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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why am I so scared to sleep with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi everyone, my problem is short and sweet..... basically I am not a virgin by any means, and have had sex MORE than enough with previous long term boyfriends. I've never been nervous in the bedroom, have always been very experimental, and had a great sex life... More rece... (116 words)

What are some good games to play with my boyfriend while we're making out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - What are some good games to play with my boyfriend while we're making out? I have a few but others would be appreciated :D ... (24 words)

Cramps and period pain...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Hey I have a question. So I'm kinda scared I might be pregnant. I havn't had my period yet this month I started on the 27th last month and the 28th the month before that they both lasted about 7 days. I've been cramping and my boobs hurt but they normaly do before my period. ... (99 words)

Should I shave in preparation for sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 325 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - So, me and my boyfriend are wanting to have sex sometime soon but I don't know if I should shave down there or not. Should I ask him or is it weird to ask your boyfriend something like that? Or do most guys like it shaved or just trimmed? Or leave it alone? I've been telling ... (104 words)

Sex and erectile problems.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - hi, I been having sex with this girl but one thing though, I enjoy giving her pleasure and stuff but I do have erection problems. How do I get it hard before I insert my penis inside her? Thanks ... (44 words)

I think my boyfriend is hiding something from me...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 315 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - I think my boyfriends hiding something from me cause he always recently takes off and leaves me home so he could go to the store or to work on his days off. Has he started an affair with someone?... (40 words)

Male Thong

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - I have been wearing a thong for the past 5 years and I find them very comfortable. I have many different colours. I am straight and have a girlfriend but she says only gays wear throngs and makes fun of me. Is it unnattural for a male to wear a thong.... (51 words)

Should I be worried about her mother catching us?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - hi Me and my girlfriend are both 15 and we were foreplaying in her bedroom, her mother stugled to get through the door however i though we were safe, until my girlfriend came back in after talking to her mother and her mother realised her bra was un done, my girlfriend didn'... (65 words)

Can a relationship survive if the girl can't spend the night?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Help! I'm 27 years old living under my parents roof. I was raised strictly.. parents always say 'Let a man show you respect.' They would just flip if I were to call them and say.. 'I'm sleeping over so and so's house.' The guys that I've dated are cool with it at first, but... (104 words)

Should we give it another go? We were almost caught!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Im 15 and me and my girlfriend had been together for four months and we had foreplayed with each other many times, not long ago we were in her front room with the front window open, we got down to skins and i got on top however i couldn't do it, we layed there for a while and ... (104 words)

He will not introduce me to his family.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 301 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been having a relationship with a man for 8 years. We do not live together although I would like to and asked him if he would buy a house with me. He replied that he will not buy a house with a woman again. I went ahead alone. I have two older children for a p... (297 words)

Should I have made a move when she kissed me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Hi Me and my girlfriend broke up because she thought i loved her to much? I ran 12 miles to hand her some flowers and to talk about it, however her sister took the flowers and she didn't want to speak to me. as i was running back she called me and wanted to speak, i came b... (125 words)

Will this argument have a negative effect on our relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - Hello aunts, uncles! My bf and i recently had a fight about my family and its really bothering me. 2 months back my dad found out that my bf sometimes comes over to visit me and he made it clear that he doesn't want to see him around his house... I told my bf and he understo... (473 words)

Do I stay with her or do I run?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 322 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - There's this amazing girl, mind blowing girl that I have fallen for. I was her first love and she was mine, without going into detail, she now has a boyfriend who she loves and I'm back out of the blue. She has admitted that she loves me and can't deal with me not being in ... (191 words)

Shall I find a hotel so we could be together?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Hi there, I'm 16 and I truly love this girl, she lives 3 hours away from were I live, however she lives close to my college. I sometimes go round hers now and then, we have made love many a times. I want to take the next step. What shall I do? Shall I find a hotel so we ... (68 words)

Bisexual husband?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 248 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all Let me give you a short background first...married 13 years with 2 kids. I am bi myself,came out about 6 years ago. When I came out he was there as I said it outloud to both of us, and we came to an understanding I would not explore or experiment without him ther... (491 words)

I really don't want to leave him, but I just don't know what to do when he is like this.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - My boyfriend has been acting really weird with me lately. He didn't talk to me for a full day, when i asked him why he said its because he didnt have any texts left (fair enough) but he could have rang me. I told him this and he said 'i love you can i see you later?' i said yes ... (231 words)

I am afraid I have ruined my marriage with this affair, what to do?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 324 days ago

29 December 2008 (?) age 30-35 - Hello Cupids I apologize in advance as this may get a bit long, and any advice is welcome so please do reply if you have any thoughts. I will try to keep it clear and organized but my head is a mess so sorry if this story seems messy too. I am a 30-year old woman in a crap... (1390 words)

She has been cutting me off from everyone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - hey, well as it is coming to the end of 2008, i have been thinking back, and someone asked me 'who is the best new person you have met this year?' and then it hit me. i have met no one new, let alone the best one. and i have lost alot of people, and i think i know the cause of ... (183 words)

Should I contact her or is this a lost cause?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, 3 months ago I left my girlfriend of 16 months, now I think maybe I made a huge mistake. I thought maybe she had fallen out of love with me. For one thing, she works with an ex-boyfriend who is also her best friend. They go out of town together a lot for work, overni... (590 words)

We've kissed and he has a girfriend...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 323 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been working with someone for about 6months now, we get one really well, always laughing and have a weird connection, like we've known each other for years. He recently told me that he likes me, but he has a live in girlfriend of 12yrs. He is 40 and I am 28, the problem ... (368 words)

Am I wasting time waiting for him? He was unfaithful.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my boyfriend were going through a hard time recently, (all down to him being unfaithfull last year)i dont always bring it up but there are times when it gets to me and i do make references about it. over the phone we had a discussion, mainly me saying that if his heart ... (232 words)

How can I be more confident sexually?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I have been seeing this amazing guy for about six months, he has been great with me but says he wishes I was more forward in makin moves, I have always let him do the work, lack of confidence I suppose, he wants me to go on top, how can I become more confident. He also wants me ... (78 words)

Am I destined for permanent fuck buddy status?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 276 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm 23 years old and I have had literally enough boyfriends to equal my age. Its really depressing because no matter who I date (older or yonger, race, religion, whatever)every guy I've ever dated only looks at me as a fuck buddy. I recently fell for someone who lives in Color... (253 words)

How do I become more relaxed around guys?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I need some advice on how to become more relaxed around guys, to cut a long story short I am 24 year old female who has never been near the opposite sex (like I say long story), I have recently been flirting with this guy but I know that I am to scared to do anything, any ... (65 words)

Is my need for attention driving him away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - On saturday, my boyfriend and i had plans to go to the movies. We were walking around the mall, then went to look at movie times. There were 2 showings, 7:15 and 9. It was already 7, so i suggested 9 so that we could eat first. He said we could just get food and bring it up to ... (664 words)

What do guys consider 'old fashioned'?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, I'm getting to know this guy..just phone talk for now. He asks "Are you an old fashioned girl?" What do guys consider old fashioned..? I said, "No, I'm not." It's true. Then, his response was "Ok, I was just making sure, otherwise, we wouldn't be a perfect match." ... (68 words)

How long do you have to pray to find God?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 322 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - What's the longest time somebody has prayed to find God? What if someone gave up 3 seconds before God was to answer his prayers? Would he be a fool?... (31 words)

Kissing age?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - just looking for others outlooks but does anyone think 16 is too young to be making out with a boyfriend of six months? ... (23 words)

How do I rid the lust from my eyes?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - How do I get rid of lust out of my eyes. I remember back to my marriage and lust wasn't in my eyes. After my divorce (she had an affair). Lust entered my eyes. During the rest of my marriage my eyes roved. I never acted on this. My wife had a second affair and our marriage ... (104 words)

Why do I get so jealous when he visits his mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Why is that i get so jealous even when he is visiting his own mother? We have been dating for 7 months now and he happens to be devoiced and he is 12 older then me. Can it be that im afraid he might run into his ex wife, even if she is not in the country, or dont i have enough ... (186 words)

Is this all there is to marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 324 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my husband for 12 years and am seriously considering leaving him. He loves me but everything I ever do seems to irritate him. We don't make love - we have sex once a month and it's hideous. We don't have a lot to talk about and so end up drinking all the... (142 words)

Am I causing myself a lot of harm?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, i hope i can get some advice. I dont drink as much fluid as i should...some days i havea glass of ice tea and thats it. I dont ever feel thirsty. I sometimes have to force myself to drink.Am i causing myself alot of harm??? My colleagues go through at least 4 cups ... (86 words)

Can things work the second time around?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been getting very close to a lady who was on the verge of divorce, but her husband has manipulated her to go back together, they did seperate for months, he was gambling and drinking, but it does look as if they are back together, they were walking down the street ... (149 words)

My ex is texting me and being a real jerk

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm really lost right now. Okay so me and my ex have been textin since xmas eve, he was soo nice and so sweet the first few days then things started to go down hill. He wouldnt call when I asked him eventhough he promised he would. I could understand once or twice but every ti... (301 words)

My guy and his best female friend have weird relationship

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I have been dating this guy for two months and one of his best friends is a girl. I know her and she is nice to me but there is something i cant really put my finger on it but something weird about their relationship. She has a husband and a child but she is only 20 years old ... (281 words)

Does this mean he has no intentions of leaving his wife?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - If you are dating a married man, and you ask him to tell his wife it's over as he wants to be with you, and he says, there is no point she already knows ! Is the lying cheating scumbag just using it as an excuse not to do the deed? In other words he has no intentions of ev... (69 words)

Does my ex still like me...?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 277 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - On Christmas Eve I was driving back home and saw an ex getting out of his car near my local supermarket (I'd not seen him for 5 months). We both waved and I must admit I got a few butterflies in my tummy because I still hold a torch for him even though I ended things in the ... (202 words)

Anyone know what this ache could be?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

- Hi All, this isnt a relationship question. Before i went to bed last night, I had a dull ache in my stomach area, below ribacage and above belly button. It didnt hurt, just an ache, it sort of felt like i was really really hungry, but I wasnt. It was fine when I got up, b... (104 words)

I'm having such a difficult dating..need some advice!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 259 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - This is a long post and I don't have a specific question really - I am just unsure of what to do. I have never had a boyfriend or dated; I rarely am approached by guys. I'm a great person but I just don't have the "it" that attracts men. I never dated in high school but I... (317 words)

Problems with my son's anger

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (?) age 26-29 - Im a single mum with 2 kids (a 2 year son and 9 month daughter). Since my ex husband and me got a divorce last year he hasnt seen our kids in a whole year. I keep making plans with him to see our son (our daughter is quite a handful) but then he makes the dumbest excuse like ... (143 words)

Can anyone shed light on the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome that some men suffer?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Can anyone shed light on the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome that some men (as I am a woman, otherwise I am sure women do this too) suffer? It has been destroying my relationship. I am ready to walk out the door when he's verbally abusive (worst I have ever felt) but I get sucked ... (69 words)

Pregnant? Could I be?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 320 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - let get to the point. i jerked him off, he cummed, he washed his hands, then fingered me. am i pregnant???... (24 words)

Lost interest?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - hey guys this may seem a really weird question or problem but recently my boyfriend and i seem alil off with each... in the sence that previously we would have sex like 3 or 4 times in one night and now it just seems that after one round he just goes sleep afterwards.. this is ... (88 words)

Do divorced people get back together after one has had an affair?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 237 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

- My husband left 6 wks ago to be with his lover,now bear with me as this is confusing and long please. he had been seeing her over the past year or so( we were married 12yrs nad have 2 kids).after 4wks apart i filed for divorce.i began to get my life and that of our kids on ... (293 words)

Is it too much money for a present?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - hey guys do you think that spending £350 on a birthday present for your boyfriend is too much... ive been with him for a year now... he really wants a tv so i said i would buy it for him... he feels obligated but doesnt really insist that i doont buy it... do you think its too ... (58 words)

Shes mad and not speaking to me because she couldn't get in the club

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - ive been best mates with a girl for 5 years recently on a night out she didnt get into the club i got in and bouncer wudnt let anymore people in. i tried everything to speak to bouncer to get her in.. now shes annoyed with me and putting me on a guilt trip saying i should ... (115 words)

How do I let people know I'm gay

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - hello you guys well next year am gonna b a senior so am looking foward to going to the US to study my career and there are two reasons i wanna leave my country, one is to get a better euducation and the other is to b finally able to introduce myself as a gay person and not p... (99 words)

Why do I have to be the man in the relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hello, this is my first question here. I've been in a relationship for almost 4 months now. Before this guy became my boyfriend, he was a very close friend for years. I liked him for over a year, and thought he was giving me signals that he liked me too. So I finally to... (329 words)

Have sex? Or wait?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 306 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Hey Everyone, sorry for the lenqth in advance. But I'm a fifteen year old qirl and I've been datinq my boyfriend for three months. We are very much in love with eachother. For the past couple of days I've really been thinkinq about sex. I've been ready to have it for a... (335 words)

Playing with each other in school

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 326 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Hi I do alot with my girlfriend, im 15 and i finger my girlfriend under the desk at school, she has never said anything about it she just flows with it, sometimes she wanks me in class too, is this ok? should i be worried about being caught? Or would it be ok to find a close... (61 words)

Do I tell my b/f I was raped years ago?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 320 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - (i'm 14)ive been going out with this guy for a year now and nothing's was wrong hes one of my best friends as well as my bf but hes started saying im going to dump him cause i keep getting really angry at him but im not i really like him the reason i keep getting angry is cause ... (258 words)

I'm 15 and fancy an 11 year old!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - My question is . . . I am 15 years old and there is this young girl who is 11 years old, she fancies me. I think she is really attractive! Her mum is also my mums friend. I want to get with her but im afraid she will tell her mum then it will be passed on to my own mum.... (71 words)

Chance it? Or play it safe?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 217 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - (igore the age im 14)i fancy this guy hes also one of my best friends i've fancied him for almost 5 years and we've been friends for two hes gone out with most of our other friends but never me. i didn't think he fancied me until a couple of months ago now he texts me over 50 ... (140 words)

My guys is always going back to his ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. our relationship is good except for one part. he has an ex wife who is the mother of his children who he has custody of. now, they have been divorced for 4 years, but he always end up going back to her. he and i split up in ... (150 words)

Bleed every time after sex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 322 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - i have been in a relationship with the same lad for about 4 years now and just recently i start to bleed everytime we have sex! i dont bleed when he fingers me but only when we have sex and it doesnt hurt much ether. i have nether slept with no1 else and netha has he everytime ... (92 words)

Always falling for the wrong guy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I've been talking with my friends about one problem, but we didn't come to any specific conclusions. So now I'd love to see your opinions about that. So here's my question. We were wondering why we often fell in love with a wrong person. For example, you're single and quite pr... (309 words)

Pain after losing virginity?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Is it normal to still feel pain even thoug i've lost my virginity? I my virginity in feb, but broke up with the guy soon after,we only had sex twice, and now me and my new boyfriend have got to the stage of wanting to have sex, but it is still really quite painful for me. ... (121 words)

I'd like my dad to meet my boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - Hey. Ok I might as well tell you a little bit about myself and my situation first. Well, I'm 13 years old first of all however i'll be turning 14 in march of 2009. I don't need you to tell me i'm to young to know what love is. Because thats obviously not true... Well anyways I ... (239 words)

Shaving pubic area

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - Ok well im only thirteen and like any young girl i have pubic hair. Many girls in my school have attempted to shave their pubic hair and naturally it itches and whatnot. I was curious as to if there was any way you could get rid of your pubic hair without that happening. ... (61 words)

I've lost my trust in him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Hi Aunts. Me and my boyfriend got into a big fight this weekend. A long time ago, we both had a mutual friend(who is a girl, it's his ex girlfriend from when he was younger and still stayed friends) but we had a falling out and stopped speaking to her. He knows I don't li... (313 words)

At the moment I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown and don't know what to do.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 206 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 51-59 - I left my wife in july this year because of mental and psyical abuse, she would take pain pills and drink wine and get drunk and put me through all this bitterness and ridicule i would drink with her and made her worse so diecieded to stop drinking and i did for a year and it ... (202 words)

How do I tell my dad my crush has asked me out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - Okay im a 14 year old girl and my crush asked be out two days ago. Were together now. I don't know how to tell my dad about it ( I would rather tell him than my mom). I think he would be alright with it but im really nervous. How should i tell him that im dating?... (61 words)

I want him to leave my house and he won't!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I am ending a 16 month relationship due to his disloyalty and lying. He currently lives with me in a home I own. I want him to leave and he won't! I have confronted him with his lies and cheating and he seems to be in complete denial about all of it! He blames everyone else ... (143 words)

Arranged marriage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 303 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Cut a long story short, i had arranged marriage, i agreed to it, i'm happy, etc..... n i've gotten to know my partner betta he'z great i've fallen 4 him etc.. etc.... Love him 2 bits but i'm not ready for sex yet, yes i havent done it yet, and just to add haven't kissed anyone ... (164 words)

I find it very difficult to trust my husband...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - I have been married for more than 6 years now with 2 beautiful children. my problem can be summed up by one word: trust. i mean i cannot trust my husband not telling his parents or even sister the details of our lives, our plans.... you name it. i don't know how to deal with ... (115 words)

Can we ever be equal?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Can we ever be equal? in the beginning of our relationship me and my boyfriend had an argument and he said we were over because i was having a few drinks with my ex and our mayte, just as friends, my mayte went home because she lived around the corner from me and my ex was s... (514 words)

How do you deal with a difficult parent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - First off I really know the answer to all my problems: MOVE OUT. Later on in this letter you'll find out why I haven't yet, but I suppose I just want to share my thoughts with people who perhaps have the same problem and to find out their opinions about my situation and the ... (771 words)

What's my sexual orientation? Am I gay?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - ok, so since last year i met this chick who is like around her 20s and we 've been talking on msn ever since. but a few months when i first met her, i noticed tat i wait for her to come online and when she does, sometimes she doesnt talk to me so i get really angry. I realize ... (130 words)

I was just wondering how reliable the withdrawal method is?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 327 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - My fiance and I have been together for 3 years and are getting married in March. We recently switched to the withdrawal method of birth control (before that I was on the depo shot). I was just wondering how reliable the withdrawal method is? Has anyone gotten pregnant while ... (144 words)

We love each other but she wants a break! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been seen this girl (I am white she is nigerian), for a year now and we grew to love each other, I gave her everything and we joked together and the sex was amazing. I live with my parent at 29 (i know it sux but property in ireland is very expensive) and I would visi... (330 words)

What a complete mix up!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, I have just recently left a relationship, the second time round. I actually left on Christmas Eve. To cut a long story short, three years ago i was in a relationship with my partner for 9 years (gay relationship) and it ended when i met my new partner (now my ex!). We both ... (284 words)

One boy always on my mind...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - I fancy this boy and I think he fancies me and I am meeting him on Saturday at a football game. I really want to kiss him, shall I ask him if he will kiss me or just wait? Please help anyone please x... (46 words)

Is masturbation bad for your health?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 328 days ago

29 December 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - What is the average amount of ejaculation.. Is it bad for my health if I do this a lot?... (20 words)

Am I stupid to keep giving him money I don't have?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi, I am a 47 year old man who has just met a 25 year old man on a sex web site. The problem is I have just admitted to him that I am gay and no one else knows apart from him. He is also gay and a very understanding man. He is a student in another country so I am sure he only ... (233 words)

First timer... Does it really hurt?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - So I'm meeting this guy next week and planning to have sex.. It's my first time but I think I'm ready.. I'm turning 18 so there's no problem.. The question is does it really hurt on first time?... (40 words)

Whenever we're socialising my girlfriend always takes photos of other guys' legs and it's started worrying me!

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - I'm Steve, 23 years old from South Yorkshire and my girlfriend is 22 and lives in nearby Nottinghamshire. Whenever we're socialising she always takes photos of other guys' legs and it's started worrying me - not in a jealous way, but rather about the consequences of ... (217 words)

What can I do to make our sex life better?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Me and my boyfriend are together for 1 year and 6 months and we had great sex in the beginning but nowadays he tells me that I don't participate in the times when we have sex..... Can you please tell me what I can do before it's too late and before I lose him? ... (56 words)

She is so shy so how can I tell if she likes me?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 16-17 - Hello, ok I'll explain my situation, there's this girl I know, she's really cute and well she's fun to talk to, and I don't know how to tell if she likes me because, she's painfully shy, the only guy I KNOW she thinks is cute is Edward Mccullen. Well she's usually painfully ... (96 words)

Am I overreacting!! Help please!!

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - I just dont know where to start!! I am going insane lately and dont know if its me or what? I dont even know why I am doing this but I need some views!! I met this guy last year over the net was a tad dubious at the start as there is a 22 year age gap between us, I am 25 and ... (380 words)

My boyfriend says I just lay there during sex

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - me and my boyfriend are together for 1year and 6months now. when we have sex i dont know how too participate with him, and he told me that the fact that i just lay there and dont do anything back makes him feel that he is having sex on his own. Please can you tell me what to do ... (88 words)

Difficult family situation

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - I hate my relationship with my daddy. he isn't the way he used to be. and he won't ever be the was he was again. about 8 yrs ago he hurt his back. he used to surf and play tennis and swim with my brother and I all the time. now he can barely make it into work because his neck ... (271 words)

My wife can't understand why I went to that club, now our relationship is going downhill.

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi All, I wonder if you can help me with an issue I currently have. My wife and I live in England and married in April 08 after 6 years together (4 of these years we lived together). It was the first marriage for either of us. I was 38 and my wife 37 when we married. I love ... (816 words)

How do I go on? Do I continue to date him? Do I end it? What do I do next time he phones?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I am in a VERY CONFUSING situation right now with an incident that happened recently. I have been seeing this guy for about 3 months, we have been on about 10 dates but never declared ourselves exclusive or anything. I've had sex with him 6 times and then last week we went on ... (1110 words)

Lately, we don't have sex and she gets upset every time I ask her why! What am I doing wrong?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I have been together for almost four months now. Since I saw her I liked her a lot, she is most definitely my kind of girl. She is 37 years old I'm 33. Both of us work full time jobs and barely see each other... Lately, we dont' have sex anymore. When I ... (233 words)

I'm a loyal, helping, trustworthy person but my girlfriends don't appreciate this, why does this happen?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone, I would really appreciate your HONEST opinion about something that's been plagueing me for many years now. I really would like to know why this continues happening to me time and time again. A shy, quiet girl at school who was sensitive to critism.. I... (963 words)

My question is what can I do to GET OVER HIM!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, so I'm sitting here trying to figure out how to get over this crush with a guy I barely know. I mean, I know him because we attended grammar school together but that was so long ago! We came across each other online recently but it hasn't gone further than us catching up. ... (213 words)

What if he cheated on me while I was out of town?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm 18 and deeply in love with this guy we live together and everything but 3 weeks ago we had alittle fight so i went to kentucky to visit my dad i come home and we are still together and in love but this girl text his phone asking him if he wanted to hang out of course i ... (206 words)

I just want my normal family life again. You think that is possible?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I could really be doing with some help at the minute. This isnt the first time ive posted on here and this is the same problem. My husband and i were going through a difficult time which i can now see improving, the problem is that while we were going through this bad time i ... (237 words)

He talks about having sex with me. Is that all he wants?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - dumped my ex because I wanted things my way and got angry when he didn't do what l wanted. l realized my mistake and apologized.I told him l wanted him back.he told me he had moved on and is now dating an ex of his-said I am the one who pushed him he is saying l can be his sec... (94 words)

I'm only with him because I'm scared to be alone after all this time.

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29 December 2008 (F) age 26-29 - hi all, I really need some help. i've been in my relationship for 5 years but i've begun feeling differently about my bf. Lately I feel like we are not as connected as we used to be. I used to believe that my bf was the perfect person for me, and he is my first and only r... (305 words)

Recently I have not been able to have an orgasm during sex.

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Recently I have not been able to have an orgasm during sex. The person I have been sleeping with has been the same for 2.5 years but about 2 months ago I stopped being able to have an orgasm during sex. Just recently I have not even be able to do it to myself. I am really ... (77 words)

Too much porn, not enough sex?!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - My bf and I have been together for almost 6 years. He's always liked porn (a lot) and watch it every chance he gets. However, we have sex like once a week, but he watches porn almost every other day or every three days by himself(that's if I leave the apt. to run an errand or ... (116 words)

How do I talk to him about the empty pack of condoms and Viagra I found in his drawer?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - Please help, i found an empty box of ribbed condoms and some viagra on my bf's drawer while i was looking for a dvd he said he has put there. The thing is we don't/NEVER use ribbed condoms and we didn't use them so i don't understand why the box is empty, as for the viagra, we ... (311 words)

Does masturbating effect your period and should I be getting sore after?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - I enjoy masturbating. I am a 13 year old girl. I want to know if this is normal for girl my age. I have been doing this for about 3-4 years. I want to know if there is a way to stop. I have tried many times, but it is almost addicting. I am not a bad kid or anything, and I have ... (125 words)

Blood spots... should we be concerned about pregnancy?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - Hey guys, So me and my girl friend had Safe sex but the condom broke.. Although i did not come inside her but i have her the MORNING EMERGENCY PILL within 24 hours.. She had a complete 5 day normal period this month. She had gone for tracking last week.. She told me th... (128 words)

Is he in love with me or in love with skiing??

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - My bf and I are trying to develop more common interests. He used to ski. I used to snowboard. We are very busy w/our respective lives at college and don't have much time to go out. I found out that he asked his parents for skiis for a gift which is cool. I am just ... (213 words)

Should I let my wife be impregnated by my best friend?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - I'm totally in love with my girlfriend for about 5 years! I love her and I always have all these years! She is a really sexy girl! very fair skin and blue eyes! However, she is a very sexual driven girl but yet very conservative. She wants to have a baby with me so bad and so ... (214 words)

Now that he's not my teacher can I tell him that I love him?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - The man I love is 10 years older then me. He was my karate teacher. Now that he's not my teacher can I tell him that I love him? I'm still not sure if he loves me though. He asks my mom about me and calls me beautiful but I don't know if he is doing it because he loves me or ... (74 words)

I am drawn to this man but the age gap scares me, what to do?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm torn. I met a 22-year-old man on a plane this past weekend. We really hit it off and had a lot in common. When we got off in LA, he asked for my number, saying he'd like to take me out to dinner. I told him it would easier for me to reach him, so he gave me his cell numb... (164 words)

He broke up with me... I wanted to fix things... what to do?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - So my boyfriend just broke up with me. I thought everything was fine...we have been dating for 28 days now. He asked me out on Dec. 1st and after a bit of him persuading me (saying "I will never hurt you, and I will never make you cry, you have been hurt enough.) So I said alr... (675 words)

Work romance - how do I know if he cares?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, I am at a cross roads in my relationship and I need some advice. I have been in a secret work relationship for a few months now. The relationship started off as not being very serious, we both agreed that we would hangout and talk but keep it causal. We work ... (434 words)

So, I guess I should just leave him alone if I don't see a future for us?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - I met this guy a month ago, and we have been dating. He is very nice to me and all of my friends and he does whatever we are doing, no matter how silly it is. I can see he wants to make me happy, and he just plain likes spending time with me (whether we are doing something i ... (248 words)

Where do you think our relationship is going?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, need some thoughts on this matter. After a period of being single, I finally met P, a friend of friends and we've been together for 1month+. We are similar in age (28), interests, share the same friends and he treats me very well. I've met most of his friends and part of ... (260 words)

Desperate for help: crippling trust and jealousy issues!

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - Im fifteen and I have crippling trust and jealousy issues. My gf of five months is very devoted. But I cant help but feel uncontrollable jealousy over small things and worry over things that havent even happened. I actually have times where Im daydreaming and I think about us ... (191 words)

I was more like a free shrink to her than a boyfriend...

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - I was friends with this girl for over 8 months and then we both started developing feelings for each other. She told me first that she likes me and we became closer. After 2 weeks she told me that she doesn't feel the same without giving any reason and ended it. I was very ... (534 words)

I have to choose between two guys!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - Hello, I need some help and advice. I have to decide between two men and I just dont know what to do. One is my ex. We dated for almost a year, and I know that is a short time but we had chemistry and nobody like him ever made me feel like that. He was special to me, he r... (300 words)

Was this attempted rape?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - My boyfriend knows I want to stay a virgin till im married....but last night we did a lot...and normally we do that dry humping thing..well this time I had no clothes on and he had his boxers on...well I felt his hands down there and I didnt know what he was doing because ... (284 words)

Is this abuse?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I really hate being tickled...and I go into asthma attacks when someone tickles me really hard. Well my boyfriend sat on my chest yesterday so that I could not move...and he kept tickling me. I think he did it for about 5 minuets or more. My face was all red, I was cou... (126 words)

Is he just making up this other girl to hurt me?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - Is he lying? I have been on and off with this guy for a while because he keeps hurting me so much. The most recent time he lied to me so i can't trust him anymore. I didn't want him back after I broke up with him, but didn't understand why he wasn't begging for me back since he ... (240 words)

Just how important is sex in a relationship?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm a virgin. My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a year. Why on and off you ask, or maybe you don't, but I will briefly explain why. He had feelings for me for 9 months and I told him I wasn't ready for a relationship, but as soon as he started seeing someone ... (491 words)

Could this be true love?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 22-25 - My question is can a month long relationship in junior high REALLY be a person's first TRUE love. My gf and I wre talking and she says a guy she dated then was her first TRUE love but I dont think a month can constitute that. I sorta believe that instead of it really being her ... (122 words)

I want him back but how?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Okay so my problem is I am still in love with my ex boyfriend even though our breakup was almost 2 years ago, and I really want him back! He's the only guy I ever had real feelings for. In elementary school we used to be BEST FRIENDS but I always had a crush on him. Then as ... (205 words)

Did he lose service or something? He hasn't texted me all day!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - My boyfriend hasn't texted me for a day. It's really annoying I only texted him twice yesterday and then I was like w/e but, it's really annoying. I'm away in Colordao and I know he likes me alot he tells people and we've been going out for 3 weeks and 2 days. Whats the deal. ... (143 words)

How can I move on when I'm hurting so much?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - Oh why did I have to go and fall in love with him, i'm so stupid I promised myself I would never let myself fall so deep for another again, I promised myself that I wouldn't open my heart to him not until I was one hundred percent sure that he was worth it. I'm so angry w... (204 words)

Can father's drug use have effect on unborn baby?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 3 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend and i have been trying for months, but when i told him the news, he confessed that he had been using angel dust, cocaine, and marijuana on and off four months ago.... he is clean now- i had him take an at home test, but now my concern ... (87 words)

Parents will not approve of us living together

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm 18 and I want to move in with my 19 year old boyfriend but I know my parents will reject the idea. we've been knowing each other for quite a while and we get along just fine. we want to be close to each other while attending college and get a home cook meal everyday. we not ... (100 words)

Good oral sex instructions!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - How do i give GOOD oral sex becouse im finding its taking a good while for him to come...so im wondering is there something im doing wrong or something im not doing?! be as discriptive as you like i just need to know how to make it good for him!?... (50 words)

Where can I get a guy to respect me and not just want sex

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm 17, and have a 3 1/2 month old baby girl. her father isnt around and hasnt been since the day i found out i was pregnant... i really wnat to get into a relationship, because it has been so long since i had someone to care about me, and someone to hold me when i am down, but ... (147 words)

We made a deal and he hasn't sent me what he promised

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I've been dating this guy for about 6 months (long distance). he wanted me to help him get a play station 3 that he's been crying about for the longest. at first I didn't want to do it until he agreed that if I help him he would send me a pair shoes that I've been wanting. so ... (98 words)

I don't know if I'm ready!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Well, I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 14. We've been dating for about 2 months now and we had our first kiss about 2 weeks ago. I Love him and I think he's the perfect boyfriend. I just spent time with him yesterday and we made out for a couple hours. He tried to take my pants off ... (196 words)

Small lies, but he lies alot!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I am a freshman in college and I have been knowing this boy since I was a sophmore in high school. he always wanted to be my boyfriend but always turned him down. now I like him and we are currently in a relationship. he asks me to come stay with him but I become hesitant ... (103 words)

Why do we stare at each other

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Hi, i have a male friend who i talk to everyday on msn, however we do not live near each other. we can talk for hours on end whether it is a video call, by phone or just via msn. We use our cam's a lot wen on msn and recently we just stop talking and sit staring at each other. ... (74 words)

They say I'm hot but I still feel insecure

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I am 19 years old, about 5'6", I weigh (roughly) around 110 pounds, and I have a size 32D bust. I went from being that "ugly girl" to a "hot girl" (I was teased A LOT as a kid because of my teeth and how long it took me to develop). Here's my problem: Even though I do get ... (380 words)

Breakup--he's hurt I don't feel anything

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I recently broke up with my boyfriend if 8 months, i know not very long, but still. Great sex life haha. That being the only thing i'll miss. Because when i broke up with him i felt nothing. Not one thing, no guilt, no remorse.. nothing. He asked why and i said i don't know. I ... (100 words)

He won't go out with me because our brother & sister are dating each other!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - i have a really good friend and he is a boy. he says he really likes me ... and i really like him.. but he wont go out with me because his brother and my sister are going out .. i cant get over him because i have liked him for 3/4 years. what should i do?... (61 words)

Family making comments about boyfriend

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - My bf of nearly 6 years and I had a rough patch last fall and we split for a very short time. We have worked hard to get things back on track and I think we are doing well. It is awkward around our families and it feels a little like everyone has us under a microscope. After ... (345 words)

He keeps saying would you do me?!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 13-15 - right.. i have some friends and they have a brother and he keeps flirting with me and when we talk he asks me things like "would you do me?" and i don't know what to do, because i am only 13 and he is 16. he keeps asking me the same question. and he says it would be secret..... (65 words)

I'm still in love with first love from 1967

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, my question is that I am 50 plus years old woman. I am married by husband had a stoke recently, which was kinda of severe. I reasonly reconnected to the first love of my life. I want to know how can someone still have feelings for someone over so many years has passed. ... (138 words)

I give but he doesn't return the favor!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - ok. so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. i give oral to him almost every day. i enjoy it. although sometimes he asks too much because i dont want to, and he just guilt trips me into doing it. but i just want something in return. he has never told me that he ... (198 words)

We don't want this kid!

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - I'm 19, a freshman in college and I'm five weeks pregnant. I know who the father is because he's the only one I've ever had sex with (he's 18 and still in high school), but I honestly don't want this kid and I definitely know he wouldn't, either. He doesn't know I'm pregnant, ... (89 words)

Normal behavior for straight guys?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - Is it normal to wank with your bestfriends, touchin each other penises but no suckin or fucking because were all straight guys... Do straight guys do this to?... (32 words)

Do I love him?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - hi iam 18 and bin with my bf for 7 months ago its goin great but when we have these little arugements i use to get upset but the other day we had a silly roul n i didnt get upset he loves me to bits but sometimes i think to my self do i love him ?? when i am with him i think ... (91 words)

Do opposite really attracts?

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29 December 2008 (M)

age 18-21 - I've been chatting with this guy (I'm also a guy) through yahoo and SMS for 5 days now and I must say that it's love at first sight..he's my ideal man..where both bi guys and both not out to anyone and never will.. I haven't met him yet but plannin to see each other next wee... (169 words)

Help, I've ruined my relationship.

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 22-25 - HI there. I am in desperate need of advice; I have had an amazing relationship with my boyfriend who I consider my best friend, and my lover, for two and a half years; but now it has gone really astray. In the past 2 years I've suffered from panic attacks and anxiety, as well... (583 words)

I am worried about my brother and think he's moving too fast.

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 18-21 - ok, so i need some help on this... my little brother is dating my bff and has been for 3 months now, and im pretty kewl with it, they are very happy and are cute together... the thing that bothers me is that, they have been getting very sexual and it really bugs me... my br... (194 words)

Would it work better if we didn't use a condom?

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29 December 2008 (F)

age 16-17 - Hi this is gonna sound so stupid but me and my boyfriend tried 2 have sex and couldn't.... it wouldn't go in and he was wearing a condom. Now he thinks there's something wrong with him and I don't know what to do.... Would it work better if we didn't use a condom?... (54 words)