for 7 months now and been together with my husband for 2 years. I feel my marriage is very boring and I am missing and longing for more. I never got a real wedding proposal from him, we were sitting on our computers when he said.. will you marry me. No ... (257 words)

I'm 18, my family would be mad to know I am dating a man 22 years my senior! What to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 411 days ago

6 October 2008 (F) - I have a hugh problem i have been seeing this guy who is 22 years older than i am. im only 18 but i love him so much. we have been together 5 months but keeping it a bit of secret from my family. they would go mad if they found out i dunno what to do? ... (57 words)

I'm a very shy girl, need tips on first kissing!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 407 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - ok i have a boyfriend and he wants 2 kiss me and i want 2 kiss him but i dont know how 2 kiss someone on the lips so can someone plz help me!!!how long should the first kiss be(its only a lip kiss)? what do i do with my lips when they meet his? and should my hands be runn... (102 words)

Why couldn't he have just told me the truth?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - My boyfriend broke up with recently. The reason he gave me was that when he thinks back to his career he wouldn't have time for me and that he rushed into things. I told him how I felt and everything but he said his decision is final. It hurt me so much but then today I found ... (200 words)

Jerk or nerd - which do I choose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - ok here we go... well im 17 and leaving school soon. i have been going out with a guy in my school since i was in grade 9. but recently i have noticed my feelings for him arent that strong anymore. When we kiss i dont feel anything-at all. And iv'e realised he has been ac... (172 words)

She's a rape victim - how do I help her and get our sex life back on track?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend was raped when she was 14. She is 27 now and we have been dating for 2 years. Our sex life was wonderful until she bumped into the rapist at a bar almost a year ago. Since then we have made love 5 times and 4 times we stopped because she was so freaked out. I ... (216 words)

Do we have a future together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been dating my boyfriend for the last 8 months, he is a very good guy, he does everything to make me happy and the sex is honestly great, we both get along really well... At the beginning of our relationship we was living 2 hours apart, and as we are always very buss... (442 words)

How do I find a way to love my sister-in-law in an appropriate way?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 395 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - I am struggling with my relationship with my wife's sister. I have been with my wife for ten years. We are happily married, in that we love and support one another and are united in our goals and hopes. We have some minor disagreements and issues, but our marriage, I ... (619 words)

Does he have feelings for me that go beyond friendship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - My friend with benefits (that Ive been seeing for the past 9m) and I have become best friends and have told each other we love each other in the context of friends. From the start he said we could never be anything more than friends because i had thought i wanted kids and ... (330 words)

I'm pregnant - what would YOU do in my situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm pregnant by a married man who is going through a divorce.we are both in the army and he is deploying he thinks the best thing to do is abort the baby but I don't believe in abortion and want to keep it we both do in away. But he is worried about not being there for me and ... (92 words)

Should I pursue my profession or stay here?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 396 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - pls will anyone help me to enlighten my mind with the situation im into right now? im living with my boyfriend right now in an apartment, for the reason that my family hates me for loving him especially my father, because he wanted me to marry an american. We decided to live ... (290 words)

Why did he show he liked me so much?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hey ive wrote up here before you may rememebr me. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-so-confused-whether-he-likes-me.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-going-on-why-is-he-acting-this.html Anyway basics of that were that i fell in lvoe with a lad i thought he ... (677 words)

Should we let 'Max' back into our lives?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - My problem is that I “was” in love with my husband’s best friend Max, When I found out that Max had the same feeling for me things got really out of control, to make the story short we did sleep together once, when we realized that if we continued to be close it would end up ... (477 words)

Is it a crush or is it love? How should I know?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Sorry to sound so dumb, but how do I know if it's just a crush I'm having or if I've fallen out of love with my husband of 11 years and in love with someone else at work? ... (40 words)

My abusive ex says he has given up drugs and alcohol. Is it possible that he could change? Should I take him back?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 412 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I recently broke up with an abusive boyfriend. We have two children together and were together for 3 years. He had a drinking problem, and a problem with drugs while we were together. He says that he has given both of it up and that they both were the reasons for him abusing ... (94 words)

How do I stop peeing on him at night? It's embarrassing...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm having an odd problem. My fiance and I generally sleep in the nude. We're always very close and snuggled up, wrapped around one another. Thursday night, we were sleeping and I was having a bizarre dream that basically ended with me going to the restroom when it sort of hit ... (216 words)

My friends use and abuse me! How can I ask new friends to hang out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

- Ive come to the realisation lately that I need to make new friends. I have one friend who I would say isa true and great friend...but she lives in my hometown which is across the otherside of the country! My 'friends' that i have made where I live now arent very good ones. Th... (412 words)

What to do with an alcoholic boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 44 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I have been dating an alcoholic for the last 8 months. We live together and have the most wonderful relationship – apart from the alcohol. He is an alcoholic but not a drunk. his parents have put him in rehab and given him all sorts of help over the last 3 years, but he ... (186 words)

Do you think she's over him yet? How long does it take?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - After breaking up from a long term relationship, how long did you leave it before you started to see other people? A couple of years ago I really liked this young lady, but she had a partner at the time. She has recently broken up with him, about 2 weeks ago, and i'm currentl... (214 words)

Is it just porn or is it something worse?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 380 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - Why would a guy I date/live for 10+ years go to such huge lengths to cover-up looking at tame Internet porno? He has a whole separate browser on our computer and it is set-up to basically not leave any "tracks". He says it's just because he's embarrassed and he only looks at ... (207 words)

What will happen if the child is born?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi It has always been going good with my hubby who is polite and caring. Then there came another guy whom i have known for years and have real care and concern for him. There was no guilty feeling until i was roaming with him and buying things. now i am pregnant and i am afrai... (160 words)

My girlfriend denies me sex. She says she's a virgin but has also been a lesbian?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - My girl friend denies me of sex with her. She claims to be a virgin, only to find out she has been a lesbian. I am disappointed. What do I do?... (34 words)

How do I come out to my friends without losing them?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 407 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - hey, I am 15 year old gay boy, and I really want to come 'out' to y close friends. But I am worried that if I do I might loose them. I just not sure what to do. Can anyone help. Like how should I do it. Please!!!! ... (56 words)

How often do women think of their previous lovers? I'm worried she will compare me to her ex'es!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 413 days ago

6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - I have been dating a girl and we had sex for the first time the other day but I came really quick and I don't think she was satisfied. I was a virgin before that but she had slept with other guys. I just want to know, will she be comparing me with the other men she has had ... (86 words)

I have told him that him looking and chatting to other women upsets me but he carries on!

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I met my boyfriend online 10months ago and moved in with him 2 months ago. He looks at half naked women online and chats to them. Last month I found out that he had sent nude pics of himself to some of theses women and was asking them to send him pics of them, I confronted him ... (136 words)

Am I being stupid for giving up the girl I love because I want to explore myself first? I'm not ready to buy a house and have kids!

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - I started seeing my girlfriend about 3 and a half years ago. We met because we have the same hobbies, and always do things together. Within a few months of seeing each other, we went away together for 5 months on an extended holiday. This was made possible because we she was a ... (589 words)

I pushed himt o give me a second chance. Do you think it will work for us?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - This guy named Matt broke up with me like 2 or 3 days ago. Because I kept on saying that he doesnt like me and he flirted with other girls lots. I showed him a picture of me sliting my wrist, which I thought didn't really helped -- i wasn't that kind of person who would do ... (219 words)

I forgave my girlfriend after blatantly cheating on me several times, now I suspect she is still cheating / lying!

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - Last week my gf got home and text me "baby im home - come round now" - when i turned up she was in tears, i kind of knew what was coming next. I said wats up "im going to loose you" - me "why" - i new she had either been with somebody or slept with somebody else, So i said ... (433 words)

I cheated on my boyfriend with his best friend, now I keep thinking about this guy...

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - hi. i've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than 2 years, and things are just fine, we're kind of really serious, u know, but last month i cheated on him with his best friend : we were all at a party, that my boyfriend had to leave early, we (his best friend and ... (138 words)

I have gunky discharge and a lump on my vulva, I'm worried, what could this be?

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6 October 2008 (F)

- Help... I have like gunky discharge and a lump on the outside of my vagina, like a cyst (I think it's going gradually though). I keep getting thrush-like symptoms, but I'm worried it's something else like herpes :( xxx ... (43 words)

Does it hurt if a man gets an erection and is not relieved by ejaculation?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi. If a man gets an erection and it is not realieved by ejaculation. Does it hurt?... (17 words)

My abusive ex threatens to kill me and my current partner, should I go back to him?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Well hi there everybody well i am a mother of 3 kids 2 from my prevous marrage and my son is 4 years old; I am in this relationship now for 15 years we were engage about 5 months ago, i broke the engagement becouse I heard that my ex fiance was cheating on me when i was in ... (312 words)

Should I tell me teacher I love her before I move to a different campus?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - I've got one hell of a problem. Im only year eight and I'm head over heals in love with my maths teacher. She's just so amazing. She's gorgeous, she's got a great sense of style, she's such a woman, so intelligent, but such a little girl. In such a good way!! I dont kno... (255 words)

Get back ex - should I fly and try for the last time

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Please advice. He is a childish, sensitive, gentle, caring and affectionate man …Our long distance didn’t last for couple of weeks…communication has always been difficult as I am not good with long distance relationship… He and his ex have been together for 2 years before they ... (1188 words)

Something happened between me and a boy at college, I want to tell my boyfriend but I'm scared he'll finish with me.

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year now. I love him so much and I have been thinking about my future with him a lot. However, last night some stuff happened between me and a guy at college. I'm really confused and I don't really know why it happened... (100 words)

How do I go about asking her out or getting to know her better, or letting her know I like her?

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 13-15 - Well I'm a freshman in High school, and I'm kinda shy, when im talking to girls. I have never had a girlfriend before and that's what this question is mostly about. Well lately ive noticed a girl in my photo class. Shes cute, and kinda shy. The problem here is a couple of thing... (115 words)

I suffer from really bad anxiety attacks, can anyone help me???

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I am a 'survivor' I suppose you would say...but when do you stop trying and give up? Hope is all that has kept me going. I suffer from anxiety; have done for 20 years. This takes the form of panic attacks, sometimes agoraphobia. I have deep seated fears from childhood, that one... (387 words)

After having a baby, I find that I have lost interest in sex, and having intercourse causes me pain, why is that and what do I do to regain interest in sex?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I've been seing someone for almost 8 years now and things have been really great between us and we have a 2 year old daughter, but my problem started after I had a baby. I lost interest on everything especially when coming to satisfying my man in bed. Yesterday we had sex and ... (120 words)

I upset my pregnant wife and now she's staying at a hotel, how can I get her back?

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6 October 2008 (?) age 26-29 - My wife and I have been fighting mainly about money a lot lately. We had another fight, it got so bad. I yelled 'I WANT A DIVORCE'! I upset her so much she stayed at a hotel (she didn't tell me which one.) I honestly didn't mean it. She won't answer my calls. What sh... (74 words)

He said to me: "you know how chocolate is tempting but it is also bad for someone's health. I think of you as that."

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I dated a guy sometime last year, only for about three months. Then he had to go back to his home town. He did not call me for about three months. Then, one day he called me over the phone, telling me that he missed me and he compared me to a chocolate, He told me: you know ... (118 words)

I am in love with a younger guy, we got married, using a false age for him, if this is discovered, would the marriage be nullified and the guy punished?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - Dear Sir, I am in love with a boy who is younger to me. By manipulating the age certificate we got our marriage registered. If the actual date of birth of the boy is proved now can the registration become null and void? Is the boy who has manipulated his age liable for any ... (56 words)

Shall I give him time, or just move on?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I started a relationship earlier this year. Personally I went through a very bad marriage for a while and he went through a terrible relationship couple years ago. I got recovered from the divorce and slowly started dating and I met him. I had the best time since I ever had... (508 words)

How can I get along better with my girlfriend's friends?

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - Ive been going out with my girlfriend for about a year now and lately a problem has been happening more. I find that whenever my girlfriend would invite me out with her friend's she wouldn't really talk to me, especially when i don't really know the friends that well. I al... (589 words)

How can I be the one in control in this FWB type of relationship?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - It was suggested by a guy that I recently just met and hooked up with that we should continue to just meet casually and hook up. My question is, how can I do this and still have the upper hand on it? I don't want him to think that I'm available any time he is feeling horny and ... (96 words)

I have this habit of biting off tiny bits of skin on the inside of my mouth.

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - This will sound crazy and weird, but it's been like 2 years. I have this habit of biting off tiny bits of skin on the inside of my mouth. It's nothing big, and it won't get infected, but I'm scared that the next time I kiss a guy he'll notice my freakish mouth. I've been trying ... (86 words)

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while, but without having sex, she says she doesn't want to be end up like her mother, who did not attend college, married her dad, and are struggling now, is this just an excuse, not to have sex, or what?

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - Me and my girl have been dating for a while. I've given her oral but she's never for me. I don't expect her too though, I consider myself lucky that she even touches me. It's not that I'm bad looking it's just that she's so amazing. Anyway, the other day we were making out and ... (222 words)

I slept with friend's baby daddy, how wrong was this?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I slept with friend's baby daddy - it's been four years since they split and they both seen people since. My girlfriend and I weren't close when it happened, but she had briefly introduced us. Her and I became closer later then she found out. How wrong was this?? How bad ... (57 words)

Her Mom thinks I am too old too date her!

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - My girlfriend and I broke up recently, however we really want to get back together. I am 19 and she is 15 almost 16. Her mom thinks im too old and she wont let her date me again bc she thinks that was part of the reason why we broke up. We are madly in love but we cant date ... (76 words)

I just turned 30, but I look very much younger, so people think I am a "kid", I am attracted to an older man, maybe in his 40's, trouble is, I don't know how to approach him, what would be your advice?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - So I just reached the dreadful age of 30. I feel real weird because I know technically I have reached the age where I am supposed to be an adult. And granted I have the whole house/car/business thing so I am responsible in that end. But maturity wise I feel as young as I look ... (333 words)

How would I tell her that I want to start going further?

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Hi. Im a 15 year old boy and my girlfriend is 14(turning 15 in December). We've been dating for about 5 months now. We do i guess the regular dating activies like kissing and making out and stuff... but i kinda want to move a little bit further like touching her in certain ... (108 words)

Do I need parental consent to marry my boyfriend?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - can i get married to my boyfriend with out parental concent without getting pregnant? or do i have to be pregnant? help me i want to marry my boyfriend... (31 words)

I'm female and she's a married female. Is she into me?

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6 October 2008 (?)

- I am a middle aged female in love with another middle aged female. I told her my feelings went deeper for her than just friendship. She was very good about it but denied she felt the same way. She is married with no children at home. She tells me she is not happy with her ... (135 words)

If a girl says a guy is "so sweet," is this bad?

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, This girl that I like, but am confused whether or not she likes me back "in that way," said that I was "so sweet." After reviewing various websites, I am confused. Some say that a guy being called sweet by a girl is a bad thing. It means you're in the "friends zon... (92 words)

Did he force this angry argument so we would break up?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - If your boyfriend of 5 yrs screams in anger that he needs a break and you calmly say o.k. because you just have no more energy left and hang up and he hasn't called you back in over a day does that mean that he is done with the relationship (which was a pretty good one I ... (156 words)

Everytime I date someone, this feeling of 'she's not the one' is getting beyond my control.

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I was in a 2 year relationship which finished nine months ago. It was a very passionate relationship and we were deeply in love. The breakup was painful but I got through it after a couple of months and have been on the single scene ever since. My problem now is that ever... (207 words)

Would I still be considered a virgin...?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - This guy that i kinda like was over at my house and we were thinking about having sex, but when he started it hurt really bad, and after about a minute or two of trying i just couldnt handle the pain anymore, so i made him stop. Am i still considered a virgin?... (54 words)

Do you think I have a chance with my ex?

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6 October 2008 (M)

She loves alcohol the way she loves me.! She needs therapy far away but wants to be with me! Advice?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I know how this is going to sound. How many times have I heard that "She's different when we're alone!" and "I know it's bad, but I love her!" and "She'll change!" speech? I don't know, but here's mine. So, my girlfriend is a horrible alcoholic and recovering cocaine addict. ... (649 words)

I'm now doubting everything I thought I did know about sex. Any advice?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Hello, I'm 16. I'm a girl. I've been in a long term sexual relationship before with a boy equally as inexperienced as me, but I don't feel I've actually gained any sexual experience, as he was equally as clueless as me. I'm now with someone I really love... but I am rea... (163 words)

How can I best talk to my girlfriend about "oral"?

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - How can I bring up the topic of oral with my girlfriend. I've been touching her for months and she's started touching me lately. I just recently started giving her oral but she hasn't made any move to try it on me. I don't want to make it sound like I want it cause i don't want ... (91 words)

How would he afford these things on Military wages?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Alright here it goes, my boyfriend of a year and a half wants 2 go into the army, he told me that when he gets back from basic training he wants 2 get engaged, and i started thinking abt it. you dont get paid all too much during basic training, but what he wants 2 do for AIT ... (208 words)

I started giving her oral then realized I really had no idea what I was doing....please help.

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now. I've been touching her for well over a month and just a week ago she began touching me. I really have two problems here. For one, when she touches me it feels really good but I just can't seem to cum. I've tried look... (192 words)

Would these bad habits affect my baby if I'm pregnant?

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm only 18 years old, and I've been having unprotective sex for almost 3 months trying to get pregnant with my b/f. I used to smoke constantly for a couple months, a few months ago, then quit, but I smoked a couple cigarettes every now and then, and I drink a little a few nigh... (105 words)

I'm afraid of females, please help.

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6 October 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 34 year old man, i want to live with a honest female but i'm afraid of females, specialy sex relation, i can have sex but i never do. I can't make any girl friend because i'm afraid of females. Guide me that what i do? ... (49 words)

I really didn't mean to upset her.....

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6 October 2008 (?) age 26-29 - My wife and me have been fighting a lot lately. We had another fight, it got so bad. I yelled out 'I WANT A DIVORCE'! I upset her so much she stayed at a hotel (she didn't tell me which one.) I honestly didn't mean it. She won't answer my calls. What should I do? ... (58 words)

He doesn't want children and he believes marriage is a piece of paper but to me all those things are so important and that's the only way I believe my relationship can move forward.

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years it has been a long time coming and although im upset that it's ended I also feel relief. When we met we just clicked straight away and we both got on so well I thought this is the one and he is my soulmate (he also thought... (272 words)

Ring, or no ring, oddly I want the ring, help.

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6 October 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been in a relationship for 5 years with a degreed musician - we live together - which was not originally my idea. To keep it short, I am a lawyer (law professor) that does pay all the bills - in the past five years - he's probably contributed to a full 12 months of half ... (484 words)